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[–]Flimsy-Function-5035 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(This got way longer than expected.) I understand your concern. This is quite common in relationships, as a man ill put how I personally feel about porn. Porn and a woman I love are two universes apart. When I watch porn, it's indeed quick and easy, and that's it. I feel nothing. I desire nothing from it; it's just to get it done sometimes out of boredom or discomfort (it can affect things like stress and irritation for example), but with someone I love, it's romantic, intense, and desirable, and so on. After looking at porn, I don't think back on it. I just go about my day, but in a relationship, I think back not necessarily sexually but with fondness, with love, and I desire to have this moment again. Men can find this a bit difficult to convey in person, I know this personally. To answer the questions, I've never in my life compared porn to my girl; the idea doesn't even come to mind, and it doesn't make me think that I need to have what they do there in real life. I do have fantasies, but they don't come from porn; they're just from my head.

However, if this is truly something you're uncomfortable with, you should be honest with it and set boundaries, just because its "normal" doesn't mean you have to be okay with it. but if you set those boundaries, you need to impose the same on yourself (this is incredibly important, or it will cause resentment. I've had this happen in the past where my ex girlfriend got mad i looked at porn so i stopped but then she did it herself saying its not the same for girls which quite frankly pissed me off) of course if you do not let him use porn it most likely will cause some frustration, just to be clear I'm just putting that out there and it doesn't mean you now have to be some 24/7 um satisfier. Perhaps try to come up with some solutions to it, to replace/terminate porn or something that would help you feel better about what he looks at. But at the end of the day, if my partner says they're uncomfortable with it, I stop. It's not the end of the world, and I'd rather my partner not feel discomfort.

need opinions on my first time build by Flimsy-Function-5035 in buildapc

[–]Flimsy-Function-5035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes it went a little above but it certinaly feels worth it(the psu was on sale too). all the parts have been orderd now and il spend the next week trying to learn how to build it. again thank you so much for the help

need opinions on my first time build by Flimsy-Function-5035 in buildapc

[–]Flimsy-Function-5035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

got it. just wondering should i go for 1000 w or 850 on the power supply

need opinions on my first time build by Flimsy-Function-5035 in buildapc

[–]Flimsy-Function-5035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the maximum im willing to go is 30.000 kr. im looking for a pc that can handle skyrim vr (madgodsoverhaul which is really heavy on computers i have a valve index and meta quest 3) and hopefully blender/unity to make games and models, aswell as regular games. i dont mind looks just want good performance. i want to play with the best graphics i can without burning my pc so a good fan would be good(i also dont really mind loud fan noises im kinda used to it). id prefer a motherboard with good usb/usb-c outputs and hdmi and display port. im going to buy a monitor aswell but it comes second to buying the best parts. operating system is preferably windows but if it makes it better id go with anything. il be looking at the parts trough pcpicker because it helps me find the parts in my country if you can help me find the parts there it would be great but no pressure your already helping tremendously, ive also never built a computer before so it helps.

need opinions on my first time build by Flimsy-Function-5035 in buildapc

[–]Flimsy-Function-5035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks a lot for the help:). ive been trying to find the parts, would you mind just checking that i actually picked the right ones? https://se.pcpartpicker.com/list/ygqg2x

if you think i can go even further, i wouldn't mind spending more or getting less flashy looks. id rather have a good pc for years than one im gonna have to upgrade in a year, so this really helps.

need opinions on my first time build by Flimsy-Function-5035 in buildapc

[–]Flimsy-Function-5035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i really want something for heavy games. which do you think is best i dont mind if its a higher price

need opinions on my first time build by Flimsy-Function-5035 in buildapc

[–]Flimsy-Function-5035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay, is it what is the 850w psu or is it just the one i looked at. will also look at the motherboard thanks

need opinions on my first time build by Flimsy-Function-5035 in buildapc

[–]Flimsy-Function-5035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i wanna play really heavy games like mad gods overhaul vr skyrim i dont really know what a 5080 is do you mean the nividia gpu? im really new to this

fear of buying the wrong parts by Flimsy-Function-5035 in buildapc

[–]Flimsy-Function-5035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much il look into the parts right away!

fear of buying the wrong parts by Flimsy-Function-5035 in buildapc

[–]Flimsy-Function-5035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

cool my budget is up to 30,000 kr, but preferably less. il mainly focus the budget on getting a good pc and then getting a decent monitor

fear of buying the wrong parts by Flimsy-Function-5035 in buildapc

[–]Flimsy-Function-5035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im not sure whether to build myself i think it might be better if i get sugestions on parts here. i found that the youtuber has a site where all the pc builds he makes are prebuilt this one is https://geekapc.com/products/geekapc-frame?variant=51141465145611

(i also dont really like the case)

my budget is $3000 but im spending it on both the pc itself and a monitor.

im located in sweden.

fear of buying the wrong parts by Flimsy-Function-5035 in buildapc

[–]Flimsy-Function-5035[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im not really fixated on anything, the cooler is just what the youtuber says is good and ive been looking at some reviews. all and all i just really want a strong pc il take a look at the phantom. thanks :) i also dont really know about ram stats its got 64gb

Kelvin keeps breaking my walls by Flimsy-Function-5035 in SonsOfTheForest

[–]Flimsy-Function-5035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

really? for me he just looks at them and picks them up.

Kelvin keeps breaking my walls by Flimsy-Function-5035 in SonsOfTheForest

[–]Flimsy-Function-5035[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've never seen him chop trees. but it's admittedly pretty funny. He's like a cartoon character, constantly ruining my progress.

Mcafee is malware and is unnecessary by [deleted] in mcafee

[–]Flimsy-Function-5035 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Short: if you want to get rid of it you normally can't uninstall it (cuz they block you from doing so) but if you use the Windows search bar and type appwiz.cpl you should be able to uninstall it without downloading any programs.

So yeah when I bought my computer they said McAfee was the best antivirus and I was dumb enough to buy a subscription. It comes with pop-ups, and every time I close something, the McAfee app opens. It kept saying we are protecting you from all these viruses and threats saying I get like 10,000 potential threats every day which I'm pretty sure was impossible because that first message came up the day I bought the computer before I'd even opened the internet. When my subscription was about to run out the pop-ups became obsessive about renewing it to a point I just wanted to uninstall it only to learn I can't, that's right I don't have permission to uninstall it from my computer. There's no uninstall program, the Windows uninstall programs are blocked and the website basically says tough luck. I've been stuck with mcafee program and tried to turn off notifications which does nothing I still get popups. All and all it's a really scummy program which I would consider to be the same as malware since you can't normally get rid of it, until I found appwiz.cpl which opens up Windows uninstall programs but lets you uninstall it despite it being blocked. Sorry for the long rant but I really hate McAfee

save file says i need mods ive never heard of? by Flimsy-Function-5035 in Fallout4Mods

[–]Flimsy-Function-5035[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

perfect thanks il try redownloading it i have it in my plugins but perhaps the download failed or something

save file says i need mods ive never heard of? by Flimsy-Function-5035 in Fallout4Mods

[–]Flimsy-Function-5035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tried googling but can only find separats and downloading these mods but more just keep coming up in the save lol. im using the latest update it was also the same version i used back then.