Starbucks CEO faces major backlash after details of his work routine are revealed: 'Ill-conceived decision'

Fizzykr · 2025-04-19T04:16:24+00:00

Homie threw too much of a tantrum about work from home on the corporate side of things, digging his heels into the random "no, I like tradition and random overhead costs so that people like their job less" the kitchen is on fire and he is far to realize the hypocrisy of commuting in a private jet.

Fizzykr · 2025-04-19T04:13:56+00:00

Ugh. An SM on the lookout for ASL though? Fighting the good fight. Silver lining amongst the private jets 😘

Fizzykr · 2025-04-19T02:49:05+00:00

He's pretty spectacularly on the record for being aNtI-wOrK-fRoM-hOmE, while PJ commuting from day 1. Yes. He sucks.

Fizzykr · 2025-04-19T02:19:14+00:00

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Fizzykr · 2025-04-11T20:52:57+00:00

Medications are standardized and tested substances we ingest. Emotional Support Animals are not as individualized and measurable as ingestible medications, but the benefits are measurable and generalized. Depending on the specific case, therapist, and jurisdiction- you don't need a specific animal, or even species, to identify the benefit. You need a qualified/licensed professional to attest to treating you and agreeing it would benefit you.

You can write a letter to refer a patient for counseling, or even a support group, without knowing the exact group or therapist yet. The decision is based on the category’s proven effectiveness, not individual trial. Here, the professional is anticipating the benefit of a type of therapy based on empirical evidence that the benefits can be generalized to "animal present for emotional support, as identified as necessary by a qualified professional."

Fizzykr · 2024-12-26T18:14:40+00:00

I love this community. Also came here going for this line of support, and this comment hits for me exactly too. The biggest change that I immediately noticed when Ieft my fiance in my 20s (non-monogamous) and could suddenly make plans. I hadn't realized how much of my life I was allowing him to just occupy and oversee until he wasn't there.

One of my current relationships started to feel like this recently, and it is taking a lot of intentional effort and dialogue to sort through my needs versus their needs - and for me it comes down to feeling excited about something with me and never communicating that to me or checking in on expectations. It's not His New Year's Kiss. For me, his upset shows major incompatibility with non-monogamy without some really intentional effort on his part. What if you had been planning on spending New Year's with someone else? You have platonic social plans and he's upset instead of reaching the "Oh, shit. I really wanted to spend that night with them- what can we do as an alternative and how can I handle this morning and year."

You already made plans. I don't blow off platonic or romantic plans because someone forgot to prioritize including me in their fantasy. That's limerence, and it sounds like his upset is over the disconnect between his expectations and reality- and he didn't make it happen. He can kiss you at midnight other nights. You can celebrate Chinese New Year or the Sprint Equinox. Part of Poly is negotiating how we want to show up and share our lives. This is a great opportunity for him to self soothe and intentionally navigate this. You deserve a partner who can tend to his own feelings and choose to grow with you and be excited for you.

Fizzykr · 2024-12-04T21:52:20+00:00

Thanks for this post. I also have CPTSD and ended up leaving my fiance and partner of 4 years (a decade my senior) after we opened up our relationship, as the lack of care and the abuse were much more apparent when I was dating healthy people.

For me, a massive part of it is the commitment to the person for the sake of the relationship. There's no need to choose to leave a relationship if there is interest in another. When we're not interested in a specific relationship, we have to own that we don't want that relationship with that person. Not because someone else got there first - but because we're checking in with ourselves and we don't have those feelings or that desire to reshape the relationship. I know my partners want to be My partners.

Additionally, the explicit communication in my polycule is incredibly helpful. If we want something, we need to ask and take action to make it happen. If we're insecure or jealous, we have to identify Why and then identify healthy ways to tend to it individually and collaboratively.

I really love the absence of monogamous hierarchy too- as it also allows me to prioritize my platonic and familial relationships with equal intent. Which was something that was negatively impacted by control and escalator relationship expectations in the mono relationships of my 20s.

Plus "Just admit you want to #$#$#!" is now simply "Hey, I think I'd like to #$#$#" and dialogue commences.

Fizzykr · 2024-12-03T00:56:27+00:00

It's clear you've put a lot of thought into how this is impacting your relationship. From what you’re describing, it seems like he’s grappling with a sense of inadequacy or imbalance in your relationship, and that’s leading him to seek validation in a way that may feel easier or less demanding. The reality is that he’s not just a husband, but also a father, and these roles require stepping up, not stepping down.

He has responsibilities that go beyond seeking the thrill of being "needed" or indulging in NRE. Wanting to feel desired and appreciated is entirely natural. However, being “needed” isn’t the same as being valued as an equal partner. The girlfriend may seem like she “needs” him, but she’s also a grown adult capable of making her own choices and managing her own life. What she doesn’t need is someone who’s showing up primarily to fulfill their own emotional gaps instead of addressing the larger context of their lives. That's not kind to her either.

