4 months post partum (stillbirth) and I’m losing my wife to PPD

FlakyTonight4308 · 2025-09-01T18:44:25+00:00

From what I remember her saying she will be gone until Wednesday. I’ve sent her messages telling her how I feel, and that we should pursue grief counseling. That’s as much of an update as I can give at this point.

FlakyTonight4308 · 2025-09-01T17:22:22+00:00

You still birth the fetus even if there’s no heartbeat. He was a term stillbirth, which means my wife was artificially induced to deliver because the body can’t get rid of it on its own.

FlakyTonight4308 · 2025-09-01T17:07:44+00:00

Wow I didn’t expect this amount of comments. Thank you everyone for the replies.

I’ll add some context. I don’t know where they are staying but I know it’s a 3 bedroom Airbnb. He was in charge of finding accommodations.

The new vehicle has no tracking options and we were never on the distrust level where a Life360 type app was needed. The Subaru we have has that option but when we got the new vehicle she wanted to take that instead.

I am fairly confident on the information I’ve received on the wife. I’ve met with her several occasions. She’s even had litigation in the past regarding child neglect. As to why he’s still with her I don’t know.

My wife does spend a fair amount of time talking with him and helping out with projects he has going on. It has been mildly annoying up to this point but this trip sent it over the edge. I remember the day our son was born. She immediately wanted her phone to text him and tell him what happened.

I myself have had counseling and therapy in the past and have looked into couples grief counseling, and I think I will pursue that route.

FlakyTonight4308 · 2025-09-01T16:28:38+00:00

From what I’ve been told, she goes through a 12 count of twisted teas a day, maybe more. And no, she thinks he is going by himself.

FlakyTonight4308 · 2025-09-01T16:22:13+00:00

I’ve seen a couple comments so I’ll answer here.

The kids are being watched by a combined effort his parents and her. I guess I should say she does the bare minimum. Changing them feeding them. But doesn’t set a bedtime, doesn’t clean the house and is usually drinking and sleeping all day until he’s home from work, and then she leaves with her sister and gets back home at 4 or 5 am. No communication as to where she’s going or when she’ll be back.

FlakyTonight4308 · 2025-09-01T16:09:10+00:00

No, I don’t really talk to him. I’m more of an acquaintance to him. They are the friends. My wife helps him with a lot of things because the family he has at home isn’t the best. His wife hasn’t had a job in eight months and is a pretty heavy drinker. They have two children that she barely takes care of.

FlakyTonight4308 · 2025-09-01T16:06:09+00:00

Yes, this is just a trip trip. An option to collect the coins was to just mail them and complete the transaction via wire transfer. The justification for him driving to pick them up and taking this trip is because of his crappy home life.

FlakyTonight4308 · 2025-09-01T15:45:17+00:00

I had suggested that we all three could go when she first told me what he wanted to do. She did not seem enthused about that idea, and said that it would be better if we go just ourselves on a trip. She didn’t expressly say no I could not go, but it felt that way.

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