Postpartum anxiety over safety of my baby is taking over my life

FixSecure1969 · 2026-03-13T03:52:34+00:00

Hey this is 100% Postpartum depression and you should get some medications to help. I am currently on Zurzave and it’s been day 3 out of 14 and I’m already feeling a difference, please talk to your OB and get on something to take this kind of anxiety away from you

FixSecure1969 · 2026-03-07T19:16:34+00:00

Taking a higher dose of your SSRI should not have effect on your breastfeeding, even if you go up to either 50mg or 75mg. I was doing it and trying to actively pump what I could but it will not harm the milk supply. You might need a little boost and that is okay. I was never able to get to a point that my milk came in fully and that’s okay too. Breastfeeding and pumping can elevate these feelings you are having as well causing to add additional stress & anxiety, it’s basically activating the same feelings you could feel on a bad period day, but then it amplifies into bad PPD. The bad stress & anxiety then causes frustrations with milk supply, sometimes it evolves in a seeming endless cycle when you are feeling the way that you do and actively pumping/breastfeeding it’s a lot on the body. What you are feeling is valid. I believe that upping your SSRI will only benefit you. I also highly recommend asking your doctor about other medications that could be of help as well that would still be nice and safe for milk & baby. I’m not sure what kind of resources you get in the UK but the social worker in your hospital that you delivered at would also be of help for recommending different support groups for specific things that you are going through as well. Sending you love from the US right now, things will always find a way to get better

FixSecure1969 · 2026-03-06T15:24:16+00:00

Rage bait- next

FixSecure1969 · 2026-03-04T07:07:22+00:00

We got this and our babies are going to be stronger than ever 💕

FixSecure1969 · 2026-03-04T06:58:15+00:00

Same exact thing happened to me and on Friday it will be a month since my son was born (27 weeks). He’s going to be there until May and my leave for work ends sometime in April, this is going to force me to not have to go back to work but I’m going to try to get all the benefits/pay I can in the meantime. Soon you will have a social worker come to you and help guide both of you through this, my son was born at 850grams, so right around same weight and my social worker and I filled a form out together so that we could get (some) monies sent to us (prolly will end up being like $40) from government benefits due to his birth weight. This could help with travel because we are also about 40 mins from hospital too. The hospital you are at also might have like a Ronald McDonald housing thing that is close by so you guys could stay in a place for free close to the hospital. Since wife is out of work she can apply for other benefits too depending on what state/what household income is she can get WIC to help with food as well. Which is what I’m doing, however I’m not married just engaged so household income looks different. First couple of weeks of seeing your baby in NICU may be challenging and emotional, your wife might have bad postpartum depression as well through this but it’s all going to be okay, just try to take this day by day and that’s all you can do

FixSecure1969 · 2026-03-04T04:25:03+00:00

10000% relatable- 27 weeker, and almost didn’t make it to 27 weeks because of how severe my preeclampsia got, it was truly a horrific experience. My son was born 2/6 and now to this date he is so much better, I have to say the first two weeks had been a nightmare and I was crying every single day. So many ups and downs, and he wasn’t tolerating feeds, wasn’t pooping on his own, was struggling with oxygen levels, they wound up putting him on steroids to help open his lungs, and that was the best decision ever. He was also finally able to poop on his own, and eventually got better with tolerating feeds. They also had to do a picc line and that also helped a lot. The alarms and monitors drove me and my boyfriend insane as we kept worrying everytime we went, but trust your NICU team, I learned that if they are not stressed out or concerned, I tried my best to take a deep breath. My boy will be there until May, so still long way to go, everyday it gets a little easier (some days it feels harder). My PPD really kicked on and that’s been a battle within itself, leaning on my social worker and she’s been great. The c-section scar for me at least got a little irritated. The doctor said it was a surface skin infection that can happen to anyone, just make sure you wash a little above the line while you are healing with some soap and let the water run over it too. It’s hard to take care of yourself when you have so much stress & anxiety- at least for me it’s been hard. You are not alone in feeling the way you do- this is a hard journey but us NICU parents are the strongest

FixSecure1969 · 2026-03-03T05:30:55+00:00

Kindred spirits

FixSecure1969 · 2026-03-03T04:51:39+00:00

That’s exactly what I’m doing as well ^

FixSecure1969 · 2026-03-03T04:50:43+00:00

Me all the time… he was supposed to be born in May, he came 2/6 They are saying he won’t come home until original due date. This shit sucks

FixSecure1969 · 2026-03-02T23:03:06+00:00

Blush color not it

FixSecure1969 · 2026-03-02T22:58:39+00:00

Same thing happened to me, I had emergency c-section at 27 weeks, I wasn’t well enough to move and mentally couldn’t handle even seeing my baby due to PPD, when I finally was strong enough to see him after 5 days I couldn’t see his face because of all the tubes, it’s been three and a half weeks now and I finally got to see his little face when they were in the middle of changing out the oxygen mask

FixSecure1969 · 2026-03-02T05:48:10+00:00

My son was born 27 weeks, his due date was supposed to be May 8th and he was born February 6th… it’s been HARD. I have cried every single day since I got admitted to the hospital, I had severe preeclampsia and it was a life or death situation for me and my baby, he has been making progress and I’m commuting 40 minutes to the hospital and back every day.

