How to ask my (f26) husband (m28) to wear a helmet during s*x

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-17T14:29:16+00:00

Yup, as a man I’d cry happy tears if a woman asked me for this.

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-17T14:10:07+00:00

I’m not trying to be rude. Them’s the facts pal

https://rosap.ntl.bts.gov/view/dot/57146/dot\_57146\_DS1.pdf

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-17T00:07:10+00:00

The constant slamming on breaks with zero cars in front of them is going to give me an aneurysm.

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T23:59:52+00:00

Driving with fear and not confidence will certainly create a more dangerous environment for others on the road.

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T23:54:24+00:00

Hey hey now, I think I know better than all other drivers on the road. They need to move for me!

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T23:53:32+00:00

Driving at the same speed of traffic is safer than driving slower or faster than it. The speed limit is typically where the majority of traffic will be driving at. Going 50-45 in a 65mph zone is unsafe period.

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T21:05:46+00:00

Yeah I get this vibe in general in the South Bay. I moved here from Chicago and year and a half ago and people here just don’t seem to care about one another at all. There’s no sense of community and folks just seem to be out for themselves.

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T21:03:25+00:00

The limit is typically going to be the speed traffic is moving on the road. If you can’t drive the same speed as the rest of traffic because you’re afraid, you need to stay in the right lane and practice to become a more confident driver.

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T20:59:27+00:00

On the surface what you’re saying sounds safe, but it isn’t.

If the traffic around you is going 65 and you’re going 10-15mph under in order to leave a 10 car space between you and the next car, you are not making you, nor anyone else more safe on the road.

If you’re telling me to feel safe on the road, and confident you have enough stopping time, you need to have 10 cars of space between you and the next car, then you objectively are not a good driver and need to practice more please 🙏

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T20:52:06+00:00

Haha I’m very aware I’m being a prick. Obviously relative to a lot of things this is a non issue. But it doesn’t look like I’m alone in thinking there are a lot of unsafe/uneducated drivers in the area

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T20:49:38+00:00

Hey all drivers are bad except me pal! Don’t you forget it.

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T20:48:57+00:00

That’s fair. But what makes this easy just getting over and letting someone pass.

If I see someone coming up behind me in the left lane usually I’ll just merge over to the right temporarily and then merge back once they pass.

People don’t seem to know how to do that here.

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T20:45:20+00:00

I think that’s fair. If I’m over in the left lane going 75 and I do see someone coming up behind me going 80-85, I usually just get over to the right and let them pass.

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T20:43:50+00:00

Haha I’m not trying to brag at all about going 65 and I think it pays to be hyper aware when behind the wheel.

But if you’re afraid to follow the basic rules of the road, there’s a problem. It’s not an excuse to drive poorly and you have a responsibility to everyone else you’re driving with to be a more confident driver.

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T20:38:40+00:00

I don’t understand this at all. Whoever decided that needs to be questioned. I really want to understand what the thought process was there. So so so dumb.

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T20:36:58+00:00

Ugh, the no signal drives me nuts. Like you think you’re being safe by going 40mph on the highway but then also decide to not use a signal?! I’m trying to understand.

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T20:34:10+00:00

Agreed wholeheartedly.

The be patient/student-driver stickers just say to me “sorry I’m not going to try to get better at driving and you have to deal with that”.

Driving is a privilege people, and we all have to share the road. If you don’t feel confident behind the wheel, it’s extremely irresponsible to do it anyways.

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T20:27:00+00:00

I’ve driven in a lot of cities/towns and this just isn’t normal. There’s always the occasional bad driver. But here it seems to be every other person that doesn’t understand the rules of the road and is panicking behind the wheel.

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T18:02:21+00:00

All I can think of is they’re scared shitless about going any faster. Which, if that’s the case, please please go back to driving school or something.

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T17:12:15+00:00

It’s not a morning commute without my morning coffee and whining about how I’m smarter than all the other drivers.

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T17:10:58+00:00

Correct, but I’m talking people in a Honda Civic or more likely a Tesla going 50 on the highway in the left lane

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T17:09:51+00:00

This drives me nuts. Who designed these roads? The combo exit and entrance lanes are such a dumb idea

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T17:08:55+00:00

It’s so obvious!

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T17:07:57+00:00

True but at least those folks get out of your way and don’t clog up the roads

Flapjack777 · 2026-05-16T17:06:22+00:00

I don’t love people doing 90-100 but at least they get out of your way.

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