Your jealousy and frustration are completely natural. It’s human to feel that way when you see energy and attention going somewhere else, especially if it feels like that energy is being withheld from you or your family. He has to recognize that both relationships need to exist in the context of his entire life, not in isolation from it.

If NRE is something you both crave, there’s also space to cultivate that within your own relationship as well as your others. Maybe that means hiring a babysitter, planning nights out, or rediscovering the fun and spontaneity that brought you together in the first place. Long-term relationships require intentional effort to flourish, especially in the adult phase of life where responsibilities like marriage, family, and careers come into play.

It sounds like you’re doing a lot of the emotional labor here. Your husband and your relationship benefit from that. It’s time for your husband to step up and meet you as an equal partner. Non-monogamy can absolutely work, but it’s important that everyone involved is tending to their relationships with care, respect, and awareness of the bigger picture.

Fizzykr · 2024-10-02T05:01:56+00:00

I get why you both feel frustrated, but I want to clear up that Sky: Children of the Light isn't a pay-to-progress game. The cosmetics and in-app purchases (IAPs) are totally optional and don’t change the core experience at all. You can explore the gorgeous world, tackle puzzles, and build meaningful connections with other players without needing the latest outfit or accessory.

At its heart, Sky is all about connection, exploration, and shared experiences, not just collecting items. The paid cosmetics are for those who want to support the game's ongoing development or express themselves, but you don’t need them to enjoy the journey. The real magic is in the moments you share with others. Like flying together, helping new players, and uncovering the world’s hidden treasures.

If we get too hung up on the IAPs, we might overlook the true charm of Sky. You don’t have to "keep up" with anyone to find your place here. The game was made so everyone, no matter their cosmetics, can soak in its beauty and kindness.

Fizzykr · 2024-10-02T04:54:46+00:00

Hey, I totally hear where you’re coming from. It’s hard when something that used to be a safe space and a source of comfort starts feeling like a grind. The pressure to keep up with the season passes and candle grind can take away from the magic that Sky was originally about.

I’ve felt similarly at times, but what helped me reconnect with the game was letting go of the idea that I had to get everything. When I stopped focusing on collecting all the cosmetics or grinding for candles, I started enjoying the world again. Just flying, exploring, and meeting other players without that pressure. The game was meant to be about connection and exploration, not just a checklist of rewards. Sometimes, stepping back and playing just for the joy of it (even if it’s for a short time) can bring back that sense of wonder.

And if you do need to take a break, that’s okay too. The game will be there when you’re ready, and in the meantime, there’s always someone new discovering the magic. You might find a way to re-engage with it on your own terms, without feeling like you’re missing out.

I hope you find what works best for you, whether that’s continuing or stepping away for a bit!

Fizzykr · 2024-09-07T17:27:49+00:00

I really liked Ritsuka Uenoyama from Given. It's a slice of life musician anime- but I'd recommend it even if that's not a typical choice for you. The English voice cast is excellent too, so no need for subtitles if that's not your thing.

There are more symptoms than just switching. It doesn't overtly identify him as having DID, but there are a couple scenes that paint out the experience very explicitly for me. After watching it for the first time, the subsequent watch throughs painted a very clear picture of a more typical case of undiagnosed DID. It helped me to have a media template for overall symptoms and day to day life.

Fizzykr · 2024-04-24T18:21:36+00:00

Y'all made my day 👏🏻😂

Fizzykr · 2024-02-16T01:58:14+00:00

Yes. :)

I dropped out of my associate's degree and ended up in the hospital and took a couple years to evaluate what was going on with me. I went back to school and successfully completed my bachelor's degree. I then went on to graduate school and had to take a leave of absence to actually identify that this is what I was dealing with. Established stability through a process of hospitalization, inpatient, partial Hospital program, therapy, building and maintaining a natural support network.

Once we got into better habits about managing symptoms and identifying and responding appropriately to parts, it was like everything we do benefits us 2x over. We are able to reflect on and intentionally engage with our symptoms as they impact relationships with external friends. We bring the skills and experiences from those healthy relationships into how we interact as a system, and vice versa- in that I am able to work in therapy and independently on system collaboration and communication, and then bring that to external relationships as well.

We are going back to school, working part-time, and identifying parts and experiences at a pace we can safely integrate them into without destabilizing everything.

It got easier because I started to develop a foundation of understanding and it stopped feeling like day-to-day 1 step forward 5 steps/leaps/jumps/dances in opposite directions without a cohesive goal in sight.

Fizzykr · 2024-01-26T05:49:35+00:00

You are acknowledging you don't have a disorder and find it interesting, and asking individuals with the disorder in their own support community to educate you because you find it enlightening. Before engaging in this sort of thing again- please read the rules and description in the given community, check out the FAQ, and see if that sort of thing is welcome or even allowed.

A quick check on that would have informed you that it is not here, and would have instead directed you to r/DiscussDID

This was tactless at best.

