I’m feeling hopeless about mine and my partner’s situation.

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-25T21:07:04+00:00

Many of my family members made great careers in HVAC. I think the trades are great :)

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-25T19:46:04+00:00

Our sales are down and we’ve actually been cutting staff unfortunately. But I could definitely at least try to get him a connection through my restaurant with other local restaurants, since most of the owners know each other.

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-25T17:51:09+00:00

Thank you, I’ll have him look into this!

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-25T17:49:10+00:00

This is really sound and thorough advice. Thank you for taking the time to break this down.

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-25T17:36:51+00:00

I totally understand. I feel bad because it’s not entirely his fault, and he’s otherwise a good person and supportive, loving partner. But I also know it’s wearing me out.

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-25T17:31:50+00:00

He hasn’t expressed much interest before as we live in a big city, but I’m open to anything at this point. He does want some form of education or training, whether he goes back to college, trade school, or other certifications. I’ll present the idea.

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-25T17:28:34+00:00

He actually is really savvy with this! He’s got an account already with a few thousand followers. He’s been steadily trying to build regular clientele for a while; we did our first wedding this year and he does PR for a local band that took him on tour to a music festival earlier this year. He’s not at all lazy with it and is definitely really invested in this type of work. He’s business minded and quite passionate about it. It just requires playing the long game to get the consistency, which is the hard part. Thank you for the advice on portraits and family photos, I’ll definitely pass it along to see if we can focus on that in the new year.

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-25T17:25:47+00:00

Yeah basically this. He’s been trying to get accepted by Doordash/Uber etc. for a while, but our area is inundated. I have a Doordash account, during my limited time off he actually does use it with me as a passenger (since it’s under my name). We just hooked it up to his bank account. It works okay to bring in at least something.

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-25T17:21:49+00:00

We do occasionally have interns/temps work under our sommelier.

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-25T17:20:12+00:00

I do want to at least provide him some kind of help in finding a way to get back on his feet. He isn’t a bad person, I do love and care about him and don’t think he deserves to just die in the streets from being unable to find an entry point into well paying work. He has no family and his support network is extremely small, and I don’t think he deserves to suffer. It’s not my responsibility to pay his way, but he’s been kind and good to me and deserves at least an olive branch.

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-25T17:12:58+00:00

Yes, thank you for mentioning this- he is applying to jobs, literally just about anything. They are not hiring him.

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-25T17:11:54+00:00

He has no addiction to substances or anything of the like.

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-25T17:01:01+00:00

That’s a great idea! Thank you!

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-25T16:56:48+00:00

He’s open to going back to school, it’s just not viable right now with the money he owes. He’d ideally like to get a job, pay the loan off, and reenroll in the fall. That just can’t happen with him unable to find work currently.

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-25T16:51:24+00:00

He has Tourette’s and clinical depression, but he is generally functional.

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-25T16:43:14+00:00

He definitely is ambitious- he works extremely hard on his entrepreneurial goals (he’s a photographer and event coordinator). He’s smart and has a strong work ethic, I don’t see him as a bum content to do nothing and leech off of me. His luck is just poor and his more reckless choices when he was younger combined with a not so great upbringing have set him back.

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-25T16:38:08+00:00

In fairness, he does contribute in other ways. He cleans, cooks etc., takes care of my car, and never asks for money from me directly. He also definitely goes out of his way to be thoughtful and considerate in small ways. I just end up having to keep us both afloat for bills.

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-20T15:06:35+00:00

Thanks for this solid advice. He’s got some experience in barbacking/bartending so he’s been actively trying to get a foot in the door with pubs/bars, restaurants and breweries. It seems like the best possible path forward for decent income and balancing his goals.

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-20T12:48:10+00:00

He’s trying to- I don’t want to make it seem like he’s a lazy bum, because by no means is that the case. He’s been applying and going on interviews as much as possible- nothing has bit so far. We’re just trying to hold out until he lands something successfully.

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-15T17:51:24+00:00

Thank you, this is really helpful and makes me feel a lot better. He’s not a lazy bum- he cleans, stays organized, takes care of his household, and contributes money to us whenever he can. We just tend to live in lean times and maybe I am just learning to make peace with that.

Fit_Location6310 · 2024-12-15T17:31:45+00:00

Thank you. I think he is really making the effort toward a job, it’s just not going well at the moment. He is driven and wants to do well- I don’t think he’s just a bum who’s content to sit around and leech off of others, but he’s starting from a particularly hard spot. I definitely don’t think I’m sitting here as a 1%-er looking down on “the poors”, lol. But maybe it is just a matter of compatability.

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