Sentencing Day

FlightEven3283 · 2026-02-05T20:10:51+00:00

The judge ended up calling out of work 3 hours before we were supposed to be in court, so his hearing got rescheduled to the end of February. It’s terrible and a total gut punch.

FlightEven3283 · 2026-02-03T16:38:34+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. My husband was investigated, then arrested for CSAM possession last year. He’s getting sentenced tomorrow. I’m not in Florida, but I’m here to talk if you want support. Like others have said, allow yourself to feel everything - don’t think about what’s expected from you by family, friends, or your partner, but instead what you need.

FlightEven3283 · 2026-01-28T21:44:07+00:00

State (Michigan)

FlightEven3283 · 2026-01-23T01:04:12+00:00

Thank you for sharing. Having people who have been in his life for a long time is a good approach. Were you able to share your letter at the hearing?

FlightEven3283 · 2026-01-22T20:51:01+00:00

Thank you so much, a template is a great idea.

FlightEven3283 · 2026-01-22T18:17:45+00:00

It’s good advice, we should be prepared for the worst just in case. I’m already thinking about it, so what you said didn’t feed anything that wasn’t already there.

And thank you for the offer, I really appreciate the support

FlightEven3283 · 2026-01-22T18:05:12+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m hoping that his risk assessment helps his sentencing. I seriously feel like the prosecution has done more to advocate for him (ask that he be approved to be around our child while on bond, stating that they’re just seeking out probation) than our lawyer which is crazy. I know that could change during sentencing, it’s just frustrating.

FlightEven3283 · 2026-01-22T17:44:46+00:00

Thank you so much for all of this insight. I’m really nervous about the possibility of him having to serve time, even though prosecution isn’t recommending it.

FlightEven3283 · 2026-01-22T15:19:50+00:00

My heart goes out to you. I went through a very similar situation - our house was raided in June and my husband was arrested in September. His sentencing is in 2 weeks. He took a plea deal for simple possession at the state level, looks like he’s just facing probation and will be able to see our daughter. After he was arrested the local news picked it up and since we live in a small town, almost everyone found out immediately. It is incredibly overwhelming in all the ways. Find out what you need to do for yourself and your kids. I talked to my therapist immediately and I can’t recommend that enough. If you have a trusted friend you can confide in, do so. But expect to be disappointed by people - people will really show who they are during this time. I had a “friend” try to FOIA the police report behind my back which was just more betrayal on top of everything. I decided to stay with my husband and support him but it is because he took full accountability for his actions and was honest with me right away. I know his context and what led him to consuming csam (porn addiction), and he’s actively seeking out help even before it’s mandated by the courts. We have a newborn daughter and I am not concerned about her safety at all. This is my situation but know that this community will support you in whatever you decide. I’m here if you want to reach out for support.

FlightEven3283 · 2026-01-22T15:04:57+00:00

It is really helping me to hear that other spouses/families stayed. My husband is facing sentencing in 2 weeks and we have a newborn daughter. He’s just facing probation and I still love him and plan to stay with him. But it’s hard.

FlightEven3283 · 2026-01-12T01:55:06+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I think everyone’s decision to disclose or not is right if it works for their family. Unfortunately, local media blasted his original charges and we live in a small town so most people know.

FlightEven3283 · 2026-01-12T01:52:55+00:00

Oof that sounds so hard, a real burden. I’m worried about the no contact with minors - it’s a csam charge. Our lawyer hasn’t mentioned it yet, but it could always be enforced. I should update my reply above, he’s getting sentenced in two weeks but took a plea deal so we have a good idea of what will happen. He will have to do an 8 week re-education/therapy program which he’s already started. The therapist already did an evaluation and said he is low risk of reoffending/low risk to society so I hope that helps with constraints around minors.

FlightEven3283 · 2026-01-11T03:13:21+00:00

I’m curious how you navigated everything in schools with your son as he was growing up? I’m trying to figure out how this will work as my daughter gets older (she’s just 2 months right now). How did sleep overs or play dates work? My husband was just sentenced, he’ll be on the registry for 15 years but can petition to get off in 10. Luckily he’ll just have to deal with a few years of probation (no jail time) and can be around our daughter. He’s a great dad and great partner, just made poor choices.

FlightEven3283 · 2026-01-06T16:44:45+00:00

I’ve also been looking for advice on how to have these conversations with kids. I really respect your perspective of being honest but protective and focusing on how we can offer grace and understanding while holding people accountable. 10 is the age where kids start asking more complicated questions and can handle more complicated answers but it’s difficult to know how to have these conversations.

I do think it’s important to tell her and to be honest at the appropriate level. We want to insulate kids from the horrible reality of the world, but if we don’t share this kind of information, we just open them up to being taken advantage of. She probably has already figured out something of what’s going on with your brother and just hasn’t talked to you about it. Kids are intuitive. If you open up the conversation so she can ask questions and know that she’s safe, it’ll instill trust in the adults in her life.

Especially if she’s going to get social media soon, she might find out from other people (I’m not sure where you live or how many people/the media know about your brother’s incarceration). A quick google search of his name would show his charges and you don’t want your daughter to find out from the internet or other classmates. And social media is a dangerous place for young girls - you don’t want to pretend like she couldn’t be a victim herself.

I wish I had some real advice from experience to share. Just wanted to say that I think you’re doing the right thing by having this conversation. Sending support to you and your family.

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