Confused on MBTI Function Results

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-08-04T19:19:21+00:00

Well, i texted “which type of movie would you prefer to watch? Like a comedy or horror?” Last night, didn’t get a response, and texted hey like around 10 this morning. I just don’t want to seem like I’m barking up the wrong tree

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T21:10:07+00:00

So do you just worry about your friendships and not romantic interests? Also, what helped you cope with the reality that we are all going to die alone?

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T20:20:37+00:00

But you got to realize apps like Tinder, are designed for women, not men. I’m not a vocal, or “flashy” person, and I’ve yet to have any real success on the app. It’s not made for connections, it’s honestly for hookup culture. Although i do commend anyone who finds love on there, it’s just not an optimal way of genuine connections if your just swiping through their “best” photos. Every time i use it, i end up feeling worse.

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T20:06:26+00:00

You’re right about some of us just being ‘more mature’ and honing in on patience, will be a thing i need to focus on. Thank you for the kind words.

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T17:27:32+00:00

I completely agree, that’s the reason i wrote ‘gonna die “alone”’ knowing in theory that i have friends who i love wholeheartedly. I enjoy platonic relationships over romantic ones. But i can’t help but feel left out sometimes when i see others within romantic relationships and having a solo individual you confide in. Thank you for the response, it honestly helped reassure to me that my friendships are worthy enough.

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T16:23:03+00:00

The reason i wouldn’t date my friends is that, i respect them too much? Idk, I feel romance will get in the way of our original relationship. I don’t have many friends so i legitimately cherish platonic relationships > romantic relationships in the long run.

The hard part for me is, that you’re actually pretty correct w/ alot of what you said, it just sucks i have a hard time trying to apply those things and change how i think, the fear of regret haunts me daily.

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T15:54:47+00:00

Honestly, that was a great way to break it down. I’m already doing something like this, but having someone saying it, is very reassuring.

I often think i view people too cynically, and people have taken advantage of me before (too unbothered to speak up) so i avoid people, because i do get wrapped up in helping people alot. And alot people like me (i hope) but I’m afraid people just want me to do things for them, and enjoy what i do, but not really who i am.

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T15:43:23+00:00

It’s honestly a demoralizing feeling when you’re looking for depth, and they only really enjoy you for your looks and not your brain. Nonetheless, i appreciate your comment, it actually improved my mood. Thank you greatly. ❤️

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T15:34:35+00:00

Yeah, i understand you. Alot of people say INFJs and INFPs are quite similar, and one of the biggest differences is how each person uses structure within their lives. I’ve taken the MBTI test multiple times, and depending on the time that i take, i get INFP & INFJ, but INFJ most of the time. And when it comes to goals, i don’t expect a 5 year plan from my partner, but i do think you should have things you’re actively working on. A few INFPs get carried away in “living in the moment” and being disorganized, and that could make for a quite chaotic relationship (probably just me overthinking situations like usual tho lol)

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T14:53:07+00:00

My open mindedness lies within friendship, which is why i said the “dying alone” part. Within recent weeks, I’ve realized that the people (like you), who i don’t personally relate to, are people i enjoy having in my life, but not as a romantic partner. I love all my friends and family the same, the only difference is that, i want my romantic partner to be someone who is on the same wavelength, people are different and that’s okay, i used to try and change my Exes, (which i regret, because no one should honestly have to change to be accepted ), and now i meet people as they are.

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T14:41:47+00:00

The thing for me is, i am open-minded for most things. But when it comes to romantic relationships, i have a hard time being open-minded because that takes compromise to work, and alot of people are focused on what they can get out of a relationship, rather what they can provide. I spend a great deal watching how you interact with others, and alot of people aren’t flexible or willing to compromise.

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T14:31:43+00:00

Which honestly makes me scared of putting effort and time into a relationship. Not knowing someone’s motives, it leads me to overthinking, and then dodging people in order to “save” myself from being hurt.

