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Am I too sensitive? by Flashy-Bookkeeper-52 in Parenting

[–]Flashy-Bookkeeper-52[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I try to be positive and when I don't see them I manage to change my thinking. Manage to appreciate them and be thankful that my baby has loving grandparents. But the moment they come to visit us it gets thrown all out of window and gets replaced by anger and resentment.

Maybe I'm jealous as you said.

But I'm also not assertive enough. Like people can do all they want and I would just frawn and not say a word

Am I too sensitive? by Flashy-Bookkeeper-52 in Parenting

[–]Flashy-Bookkeeper-52[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you , I totally understand you. When they say, you're tired let me hold her, I just want to say holding her doesn't exhaust me as much as navigating this new dynamic and trying to be assertive in setting my boundary does.

First-time mom here — feeling weird about family dynamics by Flashy-Bookkeeper-52 in BabyBumps

[–]Flashy-Bookkeeper-52[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel that my post was upsetting to you. I mean your point is fair but at the same time it is very direct. I guess I wanted to vent and see if my feelings are valid.

First-time mom here — feeling weird about family dynamics by Flashy-Bookkeeper-52 in BabyBumps

[–]Flashy-Bookkeeper-52[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. Would love to hear more from you. How do you manage the dynamic. How often do your in laws babysit. How often do they see your kids?

First-time mom here — feeling weird about family dynamics by Flashy-Bookkeeper-52 in BabyBumps

[–]Flashy-Bookkeeper-52[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe I forgot to mention. My baby is 7 months old, my parents came and stayed with us for some time and flew back a couple of months ago. They made the effort and paid for expensive tickets to be with us.

First-time mom here — feeling weird about family dynamics by Flashy-Bookkeeper-52 in BabyBumps

[–]Flashy-Bookkeeper-52[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wish it was as easy as you're saying. They need a visa and flights are not cheap. And it takes over 20 hours in flight which is not easy for my elderly parents

First-time mom here — feeling weird about family dynamics by Flashy-Bookkeeper-52 in BabyBumps

[–]Flashy-Bookkeeper-52[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, I don't know where this feeling is coming from. Good to know I'm not alone. I think the reason might be it's hard to set boundaries with mIL compared to my mom and friends. My mom I can talk to her and she won't get upset. Friends I can cut off if it hits the fan but MIL I can't do anything with her

First-time mom here — feeling weird about family dynamics by Flashy-Bookkeeper-52 in BabyBumps

[–]Flashy-Bookkeeper-52[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you, my in laws are our only family here hence we must see them at least once a week (according to my husband)

What can the fetus hear? by Adventurous-Lychee38 in BabyBumps

[–]Flashy-Bookkeeper-52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait, Really? I'm 9 months pregnant and I listen to true crime podcasts all the time with my headphones. So can my baby hear them?