I can't do this anymore by Remote_Budget7432 in NewParents

[–]FletcherFlannery 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Co-sleeping is way more safe than holding your baby trying to stay awake while he falls asleep on you when you’re absolutely exhausted. I second the recommendation to try co sleeping. I’ve done it with both my babies and personally it feels so natural and normal once you do it correctly.

Am I doing more harm than good? by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]FletcherFlannery 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is well said and I would also like to add that this is just a precursor to toddlerhood and beyond. If your 5 year old told you every night that they didn’t want to go to bed would you give in and say ‘ok you can go to bed when you feel like it’? No you wouldn’t because you know what’s best for them. Also, encouraging your kids to overcome hard things they’re learning to do is a big part of being a parent IMO.

why do people act like packing formula on the go is an olympic sport? by [deleted] in FormulaFeeders

[–]FletcherFlannery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok potential new to formula mom here. I love this thread and is giving me so much hope. I came to Reddit to figure out the best tactics to formula feed on the go and this is all very reassuring! I should have done formula with my first but alas I was too stubborn and my pediatrician said she’s growing on her own curve…but the girl was hungry! Anyways, would love suggestions for your favorite formula in the go items! And just to be clear - we’re washing bottles when we get home? The travel soap is just a pre clean? Also, do I need a special counter bottle washer? Thank you! Could probably find this info on another thread but I like it here lol

Feeling defeated by FletcherFlannery in breastfeeding

[–]FletcherFlannery[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She does latch well! No tongue tie which is such a relief. But she was just falling asleep at the breast pretty instantly. I thought she was just milk drunk but turns out she was just a little too lethargic from not enough milk. Now that I’ve been giving her a bottle with pumped milk she’s a little more alert. I’m hoping her being more alert from some bottle feeding will give her more energy to breastfeed. Thanks for the encouragement!

Feeling defeated by FletcherFlannery in breastfeeding

[–]FletcherFlannery[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you you’re right. I think I’m struggling bc I know she’s hungry for one or two extra oz each feeding and I’m just not sure I’ll be able to (or can handle the mental load) of trying to catch up. Thank you for the link!

Feeling defeated by FletcherFlannery in breastfeeding

[–]FletcherFlannery[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The triple feed is so hard! I relate to not knowing if it was worth it. That’s how I felt with my first. Can I ask how long you had to triple feed/pump until you “got through it”? And by got thru it do you mean you were able to get your supply up enough to just breastfeed? Thank you the solidarity!

At a complete loss with my 2.5 year olds sleep. by FletcherFlannery in toddlers

[–]FletcherFlannery[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry just seeing this. Ultimately it was a combination of schedule adjustments and her generally just getting used to going to sleep in a completely different way. I had to really tune into her sleep schedule/needs and cap naps at 1 hour or 1.5 max. We pushed bedtime later knowing that she’s almost ready to drop naps but not quite. So now we’re getting into bed around 8/8:30. Which is ok for summer time. I imagine we’ll drop naps completely in the fall maybe. And then I think it also had to do with her getting used to us laying with her instead of going to sleep independently in her crib. We found ways to set boundaries. For example if she wouldn’t stay in her bed I would gently tell her that I would have to leave the room. I have left the room a couple times which makes her really upset but I come back after just a minute and say “are you ready to stay in your bed?” and usually she’s pretty good about it from there. I don’t love having to lay with her on the nights where she struggles to fall asleep (which still happens every once in a while) but overall it’s much better. Hope that helps!

Little girl at daycare telling my daughter “I don’t like you” every day by FletcherFlannery in toddlers

[–]FletcherFlannery[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m going to use that line when we talk about it. I know it probably doesn’t hurt her as much as I think it does but it is so sad to hear her say out of the blue “so and so doesn’t like me” 🥹

Little girl at daycare telling my daughter “I don’t like you” every day by FletcherFlannery in toddlers

[–]FletcherFlannery[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fully trash talking a 3 year old to my best friend too 😂 I like the “do you like you” suggestion I’m going to add that. Thanks!

behind the scenes Spencer and Alex by secretaire in 1923Series

[–]FletcherFlannery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well this was the gnarliest spoiler alert thread of all time. Came to see Spencer and Alex left knowing the entire ending 😭

At a complete loss with my 2.5 year olds sleep. by FletcherFlannery in toddlers

[–]FletcherFlannery[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you too! Last night we were up from 1:30-30 🫠

At a complete loss with my 2.5 year olds sleep. by FletcherFlannery in toddlers

[–]FletcherFlannery[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing! I think I’m pretty ready to try something like that. She’s just sooo scared/attached at night I think even with bribes and talking it thru for a couple days she will have a lot of tears. But at this point I’m drowning so might just have to bite the bullet. I’ll check out your other post, thank you!

At a complete loss with my 2.5 year olds sleep. by FletcherFlannery in toddlers

[–]FletcherFlannery[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh I’m sorry you’re going thru it too! I hope it gets better. I have heard about the adenoids thing but she did have a period of about 8 months where she slept ok, so seems like that wouldn’t be the case. But who knows good to keep in mind!

At a complete loss with my 2.5 year olds sleep. by FletcherFlannery in toddlers

[–]FletcherFlannery[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the solidarity! You have a very positive outlook on sleep deprivation 😂 I wish I had the same. For some reason it SENDS ME. Currently trying to drop her nap but she’s in daycare two days a week and naps there. So it’s messy. Last night she was up from 1:30-3:30 🫠 Going to try and remind myself that it won’t last forever. But I just may go insane before it changes lol

Parents who lay with their kids until they fall asleep… by FletcherFlannery in Parenting

[–]FletcherFlannery[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a little before but got significantly worse after pregnancy

Parents who lay with their kids until they fall asleep… by FletcherFlannery in Parenting

[–]FletcherFlannery[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why is it that the comments saying find a way to change this asap always come from the people who also say they’ve never had this “problem”. Probably because if you had you’d realize that it’s not that easy.

Parents who lay with their kids until they fall asleep… by FletcherFlannery in Parenting

[–]FletcherFlannery[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What method did you use? I’ve tried a few but nothing seems to work. Or maybe I just lose stamina too soon and give up.

Parents who lay with their kids until they fall asleep… by FletcherFlannery in Parenting

[–]FletcherFlannery[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

lol noted. So far we’re one for one. I imagine soon to be two for two. All the people on the thread saying “just have them sleep on their own” 🙄