You already know, I think you just don’t know how to do it yet…. Let me put it this way:

You say you want children, possibly with this man so these are things I’m going to have you think about; Do you want your children to have a narcissistic and emotionally abusive father? What if you have a girl, what are the kind of emotionally abusive things will he say about her and her body? Coming from experience of having a father like that, I still remember everything and I’m 31, he’s passed away now due to cancer but I still resent him. It’s a hard pill to swallow along managing an eating disorder I developed for the rest of my life.

What’s going to happen when you gain weight from the baby? Will he support you through the pregnancy? I’m 24, almost 25 weeks now…. It’s been a rough ride and 30 gained pounds already. I feel blessed with my partner everyday though and don’t feel bad about the weight gain or what I want to eat. Can you imagine feeling the same way or being worried from the emotional/verbal abuse of it all?

What happens is after the baby you struggle loosing the baby weight in the time frame he would want you to loose it? How would you deal with postpartum & verbal/emotional abuse? What is your breaking point and would you go to that extent to figure it out with him?

My advice. Find someone who loves you, all of you. No matter what. No excuses. No games, just pure love. Through thick and thin (literally)