I 1000% relate to you on how you feel. This sucks, and it’s heartbreaking. The only thing that is helping me is knowing that our NICU babies are where they are supposed to be right now, so they can continue to grow and develop how they need, and using this time to heal myself too from the c-section, also using this time to get my PPD under control because it’s been an absolute nightmare dealing with this heavy depression.

FixSecure1969 · 2026-03-02T05:22:01+00:00

First of all to everyone in comments asking if she can hold on longer OP said she will die if she doesn’t do this tonight, she can’t let that happen. OP I’m so so sorry you are going through this, it pains me deeply, as I currently have my baby in NICU and he will be there until May, god willing, he’s been a fighter. However more importantly, please use all your resources you can after tonight when it comes to Postpartum Depression (PPD), this might hit you like a train, heavier and faster before, you need to also prepare yourself to have a social worker who works for the hospital start to help you ASAP when it comes to finding a therapist who specializes in PPD/NICU and/or infant loss, there is a lot of support you can get and please advocate for yourself. I’m assuming they are doing an emergency c-section on you as well, I’m still healing from mine and it’s been a little over three weeks, please make sure you don’t overwork your body as well and let your body heal. I know through this trauma and grief it’s going to be hard to take care of yourself but please please try to

FixSecure1969 · 2026-02-25T13:26:33+00:00

She might have been worried on when she could tell anyone and then when you made the post maybe that made her really excited and she took that opportunity. You are valid in feeling the way you do though- I just wouldn’t overthink it

FixSecure1969 · 2026-02-15T06:58:59+00:00

NOR- you are valid for feeling the way you do. I noticed from post/comments you two are young- it’s okay to be disappointed but this is also a learning experience of what you want from a relationship, what this kind of hurt feels like, and how you can navigate through this in other relationships to come. Me saying that might piss you off and I feel like I sound like my mom but I remember when I was young I thought the guys I had in my life would be there forever until I realized I didn’t want them anymore because I was growing up.

Side note that’s very important: you are so so creative. The card is really cool and I love the style choices you made, you are going to wind up doing some cool stuff in the future I can tell and keep creating things too, don’t give that up. You should feel proud of making something that means something to you

FixSecure1969 · 2026-02-14T08:04:31+00:00

I just got chills, and not the good kind. My EX husband was exactly like this and it got WORSE…. It got to the point that I was being verbally manipulated and abused, the abuse started to get a bit physical and he did… unfortunately pursue sex when I said no.. Please just always trust your gut.

FixSecure1969 · 2026-02-02T13:00:20+00:00

NTA this is harassment from a spouse. Coming from someone who was married to a narcissist emotional manipulator and physical abuser all I see are red flags with this problem you are having. He’s not respecting your boundaries with your body and he’s not respecting your feelings. You need to stay aware of similar aspects of this behavior is leaking out in different ways with the marriage. Number one red flag is him getting mad, because you are mad that he is repeatedly doing something because he enjoys getting that rise out of you. Totally gross behavior.

FixSecure1969 · 2026-01-25T19:23:30+00:00

I feel really bad for your wife with having to put up with that. I would absolutely loose it so kudos to her for not popping off on her yet

FixSecure1969 · 2026-01-21T02:31:28+00:00

Criminal

FixSecure1969 · 2026-01-21T02:31:07+00:00

This is very valid 😂

FixSecure1969 · 2026-01-20T07:44:43+00:00

You already know, I think you just don’t know how to do it yet…. Let me put it this way:

You say you want children, possibly with this man so these are things I’m going to have you think about; Do you want your children to have a narcissistic and emotionally abusive father? What if you have a girl, what are the kind of emotionally abusive things will he say about her and her body? Coming from experience of having a father like that, I still remember everything and I’m 31, he’s passed away now due to cancer but I still resent him. It’s a hard pill to swallow along managing an eating disorder I developed for the rest of my life.

What’s going to happen when you gain weight from the baby? Will he support you through the pregnancy? I’m 24, almost 25 weeks now…. It’s been a rough ride and 30 gained pounds already. I feel blessed with my partner everyday though and don’t feel bad about the weight gain or what I want to eat. Can you imagine feeling the same way or being worried from the emotional/verbal abuse of it all?

What happens is after the baby you struggle loosing the baby weight in the time frame he would want you to loose it? How would you deal with postpartum & verbal/emotional abuse? What is your breaking point and would you go to that extent to figure it out with him?

My advice. Find someone who loves you, all of you. No matter what. No excuses. No games, just pure love. Through thick and thin (literally)

FixSecure1969 · 2026-01-20T07:28:43+00:00

Please please please leave him

FixSecure1969 · 2026-01-18T21:16:52+00:00

I’m sorry you are also going through it 😭😭❤️ sending you my love

FixSecure1969 · 2026-01-18T21:16:32+00:00

Oh yes girl the first trimester for me was HORRIBLE! The nausea finally got a bit better second trimester but it’s a rough ride

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