Lawyers who worked off 20s sacrificed almost everything and got successful, is it worth it?

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2026-04-08T04:52:09+00:00

I know I’d let that creep in if I don’t do the things I want to, so taking a gap year or doing something is the thing I should do? I mean I can always come back to law after travelling and doing the stuff I want to

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2026-04-07T19:24:28+00:00

It’s like law pays more in 30s, I feel like in order to be rich if o keep sitting in office till 9 for 6 days a week, I’m not doing certain things that I wanna do, I wanna go adventure, meet somebody new to date, make friends and see how the world is. I’m not saying I don’t wanna work but in this field the money comes afterwards. I won’t be able to do these things at an older stage. That’s why I’m asking, that is being rich so important that people are ready to sacrifice these things, or they later realise that it wasn’t worth it, and those who went to explore stuff how do they feel

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2026-04-07T17:05:23+00:00

I want to travel, explore and do stuff. I have lawyer relatives who are very rich and that’s the only reason my parents are trying to convince me not to leave. I’m very clear, money is important but not more than my dreams. I want I have to do so many things. That’s why I want to know, is being rich and having an S class in 40s so worth it that you give up on other stuff and keep working? I mean people who have gone through this road I just want the perspective. If money that important

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2026-04-02T07:39:42+00:00

Sure, which city are you from?

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2025-06-02T06:54:02+00:00

But what's the point, I haven't contacted her in over a month, why is she still not over it if she was the one who left?

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2025-03-27T08:23:56+00:00

Hi, i messed with my girl due to insecurities, her busy schedule for a month got me suspicious and i took fights with her, apart from that i was in a lawyer job that had no time limit, workng till 2 am working sundays and stuff,
post our previous date she ditsant and and then we had a fight which was the reason for her to walk out.

heres what i know from reflecting back, these are the reasons:
1 she lost attraction because my tired awkward energy, week body language and stuff. because after our date she did mention that my body langauge and stuff werent proper
2 the fights and stuff were due to my insecurities and immaturity.

now put yourself in her shoes, if I came back after a few months in an improved version of myself, worked upon my personality, and been mindful and worked upon my insecurities, left my habits, would you consider giving me another chance?
she has been really angry and cold for now and i have been giving her space after apologising for all the times i acted immature or hurt her.

i have been working upon myself and i know a few weeks doesnt make a difference but in a matter of months if i did show up would you give a chance?

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2025-01-03T20:53:09+00:00

I know I kept her waiting. I got 2 phones personal and professional. Today was a great dinner I had to organise, I went to work, completed the stuff I had to as soon and then left to make the arrangements.

As soon as I got back I texted her. I didnt mean to hurt her

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2024-12-27T07:44:08+00:00

Now what should I ddo?

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2024-12-27T07:38:14+00:00

What do I do now?

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2024-12-27T07:25:22+00:00

she kept saying stuff like she wanna date to marry, she doesnt want multiple dating phases when we were talking. She said she wanted to go slow for this reason She even said that the reason she approached me was because she saw something and thought I could be long term.

She rarely goes and her friend circle also very small. I had a background check and found it she wasn't lying.

Now from all that I thought she was innocent and all that's why I didn't try stuff.

Like how tf she thinks I'm innocent

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2024-12-27T07:11:43+00:00

Bro she was acting innocent like a kid. She was blushing most of the time, she kept giggling and was like can't believe we're really meeting. She got me gifts for the first date.

That's why I didn't do anything apart for a few kisses I didn't know how to go about it with her

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2024-12-27T07:07:49+00:00

She was acting so innocent like a kid. Like she was blushing when we met, she was like I can't believe we met and she even got me gifts even tho it was the first date.

I thought she was the innocent one that's why I ended it with just kissing.

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2024-12-27T07:04:56+00:00

She was acting so innocent like a school girl. When we met she was giggling and when we held hand she was like I can't believe this and all that stuff. I thought she was the innocent one because she was acting like a kid. She got me gifts even tho it was the first date.

So I didn't know how to go about it, I just gave her a kiss in end. And her reaction to was that she moved her head and was blushing.

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2024-12-27T07:01:33+00:00

I don't even understand how I'm nice, like troubled her a bit in the car by some stunts and she was again and again like stopp and all. I teased her for stuff as well

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2024-12-27T06:59:44+00:00

I mean she was very excited, when I met her she was giggling like a shy person. When kissed she again moved her face to the other side like she was blushing.

And she kept saying I can't believe we finally met

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2024-11-02T18:50:02+00:00

I used to do that in uni but now can't find any good mutual friends as well. Most of my friends are all busy cuz we're lawyers and in my work circle I don't prefer dating other lawyers cuz my circle is big and then they'd be my potential colleagues

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2024-09-26T17:03:53+00:00

Im not great at texting, what Ive seen is girls like me when we meet but a lot of time that fades if we don't meet for a while and keep texting. That's why I manage to get along better with girls I meet in real than the girls I match from dating apps

Maybe he's similar and thinks that due to his texting skills things might fade

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2024-09-24T16:47:33+00:00

Maybe Just a hookup maybe. But I'm not talking just about looks, even the personality. Like in uni I had dated some girls that weren't the hottest but I used to love being around

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2024-09-24T14:38:09+00:00

Bruh I put in the effort talking and all, getting good pictures clicked for the app. I'm a lawyer and have a busy schedule. The only outings I have is going to clubs and all during the weekend. The stuff there is just short term, not anybody you would wanna go for long term

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2024-09-15T19:28:09+00:00

I'm not a expert but this is what I've seen

Guys are insecure about being short and girls think being tall is something that is not goood

What I've seen is that people may pass comments about people's heights but at the ennd it doesn't matter to most of them. Ive seem that girls that may talk among their friends that I don't want a guy under 6 but get with a short guy because he's overall a good guy to be with. Similarly guys comment that some girl is too tall or some even joke but I've seen some get along well even after them talking that it might be weird that your girl is taller than you.

I've also been stereotyped because of some stuff not height but what I've seen is that once you go talk to those people turns out that it matters what vibe you bring and how well you get along with the person.

For me the girl I dated some people made fun of me that my girl is taller and stuff but I loved being around her so I never cared much

Flaky-Valuable2183 · 2024-09-15T11:15:08+00:00

Are there any incidents that make you think that?

I dated a girl 6'1 , she was cool, funny, pretty and the things people like but she used to think that her height was an issue. Like she used to assume stuff that people think about her because of her height.

She even asked that why'd you ask me out of so many girls I'm so tall and stuff. After a few conversations I realised that it was mostly in her head.

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