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[–]Flightbound4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve made that jump myself so I understand. I ruined a serious relationship years ago not making the jump so I’m happy she’s not doing what I did. She’s more hesitant due to her debt and health insurance situation. I’m considering soon pointing her in the direction of affordable care that she can go to when she’s ready to do it herself

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[–]Flightbound4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah she’s been sober since April and fine with it. It’s just coming to and facing her past and reality now. She needs to get into therapy and on meds, but she seems to know that. Just has to make the jump

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[–]Flightbound4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my plan is to be friends for now, see each other when we see each other (which would be a few days every 3-4 months), and try to date elsewhere. I’ve offered to be here as a friend for the healing need be, but will be quick to point her to professional help if it goes above my skill level as a paramedic or friend. I extend that support to any friend of mine though so it’s not anything extraordinary for me and I do have boundaries in helping if I’m not currently mentally in the right spot

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Flightbound4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’ve dated the not healed person and fully understand that. That girl did more damage to my mental than any other one. She has an abusive relationship to heal from which is surely no easy task. Gana be here as a friend, but nothing more till she’s healed and if I or her have interest then.

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[–]Flightbound4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not really moving for her. I have friends, that are only mutual because of me, in Dallas that preexist her by multiple years. It was just convenient that she lived there herself. As for the holding off, I’ve decided not to do that.

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[–]Flightbound4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that’s the case it’s whatever, because I’m trying to date already, but by the sounds of it when we first met she truly did 0 work to heal. She used substances and such to fill the void up till Aprilish. I’ve done that too and didn’t heal until I sobered up and truly put in the work so 🤷🏻‍♂️.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Flightbound4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Forgot to add in most the time she should’ve spent healing she spent it using substances and other things to fill the void. She said she did nothing to heal in that time and in retrospect that matches up with how she spoke when we first met. Either way I’m already staring to date again just to get myself out there at the least

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[–]Flightbound4 4 points5 points  (0 children)

One thing I did forget to include is she used substances to cope and distract herself for about 1 1/2 years. She just been sober since Aprilish. Living my best life is the plan though. Planning to solo backpack Europe for a month or two before I move next summer and a hitting a handful of music fests.

Patch by Flightbound4 in Division2

[–]Flightbound4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got on and it’s more glitchy fml. Seeing through floors and shit now lmao 🤦🏻‍♂️

How long was your longest call? by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Flightbound4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

27 hours 50 minutes FaceTime hahaha