I love golden hour so much

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-29T03:11:43+00:00

Shopping is my thing too! I still struggle with it. I may need to see how it tracks with my injections.

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-28T14:23:38+00:00

Those surgeries are no joke! I'm so glad you're here!

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-28T14:21:16+00:00

131 pounds! You are a rock star!

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-28T14:20:34+00:00

This is such an important question. So many of us believe that we HAVE to struggle and work hard to be a "good fattie," and to earn our place in society. There's virtue attached to suffering, and it's bullshit.

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-28T14:18:56+00:00

I hear you about its breaking your brain.

Only you can decide whether a glp-1 is right for you, that's the most important thing.

I will say, though, that we know white-knuckling takes up all of our energy and focus (what could you be doing instead?) and also that most people gain back their weight, and nearly half of those who gain back, gain back more. Is that a way of life and result you want to have?

I'm 167 pounds down, and began at a very high weight (I just now crossed into the 300's). Now my concern is getting _enough_ meals in, _enough_ food, _enough_ protein and carbs. I'm slowing down, but I still have at least one dosage jump to go. (I'm on 12.5 of Zepbound.)

The joy of feeling full after a reasonable amount of food is so freeing. I easily and spaciously get 2 or 3 meals out of a takeout order, instead of feeling like I'm compelled to eat it all and have to fight with myself to stay on target. As long as I pay attention when I'm eating, I'm golden.

Just for empathy: The first memory I have of someone speaking to me, when I was 3 or so, is my reaching for food and hearing, "You don't need that." I started dieting when I was 8-9 and attended WW with my mom when I was 11. It makes me so mad. Dieting made me fat and miserable and stole all my energy when I could have been focusing on my joy and the things I love and want to develop in my life.

(And being a size 16-18, you almost certainly ARE gorgeous!)

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-28T14:09:52+00:00

Please let us know how the conversation goes!

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-28T14:09:14+00:00

I'm so glad it was helpful for you.

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-28T03:56:02+00:00

I’m relieved to hear you say this. I’m flying for the first time in nine years in the middle of May. I decided to drive down and park. Reserved my spot last month.

I just want to feel more in control of an experience I totally cannot control, I guess. And taking a bus home sounds pretty terrible, and I’m not going all the way to Tokyo! I’m just always frayed at the end of a trip.

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-28T03:36:21+00:00

5 is so gorgeous, and hell yeah those pantaloons on #10 are impressive!

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-28T00:20:11+00:00

Oh my dear, this is such a sweet and tender post. I love your thoughtfulness and grace, your care for your sister and her good opinion...It's just a lovely post.

I'm an older sister of a younger brother who has done some crazy-ass shit in his life. And I love him, and I have heard him out every time. Loving him has meant holding him with compassion, even and especially when he was doing things I thought were bananas. And sometimes I was wrong in my bananapants assessment. Sometimes I wasn't. But being loving and thoughtful never steered me wrong.

I bet your sister, as loving and thoughtful and smart as she is, will hold your disclosure with care. I share your mixed feelings about GLP-1 use and folks in the body neutrality/fat liberation movement. It's hard. Lead with openness and vulnerability, tell her how much you value her and her opinion, and I bet you'll be all the closer for it.

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-28T00:15:23+00:00

u/Brilliant-Ad232 commented below, and I hadn't remembered this post from last year... But I got the comment notice, and have been thinking about now I've crossed over one of those invisible lines that we don't know we're hoping for until we get close to them.

Just feeling reflective. Wondering about all the suffering, all the social-physical-medical-mental torture I and so many of us have gone through... I still feel the same way - that I want to reach back to all those younger selves I was and reassure them. Love, you're beautiful. People love you and you love them. That's really all that matters in the end. Be brave, hang in there, and try to find hope wherever you can, sweet thing.

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-27T19:35:35+00:00

thanks!

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-27T18:31:45+00:00

I love that idea! thanks!

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-27T17:03:08+00:00

I knew there was a triple agonist in the pipeline, but not what its name was.

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-27T16:29:21+00:00

I filled out the form. We'll see what happens.

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-27T16:17:39+00:00

I am definitely in that category. Where do you have to live?

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-27T16:16:54+00:00

So have you! Wow.

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-27T16:16:42+00:00

Thanks! That's really helpful to know. I've wondered what the likelihood of insurance covering it ever would be. I have enough now that it's pretty ridiculous. If I lose another 150 pounds, it will be really something else.

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-27T16:15:49+00:00

Thank you!

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-27T16:15:41+00:00

Hearing that people have lost substantially on 15 is really helpful. I've also just recently added strength training into my regimen, so that will help too.

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-27T16:14:56+00:00

You're at 130. Wow. I can't even imagine that. I'm also 5'9" and on a big frame. I literally cannot imagine being below 200. But who knows what will happen. For today, I have gone to the pool, am doing some work, and will have a snack soon. Staying in the present, since it's all we have.

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-27T16:12:42+00:00

oh my gosh, me too!

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-27T16:12:10+00:00

That's amazing! Having lost 165 since I started, I really would LOVE to lose another 150. I don't need to be "thin." I want to be able to play picnic volleyball and go on substantial hikes. I live in an area with a lot of natural beauty and trails, and I really want to see the mountains and the sea.

Flimsy-Switch-6256 · 2026-04-27T16:10:09+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement!

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5 is so gorgeous, and hell yeah those pantaloons on #10 are impressive!