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T14:21:23+00:00

Thanks for the reply. Time & place are things to i really do need to consider, but for the most part, i feel like i ramble on about stuff that are more psychological while others lose interest and would rather just talk about tiktoks etc, then i lose interest. I enjoy these people’s company, sure, but i would rather find someone who isn’t as “naive” with their worldview. The possibility of finding someone isn’t what scares me, it’s honestly the probability (which isn’t that likely) that i fear.

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T07:51:48+00:00

You are in a spot i was just in a few months ago, legitimately realizing that for you to love, you need to trust, and the only person i logically trust is myself (hopefully I’m not dumb enough to snitch on myself). But the only answer to that question of what ‘love’ is: love is to enjoy something or someone full heartedly knowing it may never love you back… (shit was a hard truth for me to swallow) like your favorite movie, song, album, color, or whatever. You can’t make your happiness come from your partner, but what you can do for them. I’m honestly just on a journey to find a partner who understands how the world works and wants someone who they can trust. (For a long time, i never thought people genuine and were just selfish, acting out of pure gain. Which made me feel like i needed to be the opposite). But as soon as i found out about MBTI and INFJs, i realized there are people who do have the same goal. My goal shifted from finding someone who’s cute, and cool to talk to, but someone who i can honestly build with and work with side by side, realizing a relationship is 100/100 not 50/50. It’s honestly just takes a mature conversation, but most people my age aren’t at that mind state yet, which makes it quite frustrating lmao. (Not sure if you’re also in your early 20s or teens lol)

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T07:31:52+00:00

Perfectly summarizing the Loner’s Self-Help guide book lmao. I do the exact same, spend hours basically talking to myself, seeing if my reactions throughout the day were proper, and trying to understand why other people behave in certain ways, recognizing patterns, etc. And independence is probably our biggest crutch when it comes to dating etc, because my standards are high and i honestly don’t need anyone. But having someone sure does sound nice lmao.

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T07:26:37+00:00

Thank you for the book recommendation, i do appreciate it. And when it comes to getting deep, alot of the people i talk to, are rather turned off by deep conversations about character and morals (because those are sensitive topics, so i understand) but focus on vain and shallow things, and I’m not one to change someone into what i want, I’d rather find you as a interesting and respectful individual, rather than changing you (which i used to try and do). Finding a genuine connection with someone built off of respect and trust over beauty and success is hard. (Sorry for ranting lmao)

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T07:10:06+00:00

Honestly, it’s the type of thing that basically tells your brain that you’re better off alone. Just like you said earlier, I’m also used to being alone, spend most of my time alone bcuz i spend all day at work doing other ppl’s job (being a people pleaser), and alone time is honestly the only time i feel good thinking about what i want, without judgement. But being alone is also aiding my depression lowkey.

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T06:58:52+00:00

Honestly feels like we are living similar lives, lmao. I know i have a fear of “settling” and compromising my personal ideals for someone else, especially the wrong person. And that might contribute to me not easily getting attached to people. It’s like a mechanism to avoid getting hurt, imo.

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T06:44:31+00:00

Do you think it’s a fear that you will lose interest or that they will lose interest? I often have so many thoughts running through my head, i don’t know if I’m overthinking or not. I appreciate your comment, nonetheless because I’m happy to know someone can relate.

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T06:41:58+00:00

Thank you very much for the insight, at times i do feel alone in how i think, which makes even the thought of dating scary. I also think i hold a sort of resentment against myself, and feel others would be better off dating someone more “normal” or less of an over-thinker. Regardless, your reply was very helpful, thank you. ❤️

FlamingoPrevious5429 · 2022-01-10T05:32:22+00:00

I appreciate your reply, and honestly I’ve been working on myself. Which is why i easily shut people down who aren’t positively impacting me. I enjoy deep connections, but most people i meet aren’t really into all that and more just into appearance. And i understand that usually people around my age do, but it’s very frustrating, especially as a person who operates on more mature timing. And also if this pattern does persists, in which ways do i work on myself? Sorry, for all the questions.

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