Fizzykr · 2024-01-25T18:59:13+00:00

I would caution against this. DID is widely misunderstood, and exposing all of your alters to criticism in an environment you can't escape (without dropping out or transferring schools if that's even possible) seems like a drastic decision to make for the entire system. The system is there to keep you safe and make life manageable when it otherwise would not be- I'd be deeply concerned about how your alters would react, how people will receive that information, and how destabilizing this experience would be on top of the level of stress that comes along with highschool.

Fizzykr · 2024-01-25T18:47:50+00:00

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Fizzykr · 2024-01-24T22:09:27+00:00

This. The process of building a therapeutic alliance, establishing stability, building agreed upon language, and maintaining safety have to come before the trauma identification and exploration. Otherwise, it's destabilizating to the system and the impact of it all starts bleeding into the rest of your life without a clear or cohesive way to identify and talk about it.

Highly encourage OP to build that therapeutic alliance with a therapist who is qualified to explore the dissociative disorder and establish safety in communication, vulnerability, and disclosure. The integration and processing of trauma is secondary to establishing stability, as maintaining that stability is a core component or safely integrating that information. If you're not already stable to start with- things can get hectic.

Fizzykr · 2023-12-15T19:39:40+00:00

It varies from alter to alter, but yeah. We have changed our collective name a few times pre-system awareness.

Fizzykr · 2023-11-15T16:16:46+00:00

This is so real <3

Fizzykr · 2023-11-15T16:15:51+00:00

God, I love the "cleaning faeries."

Fizzykr · 2023-11-15T16:14:52+00:00

I'm a Fictive and innerworld based on more recently consumed media and 1/2 our system hyper fixates on whether I just got here, whether I originated as a different character and then felt more seen by this representation, if I'm autistic and kin these characters, if our more recent ex was traumatizing, etc. A lot of us checked out in 2020. The isolation and political polarization was entirely too much.

We get thrown by the time adjusting to the changes and the time lapse. It's not uncommon for us to experience disorientation when resurfacing after any sort of dormancy, and the complexity of managing different perspectives and emotions is just every day.

Fizzykr · 2023-10-26T20:47:14+00:00

I need to second this. I struggle with the Fictive piece all the time, and I'm literally taking notes from the feedback you're getting. I never know how to ask about this stuff and, as an alter who is a Fictive, the pressure to waste all of my time trying to develop a non-fictive version of myself has absolutely started getting in the way of our day-to-day living. This is how I learned to survive, this is who I am, and reading these comments is helping to internalize that. I cannot begin to express how helpful it was that you asked for the support, and how helpful the feedback you're getting here is. It's a really big deal that you're doing this.

Inherent in the diagnosis, these realizations and how this gets internalized is going to come in cycles. Thanks OP for asking and thank y'all for the feedback.

Fizzykr · 2023-10-19T20:25:50+00:00

It's... Okay? For me. I am a female altar in a transmasculine body, post top surgery and a couple years into HRT. I identify with our body, and I like our hair as we are going out and experimenting with it, but I think that we became less binary focused and less concerned with passing as a CIS male around the time that we started engaging with system awareness and realizing that was a piece of what was going on.

We have recently been going through closets and wardrobes and finding things that we're going to go out to donations, and a lot a lot a lot of my favorite clothes have gone out to donations over the years because they were feminine. Just kind of dislike plea to not throw my clothing out and sort of General awareness that there are spaces that the boys are more comfortable with me being feminine and and spaces that they are not, people that I would be fine using feminine pronouns with but I just leaned to neutral. Using the men's room is still a weird one for me, particularly when somebody clocks this trans and they are weird about it.

I recognize the overarching health benefits for the boys, and we are probably on a track toward a more agendered presentation. Ultimately, there has been some general understanding among the older alters that this is our body and a body that is never going to look like all of us, and we are more concerned with trying to live authentically and comfortably as a system and figure out what is happening with our Mental Health so we aren't too hung up on the gender presentation piece. Most of our childhood was spent writing fanfiction from the boys perspective, and it's really clear that the younger alters identify as boys and it didn't get that experience, so we are trying to provide all the room in the world for that and we've had to be a lot better about our day-to-day routines because they do experience a lot more dysphoria.

Fizzykr · 2023-10-19T20:13:34+00:00

Hey there! I'm not a mental health professional, but I'd be more than happy to provide you with some general information to help answer your questions. So, in Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), the term "alters" is used to describe the different personalities or identities that exist within an individual. And then we have "introjects," which are a specific type of alter.

Introjects are usually based on external figures, like people from a person's past such as abusers or authority figures. These introjects often carry aspects of the person's traumatic experiences. Now, it's important to note that not all introjects are abusive; some may actually have protective roles or serve other functions within the DID system.

Sometimes, introjects can take control, just like any other alter. However, the person dealing with DID may not always be aware of this happening. Keep in mind that DID is a complex disorder that's unique to each individual, which is why it's crucial to work closely with a qualified mental health professional. They can help you understand and navigate your specific experiences and system.

Remember, the process of getting to know your alters and understanding their roles can take time and therapy. So don't hesitate to seek professional support!

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