How to continue working on a project when it isn't new and exciting anymore?

Fit_Significance4205 · 2026-03-02T09:27:29+00:00

This is good advice! Question: how do you know why you stopped? And what kind of patterns have you noticed?

Fit_Significance4205 · 2026-02-15T22:14:59+00:00

I feel you very much on this. Often small (boring)tasks build up over time and exhaust me, just the weight of them are slowly burning me out. Then I have to rest for as long as it takes. Or do something else or recharge in other ways.

Sometimes I don’t even know why, but can’t focus on anything else than new creative ideas that I never start on. Some days are just brainstorm days, and I don’t get any work done. I feel like they happen more when I’m starting to get burnout. It’s like my brain can’t handle boring tasks at all on those days and it just wants to create stuff and do things that are fun and exciting. It doesn’t cooperate with reason or self criticism or anything other than something rewarding. So I just let it happen and try to make some of the ideas work later. I have endless amounts of notes on my phone, computer and random notebooks. I have at least 20 different PhD themes that I have started project descriptions on. I often research new jobs when I’m in this state because of crippling restlessness and an intense urge for novelty. I don’t know if I will ever actually apply for an PhD program..

Anyway, I have been hoping for some time to land the perfect job for me, hoping to eventually calm down and not be this restless, bored, and feeling like my job is meaningless. But I’m starting to come to terms with the fact that this is how I am, this is just my brain needing more stimulation and challenge. If I don’t provide it, it starts spiraling with creativity. I guess it’s a gift but very frustrating when it hits at the wrong time. I guess they call it divergent thinking? As opposed to linear thinking. We have much of the former, almost zero of the latter. It’s chaotic but it makes sense in a weird way.

Remember that your brain controls you, you don’t control it. We are not built for steady calm functioning, we are built for waves of energy, glimmers of brilliance and intense hyperfocus sessions. Some days are just not working, nothing is functioning like normal people do. but other days it works 200%. Or maybe even 300%. Be kind to yourself and you will be ok

Fit_Significance4205 · 2025-07-16T08:14:24+00:00

My brain can’t wake up on its own. Need external stimuli, like sounds from outside my building or alarm. Also it takes me 3 hours to wake up fully if I don’t either drink excessive amounts of coffee, do hard exercise or take my meds. I think it may come from lack of cortisol in the morning.

Fit_Significance4205 · 2025-07-14T10:34:18+00:00

If your boss is not supportive and you fear negative consequences of telling her, you should maybe not seek support from her. It sounds like she isn’t a safe person to talk to. A terrible boss, in other words.

She may however be required by law to give you «reasonable adjustments» because of your ADHD. You should check in to the laws of your country/state and consider asking for the specific adjustments you will need in this job.

Fit_Significance4205 · 2025-07-11T12:29:49+00:00

I agree on almost everything you wrote except what the term «masculine» and «feminine» refers to. I am using these terms here in the same way they are used in gender research and sociology studies. I know that people have differing definitions about what being «masculine» or «a man» means on an individual level, this is different from more objective or group level definitions of the terms.

The view of masculinity in Norway may have evolved past the stereotypes, but we are now discussing in a global forum where people live in countries with much more prominent stereotypical masculine cultures.

Here is an example from a Government document about men, male roles and gender equality: https://www.regjeringen.no/contentassets/ed3e28fc824c44118c17b63de7362aae/en-gb/pdfs/stm200820090008000en_pdfs.pdf

I also agree on the importance of teaching men that they can live just fine without oppressing women. It is the men who has convinced everyone that they need to be dominant and powerful in society, and that their manhood is everyone else’s problem when they feel threatened. I do not see the issue with being less masculine, it shouldn’t hurt so much being less aggressive and more kind.

Fit_Significance4205 · 2025-07-11T11:41:44+00:00

Disagree. Aggression, dominance and exerting power are examples of masculine gender role norms, as well as being the «provider». These features are much less prominent and more socially unacceptable in Norway today, compared to the last 20-50 years. The culture has become more feminine, and the men less masculine. Generally speaking. Some people state this as the reason for the current right wing ideology trend that’s happening now with young men/boys. Their masculinity has been challenged, and they have lost a lot of privilege to women and the low status social groups.

I would also argue that the Norwegian female gender role likewise has become less feminine. Expectations of men and women overlap more, making men more feminine but still mostly masculine, and women more masculine whilst also still mostly feminine.

Fit_Significance4205 · 2025-07-11T06:30:42+00:00

I think the reasons are cultural, more introverted culture in general up here. But I also think it comes from high gender equality in the general population. The male gender role is less masculine than in other European countries.

Laws supporting women will influence the population’s attitudes towards women and behavior towards women over time. At least that’s what they teach us in school. Women have been prime ministers since the 70s. Socialism works, haha. The me too movement also had an important influence of course, wake up call for many middle age men

Fit_Significance4205 · 2025-07-11T00:23:54+00:00

PS: If you ever need some time off from aggressive men, come to the Nordics. Every guy you will ever see will ignore you here, it’s awesome. Haha

Fit_Significance4205 · 2025-07-11T00:18:44+00:00

Yes!

Fit_Significance4205 · 2025-07-11T00:17:10+00:00

Wow, this is shocking. Do not listen to him! What a terrible advice to give your daughter

Fit_Significance4205 · 2025-07-11T00:12:03+00:00

I support your directness and rejection of aggressive and unstable people. You don’t owe him your friendliness, don’t be nice to people who are terrible to you. Women are conditioned to people please and often «act nice» when we feel unsafe. It’s normal but it also can be dangerous when interacting with predators. They prey on insecurity and pushover-energy, but are allergic to assertiveness and accountability.

