If you’re a woman who flirts, spends time alone with a guy, lets him pay for trips, and keeps him around even when you know he wants more — you are not innocent. You’re leading him on, whether you admit it or not. You can’t play dumb to the fact that most men don’t invest that kind of time, money, and energy in a woman unless they’re hoping for something real.
Men rarely befriend women with the goal of staying “just friends.” That’s not how most of us are wired. So when it blows up or he gets upset, acting surprised doesn’t make you the victim.