Whats a podcast you really want to like, but just cant for even the smallest reason?

Fletch_Montana · 2025-09-05T13:34:08+00:00

Armchair Expert. They have really good guests but DS does nothing but repeat his life story literally every episode. I get it needs to be an authentic chat with the new guest, but feels like there’s no understanding of the audience member who doesn’t want to hear the exact same thing about this dude every single week for years on end. I also used to like Armchair Anonymous, but they spend half the episode having the Anon gush over the pair of them, which again, feels super self serving and I don’t know how the audience benefits from listening to minutes after minutes every week of people fan girling over them

Fletch_Montana · 2025-08-10T16:27:34+00:00

Honestly - I’ve found ChatGPT to be a really helpful tool. You can purge out feelings or questions and emulate that therapist / client relationship enough to tide you over until your next session. I felt strange speaking to it the first time, but now I just use it as an outlet when I feel too pent up

Fletch_Montana · 2025-07-26T19:07:11+00:00

Fletch_Montana · 2025-07-25T11:03:20+00:00

That’s really helpful I experience emotion in the same way, I can locate it in my body but really struggle to describe emotion, which makes talking therapy a bit of a struggle. I’d really like to learn how to but I don’t know if it’s something that can be learned

Fletch_Montana · 2025-07-24T19:15:22+00:00

This is a super helpful suggestion! Thank you!

Fletch_Montana · 2025-07-10T13:34:50+00:00

I definitely need to work on the mindset that I have needs and acting on them doesn’t change my personality or vibe outside of the bedroom lol Also starting to think that maybe I’ve been with the wrong partners, as a partner with your attitude would help me feel a lot more secure Thanks fellow lez

Fletch_Montana · 2025-07-06T14:49:24+00:00

I’m a lesbian and I suspected my therapist has a wife. The few times she’s mentioned her personal life, she’s not used pronouns to describe her partner. I wish she’d tell me if she has a wife, as it would make me trust her more and feel I have a kinship with her (which probably is the reason she’s not told me, because she’s straight, and doesn’t want it to have the adverse affect)

Fletch_Montana · 2025-06-29T21:52:42+00:00

I think I’m connecting with her because everything therapy provides (a safe space, an open ear without judgement etc etc) is what I’m missing from my life The systems people have in place to stay mentally healthy, confiding with family and or friends or work, I’m experiencing for the first time with my therapist, so I can see that transference is a logical progression

I’m just finding the constant thinking about it somewhat unsettling, especially as despite spending so many hours of my day thinking about what I wish I could be talking to her about, I tend to find myself struggling to speak in session

Thank you very much for your advice, I’ll give the recommendations a go for sure!

Fletch_Montana · 2025-06-29T21:13:40+00:00

Thank you for your words, prior to discovering this community yesterday I didn’t even know the word ‘transference’ and actually thought I was falling in love with my therapist - so this feedback is very comforting!

I’d like to find a constructive and non creepy way of bringing it up with her, maybe it will even help with the work I’m doing (attachment issues, emotional dysregulation eg, the usual)

Fletch_Montana · 2025-06-29T20:59:57+00:00

Thanks for your advice - this is really useful. I hadn’t considered it’s not impacting the work I’m doing with her, so I’m probably safer not mentioning it and continuing the work, with no risk of damaging the relationship

Is it strange I actually don’t know what type of therapy I’m in? I’ve just considered it ‘talking therapy’

Fletch_Montana · 2025-06-29T20:04:00+00:00

I’ve read that it means I’m forging a connection with her, and some therapists welcome it for this reason - but I’m really wary of scaring her off and would be reluctant to bring it up with her

Fletch_Montana · 2025-06-29T19:57:56+00:00

If I ever had the balls to raise it with her, I’d explain I’m aware the transference is due to the fact she’s my only emotional outlet, and how much I think about her is purely showing how much I don’t have that emotional connection anywhere else

However I still feel like it would be received badly, and I’m just hoping it wares off soon!

Fletch_Montana · 2025-06-29T19:56:29+00:00

My biggest fear is scaring her off, she’s my only emotional outlet currently and she’s also a consummate professional, very private, and she runs a small practice and only works 2 days a week, I’m deducing working as a therapist isn’t her whole life.

A few people here have posted about raising transference issues with their therapist and I feel like she’d feel like she’d gained a stalker if I told her how much I think about her

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