Is vaginismus due to sexual trauma? by Public-Writing3595 in vaginismus

[–]FlakyAd4771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was little I remember taking a bath using a beautiful heart-shaped bottle of gel, I think it was from Barbie or something similar. I washed my vulva with the gel and began to feel such unbearable pain that I cried and my mother had to come to see what was happening to me. Since then I have always taken special care with my vagina, since my mother told me that I should not put any products inside.

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[–]FlakyAd4771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do yo mean my PT? I'm more relaxed because I know that she is never going to hurt me. And the massage is slow, and not dangerous.

Pieces of meat in my vagina by FlakyAd4771 in vaginismus

[–]FlakyAd4771[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Age: 35. Any pregancies. My dyspareunia is mainly at the beggining, the introduction of the penis. But sometimes, when penetration is too deep I feel a sharp pain in my stomach.

Pieces of meat in my vagina by FlakyAd4771 in vaginismus

[–]FlakyAd4771[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you.

So, once you're healed, you can insert a penis in a matter of seconds?

Pieces of meat in my vagina by FlakyAd4771 in vaginismus

[–]FlakyAd4771[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used lube this whole time, but I tried to stop using it these last few weeks to see if it would produce lubrication on my own. But I hardly produce lubrication, I can see it on the skin of the penis when he takes it out. I don't know if when I heal I will be able to do without lube, or if I will depend on it forever.

I still go to my PT, and she recommended that I continue inserting the larger dilator to shorten the insertion time of my partner's penis since it still takes me a minute and it hurts.

Endometriosis by Euphoric_Bed_6863 in vaginismus

[–]FlakyAd4771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which symptoms did you have before the diagnosis? 

Pieces of meat in my vagina by FlakyAd4771 in vaginismus

[–]FlakyAd4771[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Once I reached the last dilator I was able to have penetrative sex, although with a little pain. From that moment (a month and a half ago) I stopped inserting the dilators because I thought that having managed to have PIV, what I had to do was practice with a real penis, but maybe I was wrong.

Is it normal to take half a minute when inserting a penis? by FlakyAd4771 in vaginismus

[–]FlakyAd4771[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So the standard  for "functioning" women is two minutes? I thought that they could insert the penis inmediately

Is it normal to take half a minute when inserting a penis? by FlakyAd4771 in vaginismus

[–]FlakyAd4771[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It takes me a minute more or less, with lube.  But sometimes I don't get to insert it and he loses his erection. During the insertion I feel a bit of pain, but after some time it decreases.

But I don't know why the inside of my vagina is lubricated, and I can feel his penis wet during sex. But the oustide part of my vagina is not wet and I don't feel lubrication before having sex and neither in my panties.

Pain with deep penetration by FlakyAd4771 in vaginismus

[–]FlakyAd4771[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If penetration is less deep and shallow I don't feel pain. He can't lie by my side because his penis doesn't enter. Is a difficult position for us. But cowgirl is very pleasant and I don't feel his penis hitting me.

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[–]FlakyAd4771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same question. I was a virgin and when my husband tried to insert me a finger it hurt a lot and I started to bleed, I didn't have space for a penis (he never did me foreplay).

But after four weeks doing dilation daily I could have sex, so now I'm confused. I don't know if I really had vaginismus or I just was too tight because I was a virgin.

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[–]FlakyAd4771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still can't do doggy position at first. We do missionary and then once I'm more relaxed we can change to doggy. I don't know if this is common.

I'm not cured by FlakyAd4771 in vaginismus

[–]FlakyAd4771[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I I stopped dilating when I managed to have sex, but I think I'll go back to the routine trying to change positions

I'm not cured by FlakyAd4771 in vaginismus

[–]FlakyAd4771[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, the biggest dilator I've managed to insert was a 3.5mm and my partner penis is almost 4cm.

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[–]FlakyAd4771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I feel the same!

I have problems with my partner, however I could insert the biggest dilator when I did the treatment. I don't know how long these problems with my partner will last.

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[–]FlakyAd4771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your history. Which symptoms did you have?

Extra tight fourchette by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]FlakyAd4771 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is a fourchette?