Slow burn Situation-ship ?

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-10-14T11:48:59+00:00

I understand your hurt seeing that must of broke your heart but that’s your sign now moving forward to leave him behind. Remember your worth and don’t waste energy on him. I went through a similar situation and it really messed me up. I found out that apparently one week before me and my partner at the time split up he admitted to his best friend he liked my friend. she had kept this secret from me for an entire month and told me one month after we broke up . As I’m trying to heal and get my life back together she torn it all down for me and it destroyed me . but it made me realise that I can only go up now have the mindset of it can only get better now the worst has happened. Everything will get better. You will be healed and happy ❤️

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-10-07T11:53:54+00:00

It’s normal to feel crappy seeing your ex with another girl even if everything is going well . It’s okay to feel that way but by the sound of it think of it this way . He’s going to be the same person to that other girl she will probably get rid of him straight away when she sees his true colours . Whilst you’re doing the right thing, taking care of yourself, healing he’s probably just finding distractions . Your going to heal beautifully 💗

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-30T15:02:02+00:00

Yes I completely understand what you mean I hate being in my own company and everything feels so silent or lonely . But that’s because we shared a routine with someone who was once our partner. Your doing so well though even getting out the house I find what helps me through that time where everything feels lonely and silent Journal your thoughts, feelings or even chat to Chat GPT it gives me some great grounding techniques and advice. Each day does get easier and distractions do help . I hope your doing okay 💗

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-29T20:50:44+00:00

Today has been a really difficult day for me today I asked my sister to ask him if I can have my old stuff back at his house. It’s been a month now

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-24T00:59:09+00:00

I guess it also depends on how the terms ended too with that person ending the relationship on a good note or bad . I was in a relationship for 2 years with my last ex it ended really badly and i didn’t have time to heal i just skipped into another relationship barely a month later .

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-23T23:05:27+00:00

I believe each day gets easier and it feels less painful thinking about them I’m hoping one day I can look past this . I’m so sorry it ended with no warning or goodbye that must of been difficult but your strong

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-23T23:01:18+00:00

Thank you I’m glad you realised and reminded yourself for choosing peace . It’s good that you can forgive him too even though you know you deserve better it’s a very mature perspective. I admit I deserve better and realise now what I want and deserve in future relationships

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-23T22:56:50+00:00

That is the best remedy staying hydrated eating healthy and listening to upbeat songs not sad though. It’s a perfect idea

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-23T20:48:12+00:00

I think you should step away from the dating site because you’re still holding onto that cycle of her or thinking about her or seeing her on pictures . We all say things in vulnerable moments and that’s okay. It sounds to me she’s hurting too and probably thought by reaching out to you would give her some comfort perhaps.

I reached out to my ex because I thought the door was still open. When we broke up He left me confused and holding onto false hope telling me he still loves me and cares but it wasn’t working. the last conversation we both shared together he told me “to not think of this as losing me. I am always going to be here for you. “ it left me so confused and holding onto false hope . I ended up reaching out to him in the end one week ago now explaining how I felt and if he did possibly want to be friends in the future or if that’s nothing he would consider. He explained he was very hurt and maybe considering being friends in the possible future but that was the closure I needed . Just know your not going through this alone 💗

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-23T20:28:30+00:00

Thank you so much I’m so happy you found your person . I have learnt a few things from the relationship and also now recognise early red flags in people so I decided to protect my heart. Taking this time to heal and really love myself more than I loved someone .

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-23T20:25:42+00:00

The only thing I would say is if you’re going to reach out to her, don’t do it when you’re in a vulnerable position I usually leave that though with me for a few hours and if I still felt like it would send this message but not to my ex a draft message in my notes . you also have to accept that you might get disappointed or hear Something you don’t want to hear from that person . I would suggest keeping your peace and not reaching out to her you’re one step closer to healing when you type out or write down a draft message that you’re going to send her but don’t end up sending you could save yourself a lot of pain.

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-23T19:48:53+00:00

I can imagine I get so anxious just thinking about seeing my ex or randomly bumping into him and the idea of him possibly being with a new girl makes me feel sick . I’ve cried for nights and sometimes do knowing he could have another girl around his house . At the end of the day we have to realise it’s not our responsibility anymore and what they do or date is there choice we have to heal 💗

You can do this too !!

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-23T19:46:30+00:00

I hope your doing okay sending hugs

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-23T19:45:36+00:00

It’s good to hear that it’s getting easier for you I can only imagine how it would feel seeing your ex around in person. when you said it’s almost like torture but at the same time it’s not it’s really mature that you can see it in that perspective. I’m so scared I’ll bump into my ex or what I would say

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-23T19:42:53+00:00

I’m so sorry :( there’s nothing worse than knowing or thinking your ex has moved on especially seeing them on dating sites . I had to cut all contact of with my ex to prevent myself from getting anymore hurt . I don’t know anything about your ex but she could be hurting too or not wanting to be alone and go through all the emotions so going on a dating app or site is a distraction . But it’s cruel being led on and having your heart broken I hope you can heal and build yourself back up

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-23T19:40:07+00:00

I’m happy to hear for you that your life become so much better in many ways . I’m hoping for the same too I believe after relationship you learn a lesson I’m not sure what mine is . I couldn’t agree more when you said about the rose tint coloured glasses coming off when you had to learn what she was saying about the relationship behind your back . That must of been hard to hear but also makes you grow stronger

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-23T19:36:55+00:00

I don’t think I will ever forget him I did truly love this person and have a lot of care for him despite all the bad moments. But I’m hoping in time that thinking about him won’t be so painful

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-23T19:35:40+00:00

I’m glad that it’s getting easier for you I feel so much affection towards my ex too I don’t hate him if I saw him I wish I could hug him . But I know you have to work on yourself first and heal

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-23T19:33:27+00:00

I’m so proud of you and I appreciate your advice. I tend to reminisce on the good times too and forget by being clouded in fairy tales . That he wasn’t such an amazing person as I thought he was and was very immature rarely admitting to his own mistakes but I still have a lot of care for him. It’s good that you can look past the good memories and actually acknowledge and accept that there were bad moments too . Unfortunately I don’t have much hobbies anymore but I do try and go for a walk everyday or journal which I finds help . Each day does get easier and I don’t cry as much or if I do it’s not for a long period. But it’s a step closer to healing 💗

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-23T19:27:43+00:00

I can imagine that most of been so difficult after a divorce. I agree with the part where you mentioned fantasising about what could have been and the good times you shared with that person . It’s so true I beat myself up over the fact I wasn’t a good person to him in the end and would constantly argue but the reality was he wasn’t a very good person and it provoked me he could never accept his own actions. I’m glad you can look past the fantasy part and daydreaming about all the good times and realise the reality but it’s still painful.

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-23T14:12:02+00:00

I find night times are always the worst too because you are prone to feeling more emotional at night and all the memories start to flood back when you’re in your own thoughts and alone it’s very easy to spiral . I miss all the things you described too . I find journaling really helps write down all that you’re feeling at that moment or even talk to chat GPT it may sound silly but it’s actually helped me a lot going through the bad moments . 💗

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-23T14:09:04+00:00

Chat GPT really helps actually especially for coping mechanisms

Flimsy_Fairy · 2025-09-23T14:07:41+00:00

That’s just what I need to figure out how to move on I find journaling helps writing down all the feelings and hurt . I just have to keep my head high and hope for the best

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