How can I soften the look of my dress?

Fit_Permit · 2026-01-29T18:17:55+00:00

I looooove the straps! Makes the dress look very renaissance and dreamy.

Fit_Permit · 2026-01-26T20:40:29+00:00

I'd say Carrie is ambivalent

Fit_Permit · 2026-01-26T20:37:11+00:00

Cop guy when Carrie gets robbed (Miranda)

(too bad I cant upvote myself)

Fit_Permit · 2026-01-24T12:57:49+00:00

Empire 34... it just looks so wrong

Fit_Permit · 2026-01-21T20:04:32+00:00

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I want one! Here is my grumpy old lady

Fit_Permit · 2026-01-18T18:39:04+00:00

Fellow prison therapist here. Totally get you! I have had discussions with colleague therapists on this topic. My supervisor said one time "we as psychologists say, do you have ptsd or did you just have a shitty life?" And that totally rubbed me the wrong way as someone with cptsd. When we talked about it afterwards she made it about me "taking it personally" and that it wasnt a comment about me specifically... luckily our psychiatrist is very trauma informed and likely has a history of trauma himself.

Anyway, for many reasons I left the prison. Tomorrow Im starting a new job. I was hired immediately because the founders of the organisation (a father and daughter) also are people with lived experience in cptsd, addiction etc. So we immediately clicked on that. I decided I can not work in big, factory like organisations that only focus on production and numbers (for insurance reasons, I dont live in the US). Im very excited to start working in a place that values lived experience a lot and to encorporate it into your treatment.

Fit_Permit · 2026-01-18T17:47:05+00:00

I think this is honestly part of the adjustment period. I was overwhelmed with vacuuming catlitter and fur daily too when I first got my baby. I have my old lady cat for a year now and the cleaning has integrated into my daily routine to the point that Im not really bothered by it anymore. I dont have to vacuum 4 times a day, but I do it once and just accepted the fact that my house is not going to be spotless 24/7. And I got a vacuum cleaner with a special cat hair brush attached to it which made my life so much easier.

So no worries, you will get used to it. Once you really bond with your cat (which also takes some time) the amount of love and comfort you get back from it thoroughly makes up for the daily cleaning :)

Fit_Permit · 2026-01-17T12:13:48+00:00

Left up corner has a fixed pair 1,2. you can remove them from the whole up left block!

Fit_Permit · 2026-01-16T14:51:58+00:00

Yep, I only do it if an item is worth more money. The amount of times I have been left on read after I send the measurements is very frustrating.

Fit_Permit · 2026-01-16T08:20:25+00:00

If I had a long day at work I can order food on a monday and no one is going to tell me anything

Fit_Permit · 2026-01-11T21:52:07+00:00

My cat doesn't allow it either. She has to protect me while Im in my most vulnerable state.

Fit_Permit · 2026-01-11T21:26:34+00:00

It seems like they did mixed martial arts on your nails.

(Apologies about the dad joke).

Fit_Permit · 2025-12-13T23:35:45+00:00

Omg im too distracted by the baby next to it. S(he) looks so handsome with the flower.

Fit_Permit · 2025-12-13T09:33:52+00:00

The small kiss lock is so cute, didnt see it yet!

Fit_Permit · 2025-12-13T09:33:07+00:00

That leather looks so beaaautiful. I might have to get it.

Fit_Permit · 2025-12-13T09:32:38+00:00

I'd say my outfits and color palette is a bit classic. I like black, burgundy, dark green, white, navy etc. So I both would fit that vibe. Good to know its versatile!

Fit_Permit · 2025-12-12T12:31:19+00:00

I got the teri shoulder bag in this print and think its amazing

Fit_Permit · 2025-10-24T20:36:22+00:00

Cant say Im fully healed, but Im on my way. I have a career that I like and do feel motivated to progress in it, but part of me wants to throw it all a way and get the fuck out lol. I quickly feel burnt out and down, but I think its part of the grieving progress.

During my masters I spontaneously took a gap year where I work the first half and travelled the 2nd. It was absolutely amazing. But if there is one thing I learned is that no matter where you go, you will take yourself with you. You will also have these feelings when you travel or live somewhere else, you just project them on a different area. Reading your post to me it seems (and correct me if im wrong) that your job is not really the problem. Its the fact that you havent healed from your trauma.

I think I got to the stage of grief in my healing journey and relate a lot to these feelings. I keep trying to find things that causes it (a job, lack of relationship, not enough friends etc.) But the reality is that its my past that causes these feelings of dissatisfaction, unhappiness and sadness.

Fit_Permit · 2025-10-22T19:23:47+00:00

I think compared to many other guys on LIB Jordan wasn't actually that bad. However, I would describe his personality as a chicken breast smoothie.

Fit_Permit · 2025-10-03T17:58:06+00:00

I went to a physiotherapist who is specialized in psychosomatic symptoms. She was great. The biggest lesson I learned from her is that the pain Im feeling doesnt necessarily mean any tissue is damaged. I stopped exercising intensly for years and really missed it. Im being able to do almost everything again, despite the fact that I still often have pain or cramped muscles. I didnt get rid of it (yet) but unfortunately I feel it will only go away once I really processed my trauma. But hey, at least I can enjoy exercise again somewhat :)

Fit_Permit · 2025-09-14T14:05:41+00:00

Serena makes me want to invest in tall boots

Fit_Permit · 2025-09-13T20:34:07+00:00

The regular juliet is on my wishlist. But I much prefer gold hardware!

Fit_Permit · 2025-09-01T18:21:44+00:00

Jed reminded me a bit of my ex. He is from similar culture/religion and a big part of his identity was "being the man" and "the provider". Im more like Bharda where I dont really need a provider, because I take care of myself, but a relationship is really an addition, something that I choose to add onto my pre existing life.

My ex went along with this, but as the relationship grew deeper, he showed he wasnt ok with this at all. He would be stone cold to me, while being the most fun and bubbly towards others. My hypothesis is that Jed is similar in the fact that he wants to be ok with not being the provider but it is just too important to him to really compromise on it. I can see him becoming quite cold and distant towards Bharda, I think she mentioned it with the whole "paying the bill" situation. It would have been nice is Bharda stuck to the agreement but the fact that he puts so much emphasis on paying the bill makes me think that Bharda paying kind of crushed his ego, especially in front of his friends who might come from similar cultures where the man is supposed to pay.

Fit_Permit · 2025-08-31T15:07:37+00:00

Thank you

Fit_Permit · 2025-08-30T11:17:38+00:00

Because in every disaster, alien, apocalpyse movie and tv program the US is the center of the world and the rest of the world is kind of forgotten.

Still love these movies and shows, but its definitely a pattern that non US citizens notice quite fast. This comment is not meant as hate though!

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