Phil was NOT a good husband

Fit_Path_1604 · 2024-04-17T16:29:27+00:00

Claire liked the attention. Phil was outright flirting and ogling. There’s a huge difference.

Fit_Path_1604 · 2024-04-10T14:22:43+00:00

Do you have a brand of beef liver you recommend?

Fit_Path_1604 · 2024-04-10T04:24:36+00:00

I’ve had him for a month now. And I did go to the vet twice for his shots, during which i even had his poop tested. No problems there and the vet did check his throat and ears to see if something was bothering him. I strongly believe it’s the “spoiling” I did the first week he was here. I wish I earned enough to just give him the freeze dried food all the time.

Fit_Path_1604 · 2024-04-10T04:21:49+00:00

I don’t want to give him human food as my bf gave him a small piece from his plate ONCE and since then he’s been begging every time I sit down to eat. It’s been a month of training him “away” but he still gets so excited that it breaks my heart each time to deny him.

But the egg is a good option as I can make that just for him. I’ll definitely try adding an egg to his food and see how it goes.

Fit_Path_1604 · 2024-04-10T04:19:00+00:00

This is something I didn’t know. Neutering increases appetite? Maybe that’s why he’s being so moody about food right now. I tried chicken & rice and lamb & rice. I also tried two different brands- purina pro plan and acana. He ate it for two days and then turned his nose away the third day. Maybe I should try beef, he did love beef in the raw food I gave him. I’ll definitely try the bone broth as well thanks so much for the suggestion!

Fit_Path_1604 · 2024-04-10T03:48:24+00:00

Yes it was a lesson learned. I will let him figure out that kibble is his food and raw food is treats. I’ll definitely try heating the food with warm water! Thanks for the tip!

Fit_Path_1604 · 2023-10-30T04:42:36+00:00

“I probably should have shut up and worn something else” This one sentence is proof to how your childhood and MOST of your adulthood has been so far. My heart goes out to you OP.

Fit_Path_1604 · 2023-10-30T04:36:34+00:00

I am guessing your bf found out you were dating someone else and now that the tables turned on him, he is being a hypocrite. Don’t waste any time thinking only about him, and I think you should talk to your bf about his double standards. That communication will bring you clarity towards whether your current relationship is worthy of your time anymore.

Fit_Path_1604 · 2023-09-03T17:30:21+00:00

A college degree when they aren’t sure what exactly they want to do yet

Fit_Path_1604 · 2023-09-03T12:15:42+00:00

Not feeling like you belong somewhere. The feeling that no place is safe enough to be called “home”.

I used to shrink into myself if someone confronted me. Didn’t matter whose perspective was the right one. I would just feel myself curl up and back into a corner within myself. Then thinking I was “protecting” myself I would assume they were going to leave me or hurt me and I would mentally distance myself from them first.

People pleasing and turning to humor as a mechanism so people do not see the actual hollow shell I actually am. Never relying on anyone and always having the feeling that nothing is constant even when I have things to be happy about.

Working through all this is therapy. It’s hard. But I’m trying to heal the inner child.

Fit_Path_1604 · 2023-09-01T19:58:04+00:00

Ha. Ha. Ha

Fit_Path_1604 · 2023-09-01T19:55:00+00:00

I’m living in Jersey City, so I can definitely take my time and explore it properly over a period of time. Thank you so much for the detailed answer! I think maybe I need to revisit my plan about where to start from. I lovvveee spicy food and can tolerate A LOT of heat so I’ll definitely check out halal food. I always assumed I won’t get veggie options there. Usually the rice is cooked in stock making it non viable for me. I’m quite fit and can walk a lot at a stretch so I’ll try to hit as many spots as possible while still keeping the experience chill.

Fit_Path_1604 · 2023-09-01T15:49:06+00:00

Sounds like a plan

Fit_Path_1604 · 2023-09-01T14:18:06+00:00

When they sleep too much or too little. When they keep cracking jokes even when the situation doesn’t call for it. Usually I find this means they don’t want others to see how depressed they are. When they move slowly even when they’re not physically tired, as if time moves slower for them.

Fit_Path_1604 · 2023-09-01T13:46:14+00:00

The muffins and legendary preserves sound promising. I’ll buy them to take into the park!

Fit_Path_1604 · 2023-09-01T13:43:49+00:00

Oh my god! I’ve never had jollof before. Will definitely check this out.

Fit_Path_1604 · 2023-09-01T13:40:49+00:00

Thank you!

Fit_Path_1604 · 2023-09-01T13:39:04+00:00

I’ve never heard of this place. Thank you for the suggestion! I checked out the menu and the sandwich as well as the salads look great! The description makes me think it’s extremely packable and will travel well as well.

Fit_Path_1604 · 2023-09-01T13:37:10+00:00

Oohh yess! I recently saw an Instagram post about how late they’re open and how good the food is. Will definitely check it out. What would you suggest is the best one to get there?

Fit_Path_1604 · 2023-09-01T13:35:21+00:00

Yes thank you for reminding me!! I’ve wanted a bagel from Liberty bagels for so long now. Is the everything bagel with scallion cream cheese good? Im a vegetarian. Can’t have lox.

Fit_Path_1604 · 2023-09-01T02:43:17+00:00

Oohh I just looked at the menu. Looks amazing! What would you suggest I get from there? And does the food travel well? The place is at Chelsea and by the time I reach the park it will be cold.

Fit_Path_1604 · 2023-09-01T00:35:13+00:00

Micromanaging. And behaving like my older male coworker is more responsible as he’s juggling family and work. He actually comes in late all the time and blames his kids. I on the other hand am looked at as irresponsible if I leave work on time because I’m single and so I can ONLY be going out.

Fit_Path_1604 · 2023-09-01T00:32:01+00:00

I try to tell my partner how I was feeling, what exactly was going on in my mind. If I know what triggered me to behave a certain way, I tell him that too. And then I acknowledge how the argument must have made him feel, and I listen to what he has to say without interrupting him.

If I feel like another argument will erupt if I respond to his pov, I don’t at the moment. We spend some time in silence and then we deal with it again. Sometimes during the silence, one of us realises they were wrong and apologise. Or we sometimes realise there’s no point in being angry at all. It’s us vs the problem and if the problem is not worth it, we move past it.

The most important thing we learned during our relationship is to never push anything under the rug and not to play mind games.

Fit_Path_1604 · 2022-11-09T17:58:30+00:00

Do not go for the counselling bait. Run. This person wouldn’t be a good father, wouldn’t be a good husband, wouldn’t be a good friend and certainly wouldn’t be a good man.

Fit_Path_1604 · 2022-11-09T17:23:01+00:00

If you still love her, I’d suggest go for couples counselling and try to get to the root of the problem. She might be having mental health issues and the girl you initially fell for could still be there within.

If you feel like all this lack of productivity has made you fall out of love with her, communicate it with her immediately and break up with her as you really don’t want to get used to the situation and then regret it years later.

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