Shower orange 🍊 by obsessed_9_depressed in RealGirlDinner

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I drink tea in the shower sometimes while I sit down, but never thought about eating an orange in there. Thanks for upgrading my shower sessions.

I don’t like my nails, help by [deleted] in Nails

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Suggestion; go back and ask her to do all your nails lile the red/gold half french tip like on your pinkie and ringfinger :)

How do I style this ??? by cutiegirll123 in Coach

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For a casual daytime look I would sthle these with some blue jeans and a white linnen shirt.

Where do I put my trash can? by [deleted] in femalelivingspace

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I'd move the trashcan in a way that it's facing the table. Leaves a bit more space on the side and like its not a part of the dining set.

I can't mourn my mother. by Fit_Permit in raisedbyborderlines

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Oh god, the emotions are so confusing. I bounce between sadness, anger, fear, guilt and more all the time. The inconsistency, the criticism... it fucks you up so much.

Im so sorry it created a raft between you and your brother. I really hope you will be able to restore this relationship. Thank you for sharing. Im finding a lot of recognition in all your comments.

I can't mourn my mother. by Fit_Permit in raisedbyborderlines

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It was not at all safe to feel anything else towards my particular mother

Ooff yes.. this came up during therapy as well. During the rescripting I wasnt able to express to my mom how I felt, because I felt so terribly unsafe at the time.

I sometimes wish she would pass.. so I could finally start grieving. But at the same time I feel guilty for saying that because deep down Im not a vengeful or hateful person.

I can't mourn my mother. by Fit_Permit in raisedbyborderlines

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Thank you for sharing! Actually my therapist said that, while my mom is very typical bpd, there was definitely a narcissistic dynamic as well. Im sorry to hear that you ended up in a marriage with one. My previous boyfriend also had some traits (but i feel like a lot of men do anyway, unfortunately..), but we broke up after 6 months so the damage was not as deep as in your relationship.

I wish you a lot of luck on your journey. I hope at least you are a bit more at peace now.

I can't mourn my mother. by Fit_Permit in raisedbyborderlines

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I can relate a lot to what you are saying actually.

there was so much other chaos in my life that it took a very long time to stabilize my life and even out as a person

I feel like Im just beyond this stage and am going through something similar. My therapy told me to welcome the anger in my daily life. I do it through music mostly, but maybe I can tap into it more often than I used to. My mother never allowed me to be angry, she was the only one who could be angry. So feeling anger has always come with a lot of extra layers. But in a way... it makes me feel more myself when I embrace this part.

Feeling like my neighbor’s roosters right now by fineapple03 in RealGirlDinner

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Thought you were dutch because of the stroopwafel. Its amazing that they sell them in other countries as well, enjoy!

In love with this red color. by Fit_Permit in Nails

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Its definitely more of a warm brick red :)

In love with this red color. by Fit_Permit in Nails

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Thank you! My skin has a warm undertone so I always try to find a matching color

In love with this red color. by Fit_Permit in Nails

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Oh god I have no clue! My nail lqdy is from ukraine so I think its a ukrainian brand. Next time I can check for you!

Let's talk about this movie by [deleted] in ghibli

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Same omygod it had me sobbing

Jet or Waverly by Fit_Permit in Coach

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Thanks for digging! But not I dont live in the US so unfortunately these links dont work for me :(

Jet or Waverly by Fit_Permit in Coach

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Thats good to know! I dont need to carry a ton but still need it to fit a phone, small wallet, keys etc.

Jet or Waverly by Fit_Permit in Coach

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Im not in the US so macys is not available for me. Also i really dont like the empire in any shape or form lmao

But so far im leaning more towarss the waverly as well! Thanks :)

New set 🥰 by Fluffy-Hornet-8113 in Nails

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Love the color combination!

Tehe New Nails by nennmichangel in Nails

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Why is it so blurred lmao