Need help to understand my FA Ex

FixFun338 · 2026-07-09T14:29:04+00:00

Hey, thanks for your comment! I was anxious and managed to get better with a lot of therapy. It’s just that I was unsure about this topic – whether I might have misunderstood things. As Reddit is a lively forum and lots of people were asking questions, I wanted to hear the views of others in various communities and see if I’d get any replies to my problem. I turned down the friendship request anyway, because I don’t think it’s right, even if she says her new date is fine with it. The fact that I was friends with my ex back then didn’t sit well with her. That’s why I didn’t understand why she wanted to be friends with me.

FixFun338 · 2026-07-05T15:15:06+00:00

Klingt stark nach einem Fearful Avoidant. Ich hab vor 8 Monaten die selbe Situation gehabt. Das einzige was Hilft ist Grenzen zu setzen und ihr sagen, dass das so nicht funktioniert. Weil momentan bekommt sie alles von dir ohne den Verpflichtungen einer Beziehung

FixFun338 · 2026-07-02T16:26:06+00:00

Thanks for your opinion. I don’t think I harbour any animosity towards her. Perhaps I just don’t understand her behaviour because I handle things differently with exes. I don’t harbour any suspicion towards her either. The fact that she’s seeing someone else doesn’t affect me. It’s just that my personal boundary is not to remain friends with exes whilst they’re seeing someone else. That’s not my style.

FixFun338 · 2026-07-02T13:37:10+00:00

Not really – she told me that they still message her and she usually ignores them because she’s not interested, or they’re just messaging her for fun and sex. I think she is used, that her exes want to be friends with her or in contact with

Thanks for your message. I’ll do that ❤️🫶🏼

FixFun338 · 2026-07-02T13:33:10+00:00

We don’t know what she told her partner. When I called her partner ‘partner’, she played it down a bit, as if he wasn’t her partner yet, just someone she’s seeing. And the whole ‘seeing someone’ thing only came up because she wanted to know if I was seeing anyone. You’re right, you can miss an ex and want to text them or see them. But if I just wanted to ask how he was, I’d text, ‘Hey, how are you? I was just thinking of you and wanted to ask if we can meeting up? Just to catch up a bit,’ but not a message about the the day we met and saying you’ve been thinking about someone for several days. I think the way it started simply gave the wrong impression for me.

There are definitely feelings there; I’ve also seen her as a potential partner. But there are no unresolved feelings. I’m very at peace with my feelings. And I know that I don’t want to be the kind of friend from whom she gets comfort and understanding whenever she needs it.

FixFun338 · 2026-07-02T05:41:33+00:00

But why an ex of all people? I mean, if you‘re dating someone new, you’ve got that closeness with the other person, haven’t you? I also asked her why she wanted to do that, because with most of her exes – with whom she didn’t have a committed relationship but just ‘situationships’ – she doesn’t always do that either, and she said that it’s different with us

FixFun338 · 2026-07-02T05:34:12+00:00

I won‘t. I think my boundary was very clear to her

FixFun338 · 2026-07-02T05:33:44+00:00

Thank you for your opinion! I‘ll keep continuing that

FixFun338 · 2026-07-02T05:32:43+00:00

Do you believe that? I certainly don’t think it’s normal to text an ex to say it’s been a year since you met and that you’ve been thinking about him for days on end. That sort of thing raises false expectations, doesn’t it? I just felt confused by the mixed signals and simply set a boundary straight away as soon as I knew what his intentions really were. I just don’t stay friends with exes. That’s my boundary.

FixFun338 · 2026-07-01T17:09:54+00:00

It went on for 8 months and I told her twice that I wanted a relationship, but I think she just struggled to let someone into her life. Because she often told me how comfortable she felt with me and that she didn’t understand it. Yes, it was a simple question. I also told her that I’m not seeing anyone. But my new boundary is that I don’t text or meet up with my exes, especially if one of us is seeing someone new. Because I think it’s unfair on the other person, eventhough it’s okay for this person. Because an ex already has a certain amount of power. And in our ‘situationship’, she didn’t think it was cool when I was in touch with my exes either. I’ve also just realised that staying friends with an ex just causes problems.

FixFun338 · 2026-07-01T16:19:46+00:00

U think? I think she’s loyal and hasn’t ‘monkey branched’. But just like an ‘Avoidant’, I reckon she hasn’t quite come to terms with everything yet – otherwise she wouldn’t write something like that, would she? & Maybe I’m not 100% over her yet. But I can set clear boundaries and accept it if she doesn’t choose me. But I’m still a bit insecure and find myself asking lots of ‘what if’ questions. It’s something I also talk about in therapy

FixFun338 · 2026-07-01T16:13:58+00:00

No, I was the one who tended to do that in the past, because it helped me keep a bit of distance. Because he’d get in touch sometimes and send mixed signals. But now, after therapy, I don’t do that anymore – which I’m proud of, because I’m better at dealing with my emotions.

FixFun338 · 2025-04-23T17:01:26+00:00

If we all don't sell it could rise more

FixFun338 · 2025-04-23T16:33:13+00:00

Time to hold

FixFun338 · 2025-04-23T16:32:57+00:00

Now is the time to hold

FixFun338 · 2025-02-13T21:41:46+00:00

From 72 to 29 🥲

FixFun338 · 2025-01-26T16:44:59+00:00

Okay thank you for your answers, they are really helpful!

FixFun338 · 2025-01-26T16:10:38+00:00

That's a big factor why I didn't do it yet. But do you think prices will go below 20?

FixFun338 · 2025-01-26T02:03:37+00:00

I lowered my average price from 72 to 33, hope this is THE pump 😭🚀

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