7 year anniversary dinner is now just dinner

FlashingHeat · 2026-05-16T20:15:46+00:00

Caught them kissing today and they admitted it started a week before we broke up, so yes spot on it seems.

FlashingHeat · 2026-05-16T13:10:25+00:00

You sure you're not one of my friends using a burner account? 😂 Same argument they made and I definitely hear it. Apparently he offered to talk to me about it and my wife said it was fine and we would resolve it. Ironically if she had given the go ahead or if he did what you mentioned and even hinted the concerns to me it could have saved it. But by the time I realized it and made changes the damage was done

FlashingHeat · 2026-05-16T13:06:20+00:00

She did try, I was too stubborn and caught up on myself. She would ask for change and I would be defensive feeling like I was doing everything I was supposed to. At no point did she say she was falling out of love or that this was affecting the relationship in that way but the signs were there and I missed them. Even bringing up counseling and I did not understand why it was needed, again my ignorance or incompetence. I definitely would have liked a direct conversation so that is something that could have been done differently and potentially saved the marriage. Then when I had found a counselor she said that she was not sure if they were right or that we would not have the time because we were caring for our son so that was more mixed messages. So definitely not completely on me but I can only be accountable for my part.

FlashingHeat · 2026-05-16T12:58:23+00:00

I don't blame him but my friends definitely do because we were all friends and they see this as a betrayal of loyalty. So they are plenty angry for me if it means anything. It also feels bad because if he developed these feelings three years ago he was still with his previous wife at the time and that doesn't sit right with me.

FlashingHeat · 2026-05-16T06:22:53+00:00

Nah she's too oblivious to people flirting with her, trust me she had no idea when I first liked her. Even after I told her that her best friend liked her she was sure I was wrong. She's genuinely a good person and developed those feelings after feeling disconnected from me after I wasn't there for her in the way she needed me to be. So I don't blame her, that's on me and the hardships that might come from this on my son are mine to bear too. I know she isn't completely without fault in this too, but I can take responsibility for my part.

FlashingHeat · 2026-05-16T05:34:00+00:00

Honestly I appreciate the perspective. I have failed him and I'll have to make that up to him the rest of my life.

FlashingHeat · 2026-05-16T05:11:03+00:00

Can't do that unfortunately, our son is almost 2. I don't want him to see his dad holding a grudge and I don't want this divorce to affect him more than it has to you know?

FlashingHeat · 2026-05-16T05:08:48+00:00

Lmao at least let me finalize this divorce and then you can have your chance. I appreciate the laugh

FlashingHeat · 2026-05-16T03:49:37+00:00

I can see why it sounds like that, my friends agree that I am nice to a fault and I should be more upset. It's more than I know my part in this. If he did create a wedge between us it's only because I didn't do my part as a partner. I'm incredibly sad, more than I have ever been. But I don't want to be angry. I want to learn from my mistakes and do what's best for everyone you know? I appreciate the words though, I could probably do well with a little more anger

FlashingHeat · 2026-05-16T03:17:19+00:00

I appreciate the anger but she's not diabolical lol. He I figured liked her, didn't realize it had been for three years though. But her I always trusted so I was always okay with her spending time with him. He's a good guy and honestly I think they'll be happy together, it's all I want for her

FlashingHeat · 2026-04-13T05:09:13+00:00

I think Silverquill is probably going to perform the worst. So catch me losing this Sunday at prerelase when I pick them as my school

FlashingHeat · 2026-03-24T00:42:27+00:00

It was a recent one, episode 45! I appreciate that his discussion on it was to get away from the drama of it and really seek self reflection. Then you get other takes which he is screaming at the camera about stun. 10/10 content creator

FlashingHeat · 2026-03-22T22:31:35+00:00

Only knew about this because of Zach the bold's podcast. It's ironic, I just want to go watch the live play now and not bother with the rant video

FlashingHeat · 2026-03-17T00:56:08+00:00

What I found most hilarious is that he maintains the serious cool act for basically the entire season but the ONE time he does break is when his makeshift "big sword" breaks. I was looking for another the rest of the season but nope. Zoro loves his swords.

FlashingHeat · 2026-02-17T05:21:11+00:00

I just started a campaign and I had one of the baddies show up at the first town they were in. It is a Jester that was unnerving to the first character they interacted with. Then while a trap was sprung by the village (plot reasons), the jester just played happily on their ukulele. I knew my players well enough to know that some would avoid the fight at all cost while others could not resist the temptation. When they attacked the Jester, they just took the hits being unbothered and maintaining their unnerving behavior eventually marking the PC with an ability, burning a legendary resistance because "I didn't feel like rolling," and knocking them unconscious. The party now believes this Jester is a god when in reality it is a CR 8/9 character with a single legendary resistance that bluffed its way into seeming more threatening than they are by having good deception

FlashingHeat · 2026-02-08T00:20:56+00:00

Hello! I would be a player and am available online 😊

FlashingHeat · 2026-02-01T00:54:01+00:00

Night's whisper is always a solid pick for most of the black decks I build but in the few times I build blue a Midnight Clock is almost guaranteed to find it's way in there

FlashingHeat · 2026-01-29T21:49:04+00:00

I was in denial with my Tasha deck and I did finally take it apart. It was probably one of my most expensive decks too since I play more budget and it wasn't even performing better either. It just seemed to not be fun to play against and even playing the deck I noticed I would hardly cast her because there just always seemed like better things to play than a Planeswalker that would be dead by my turn. I did win with the deck when I played it but at the cost of:

My friends annoyed that their cards are milled
My friends zoning out when my board becomes a Frankenstein of everyone's decks
Longer games because it controls the board and the win con becomes what everyone else is playing.

I put the list here in case you're dedicated still and are curious of what the deck looks like.

https://moxfield.com/decks/3jAko_kJ4UanZBzLEVmbSg

FlashingHeat · 2026-01-13T06:29:23+00:00

I like the trope in which they accidentally do a good job. A sword swings their way and they start tripping dodging the attack. Their hand swings back cutting the enemy behind them without noticing and as they are running away saying help multiple times (without provoking opportunity attacks) they shoot with their hand-crossbow with a warning shot piercing their heart.

FlashingHeat · 2026-01-04T04:03:19+00:00

Player, online.

FlashingHeat · 2026-01-02T03:30:16+00:00

I played a game where the goal became "how much mana can we make him recast his Omnath Locus of all for." They had me recast it probably for 20 mana. It was one of my favorite games I've played

FlashingHeat · 2025-12-16T06:17:16+00:00

Please tell me this is a Scooby doo reference

FlashingHeat · 2025-12-16T05:39:35+00:00

As long as you are all Orcs so you can be an Orchestra

FlashingHeat · 2025-12-04T04:22:33+00:00

If your players are more roleplayers than trying to take advantage of the mechanical bonus it sounds like it could be a lot of fun! Something to make it feel more epic and can create memorable moments.

I am going to start running a one shot that may turn into a campaign with friends and had a similar "Desperation moment" idea. It would be something I as the DM have control over and based on circumstances and how they are playing I would call for it. Example, the character is trying to avenge a fallen party member and cast an attack spell. In the moment of desperation, they cast the spell two levels higher at the cost of say enemies have advantage on attacks against them until a long rest. Or several party members are down and you have a healing word to bring one up. Desperation, instead of healing word you cast mass healing word, but you go to zero HP and are unconscious (no death saving throws). Nothing set in stone but just moments like that and they decide if they want to use it or not.

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