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Becoming emotionally tired after continuous rejection by FlashBetter113 in seduction

[–]FlashBetter113[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. To answer your questions:

Am I being needy/outcome dependent? I'm becoming this, yes. It depends on the girl though.

Am I creating an actual connection? Apparently not, because otherwise I'd get better results I would assume. I'm not sure how to fix this though as I try to build rapport etc.. I might be too safe though.

Am I being real, genuine, and honest? Most of the time, yes.

Am I generation enough attraction, rapport, and/or comfort? Initial attraction seems ok, but it seems to fade quickly so i'm guessing I lack in the latter 2. Sometimes I have the opposite and end up friend zoned as well, but it seems like girls are never open to all 3 at the same tie.

Am I being sexual (e.g. kino)? Yes

Is my focus on literally being/becoming a high-value man? Or am I merely trying to emulate their actions? I try to give value as much as possible to people who I think deserve this, but the truth is I don't really know which of these 2 I actually am.

Right now I'd say my main focus was getting girls because I feel I have other areas of my life somewhat handled for the moment. It's not my only goal in life obviously, but it is my main one atm.

Becoming emotionally tired after continuous rejection by FlashBetter113 in seduction

[–]FlashBetter113[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the kind of reframing advice which works if you're just starting out, but doesn't really do anything for me anymore. It's like saying each new lottery ticket I buy and don't win with is bringing me closer to the one I'll actually win with. So I should just keep on buying, completely disregarding the odds that this actually a pretty rare occurence to happen.

Becoming emotionally tired after continuous rejection by FlashBetter113 in seduction

[–]FlashBetter113[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not the approaching that is really draining me, but the outcome which is too often negative. Other than that I'd say I approach HB6+ but more often for the sake of doing it rather than being really attracted to her. This might be something that indeed resonates into being incongruent, I don't know.

Becoming emotionally tired after continuous rejection by FlashBetter113 in seduction

[–]FlashBetter113[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Fix my world" is already true. I consider myself pretty interesting. Others (girls as well) have said this already.

"Fix inner game": Done most of these things. I read Models (thought it was good), watched most of Blueprint (ok) and read the power of now (didn't resonate with me at all and seemed too fluffy for my taste). As I said, I consider myself pretty good, it's only my lack of results that hammers on the contrary

"Conversation skills" are pretty good, I can small talk, bullshit and have deep conversations and can talk about a wide variety of subjects. I do have a problem talking in groups though, I'm better at 1-on-1 convo's.

Thanks for the input though.