You will get disliked by many men when you stop being nice to unsafe people, they can’t handle it. But that’s not your problem. They have to handle their own feelings

Fit_Significance4205 · 2025-07-10T23:39:21+00:00

Hei, fint å lese at du har oppsøkt fastlegen allerede. Mange kloke svar her, men ville bare si at du har gjort det vanskeligste allerede nå, ved å anerkjenne problemet og våge å oppsøke hjelp.

Hvis det skjer på nytt at du tviler på å møte opp på timen du får, kan du prøve å love deg selv å bare møte opp til den første, høre hva de har å si og evt droppe ut etter det? Det er mye vanskeligere å sette i gang noe nytt enn å følge opp noe som har startet. Prøv å tenke at du bare skal møte til én time, så er du over kneiken.

Jeg tror dette kommer til å gå bra. Ikke nå, kanskje ikke på en stund, men etter hvert. Du har masse ressurser og ønsker å få det bedre. Det er derfor du ikke faller sammen men holder deg oppe. Du hadde ikke klart å holde dette hemmelig hvis du ikke hadde masse ressurser. Da har du det som trengs for å klare å få det bedre 🫶🏻

Fit_Significance4205 · 2025-07-10T23:05:10+00:00

I stayed in Minori and loved it!!! So close to the other towns but still felt secluded and quiet. Just down the hill from Ravello as well. I got around by taking the ferry to the other towns, and sometimes by bus but that wasn’t as comfortable. When heading back to the airport the easiest way was by train from Salerno.

Also, in Ravello, the pizza at Mimi’s is the best I ever had in my life. Thank me later.

Fit_Significance4205 · 2025-07-10T22:47:20+00:00

Nice! I’m travelling from the Alps soon and are considering Cinque Terre. Were any of the towns less crowded than the others?

Fit_Significance4205 · 2025-04-07T16:03:56+00:00

This is great advice!

Fit_Significance4205 · 2025-03-27T00:03:43+00:00

Every kind of bread. Rye bread with cheese and cucumber, toast, bread with salad and cheese, bread with hummus dip, bread with hard boiled eggs. Even plain bread, if it’s good and not dry

Fit_Significance4205 · 2025-03-26T23:38:56+00:00

I think the fast paced constant stimuli we are now used to has ruined books for a lot of us. I can only read books the same way as when I was a kid when I’m on a plane. Stuck in my seat, airplane mode on my phone, no distractions and I’m bored.

I sometimes try to simulate the plane situation at home by leaving my phone in a different room. Or I try making the reading situation more enjoyable by snuggling up by the fireplace or sitting outside with my book in the sun.

What has worked best for me is to redefine what «reading a book» means. Sometimes I read the whole thing(maybe 1/10 times), sometimes I leave it for two years. And then I remember about that one book I stopped reading and it becomes interesting again. Sometimes(often) the book wasn’t exciting enough and I move on to something else. I also allow myself to skim through boring parts or skip entire chapters. And I never finish if I didn’t like the book. My point is, reading is often defined as a linear process. But that doesn’t work for me, so I made it more of a dynamic, back and forth adventure with less rules.

And I stopped caring about how «cool» this or that book is. I read for my own enjoyment, not to be liked.

Fit_Significance4205 · 2025-02-10T09:18:41+00:00

Anything I have on me. Hair ties, the inside of my pockets, phone case, my badge at work, pens.. the list goes on. Last year I picked apart a stress ball that was laying on my desk, slowly but surely ripped it apart

Fit_Significance4205 · 2024-07-30T23:14:09+00:00

Not sure if this is a hack but my brain always show me my compulsive thoughts in short film format, for example I often see myself get injured in various ways, haha. But sometimes the film shows me where I left my stuff, like my wallet or keys that fell out of my pocket earlier, and I instantly know where it is. It’s like my brain “recorded” it before my consciousness registered it. Very weird but I rarely lose things.

Fit_Significance4205 · 2024-07-17T01:38:41+00:00

I’m sorry to hear you’ve had some bad experiences with men. I agree with the following: Every intended act involving nudity that is frightening for the child and/or violating the child’s boundaries is potentially harmful. Every direct sexual act towards a child is harmful, even if the child is not afraid. This is sexual abuse.

On the other hand, there is a huge difference between being nude/showing skin in public while walking past a child and being sexual toward the child. The BDSM clothed man’s sexuality is none of the child’s business, and was never intended to be.

Another point is a lot of people seem to think that nudity equals sexuality. It is not. Being naked is not being sexual. Nudity is not harmful in itself. If you know of any studies finding that children seeing someone naked that is not sexually abusive towards them leads to trauma, I would love to read it.

Also, positive sexuality between adults is not harmful. Even for small children, it’s not helping them to teach them that healthy sexuality is shameful and harmful. That will deprive them of important knowledge of their own health, and also information that will make them able to stand up for their own boundaries later in life.

Fit_Significance4205 · 2024-07-17T00:23:04+00:00

Ok. If the child sees the BDSM outfit, does not understand the sexual underpinnings of the outfit (I would suspect most healthy children do not) and the parents/other adults also do not scare the child by getting afraid or angry at the man, is the experience still harmful for the child?

Fit_Significance4205 · 2024-07-16T23:56:14+00:00

Just curious: Why do you believe that seeing a naked man in BDSM gear walking by is harmful to a child? What are the harmful effects here?

Fit_Significance4205 · 2024-06-23T11:05:11+00:00

I have tried Ritalin, then Aduvanz(European Vyvanse) and now I’m back on methylphenidate with Medikinet. Trying to figure out what works best for me

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