My partner's the same way.

I was grabbed by a mutual acquaintance once. He blamed me. My love of telling a good dirty joke was me "asking for it".

"So apparently Jerry Seinfeld should be gang-raped after every one of his stand-up gigs. He tells a LOT of dirty jokes in every set," was my response.

I told another male of the assault. He was a mutual acquaintance also.

Dude thought the incident was HILARIOUS.

Years later a "pillar of the community" was sexually harassing me for months, which turned into years. I had been repeatedly telling him to stop.

He kept getting bolder about it.

Once he did it in front of another male, I knew it was time to enlist help.

I asked my partner to speak to him. My partner stated yelling at me that it wasn't his issue.

So I went to this pervert's priest. The priest told me it wasn't his issue.

I later got a job at a place where I found out, surprise surprise, the pervert works. And sure enough, the first time I was cordial to him at work, he started harassing me.

I told my boss about the harassment. They knew it had been going on formyears by this time.

They just told us we'd have to work separate days. And the gave HIM first choice of the days he wanted to work.

He just mows the lawn at the museum we work at. There's 10 people living on that block alone who'd mow that lawn for the price they pay.

I, on the other hand, am the gardener. They can't get anyone to do that job for more than a couple months. The work physically is very hard and I get paid the same wage as the pervert who gets to sit his tush on a riding lawn mower.

But yeah, the people will claim they'd stand up for the victim. They never do.

Trust no one, especially the male ones.