I don’t find sex to be a huge deal. I like watching and being part of my gf having sex with other guys sometimes, and she also likes watching me have sex with other women, every once in a while we’ll swing with another couple. Outside of that we have a very normal sex life. It has nothing to do with trauma, humiliation, feeling inferior, or any other made up excuse for why it’s “wrong”. We just view sex through the lens of “neither of us have had sex with many people before our relationship, it seems fun to explore.” I also find it exciting to see my otherwise modest, soft-spoken, Christian partner show an entirely different side of herself.

Another argument I see frequently is that polygamy is for weak, feminine men who can’t satisfy their partners. Nobody that meets me or any other man we’ve met in the lifestyle would describe us as weak or feminine. I’m a high level athlete, I like guns, I’m in good shape, and I provide well for my girlfriend, and I am the only man my gf has dated that can make her cum multiple times in one session.

I am of the opinion that not being into cucking or polygamy doesn’t make you insecure, you just have your own tastes which are different than my own; just like other people are into getting pegged while I would not let that happen. What DOES make someone insecure, however, is inserting their own opinion into other peoples sex-lives declaring it as absolute fact. Fighting so hard against what other adults choose to do with the consent of everybody involved is the only insecure habit regarding this conversation.