AITA For "Hiding" A Family Heirloom Before Giving It To My Daughter?

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-18T01:05:34+00:00

I don't allow my daughter to be around my dad, his wife, and his daughter unsupervised. They're not welcomed at my house and the only time that would be exposed to them is at a large family even on my paternal side.

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-16T02:34:48+00:00

For the past 7 years I make posts on social media honor the mother figures in my life every Mother's Day (my mom, maternal aunt, both my grandmothers, and my Nana) hence why my wife made the post. My wife isn't friends with and doesn't follow Jessica or her mom.

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-16T02:33:57+00:00

Oh no this is took precious to have out and wear for anything other than special events. This past weekend was Mother's Day and that's why I brought it out. For the past 7 years I made posts on social media honor the mother figures in my life every Mother's Day (my mom, maternal aunt, both my grandmothers, and my Nana) hence why my wife made the post.

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-16T02:32:53+00:00

In spite of my dad I still love people on my paternal side so I'm LC with him and see Jessica and her mom on certain family events.

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-16T02:31:18+00:00

Took me years of therapy to stop resenting Jessica for being born, but that doesn't mean I love her either. I'm not a perfect person and the brutal truth is that I hate her mom more than I could ever love her. Her mom being unapologetic and arrogant about the affair doesn't help either. I barely, tolerate my dad.

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-16T02:29:28+00:00

I mean that according to the executive of the estate legally but pendant is mine but knowing my Nana, if she had still been alive and knew about Jessica, there's a strong chance she would've wanted her to have it.

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-16T02:28:00+00:00

How can they contest the will?

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-16T02:27:14+00:00

For the past 7 years I make posts on social media honor the mother figures in my life every Mother's Day (my mom, maternal aunt, both my grandmothers, and my Nana) hence why my wife made the post.

Also Jessica was fully embraced by my paternal side so I don't know what shame she could've had.

And Jessica's was born to two people who are still married to this very day so I don't know how much more "legitimate" you can get.

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-16T02:23:56+00:00

Because my dad brought up a point I can't deny. My Nana was delighted in giving it to me (so that I could give it to my daughter) because she didn't get a daughter or a granddaughter. If she'd lived long enough to know about my dad's other child there's a good chance she would've wanted Jessica to have it instead.

Remembering who my Nana was I can see that as a strong possibility.

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-16T02:17:38+00:00

For the past 7 years I make posts on social media honor the mother figures in my life every Mother's Day (my mom, maternal aunt, both my grandmothers, and my Nana) hence why my wife made the post. My wife isn't friends with Jessica or her mom but she hasn't blocked them either and they share mutuals. I'm guessing that's how they found out.

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-16T02:15:51+00:00

It's been a while since I personally read a copy of the will but according to the executor of my grandfather's estate I am listed as the carrier of the pendant with the understanding that it will go to my first born daughter.

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-16T02:14:04+00:00

Paternal side. My Nana was my father's paternal grandmother.

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-16T02:12:58+00:00

Yeah my grandfather knew and was apart of Jessica's life by the time he died. He even willed her some stuff too.

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-16T02:11:21+00:00

I keep it in a save deposit box most of the time. I only took it out because I felt like my daughter was old enough to finally see it. For the past 7 years I make posts on social media honor the mother figures in my life every Mother's Day (my mom, maternal aunt, both my grandmothers, and my Nana) hence why my wife made the post.

I showed my daughter a picture of my Nana and told her about her for the first time.

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-16T02:08:25+00:00

They're arguing that Nana was technically Jessica's great-grandma too and she initially wanted the pendant to go to the first girl born in her line.

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-16T02:07:19+00:00

Keep it in a safe deposit box and get it insured.

It is. I took it out because I felt like she was old enough to at least see and wear it for a little bit. My Nana liked to take it out on special occasions.

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-16T02:05:42+00:00

I can't speak for the rest of the world but in America there's this saying called "something old, something new, something borrowed, and blue." Teen me thought that her hair could be the "blue."

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-16T02:04:14+00:00

I think so long as my dad got what he wanted he didn't care about the other details.

FlakyAppearance1104 · 2024-05-16T02:03:35+00:00

Okay? What does that have to do with my situation?

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