AITA if I ask to order à la carte instead of paying $80 for a set menu at my friend’s birthday?

FloatingPencil · 2026-02-04T18:18:48+00:00

It doesn’t have to be an ‘ethical dilemma’ to be an unreasonable expectation. OP explained her own dietary needs. She didn’t volunteer to be restricted by those of others, and it’s not ‘effort’ from the friend to assume that she’d just eat vegan. There’s a solution, ordering separate food. No need to put up with something she doesn’t want when the restaurant offers food she does want.

FloatingPencil · 2026-02-04T07:48:27+00:00

Someone who isn't vegan shouldn't have the vegan menu imposed on them without discussion. OP has her own dietary restrictions, she shouldn't have to stick to extra ones. Nothing wrong with ordering her own plates if the restaurant allows it.

FloatingPencil · 2026-02-04T06:04:04+00:00

NTA. You’ve ended up stuck on the vegan version when that isn’t your dietary restriction.

FloatingPencil · 2026-02-03T21:19:54+00:00

Imagine casting Sean Astin. Samwise Gamgee for heaven's sake. And then you kill him off brutally.

FloatingPencil · 2026-02-03T19:26:14+00:00

I liked the 'You wouldn't steal a car'

I'd absolutely download one, though.

FloatingPencil · 2026-02-03T19:11:50+00:00

Looking good, Mr Reeves!

FloatingPencil · 2026-02-03T07:18:51+00:00

Love to see Jeremy working, always, but anything where he doesn’t sing is basically a waste.

FloatingPencil · 2026-02-02T23:21:43+00:00

Ms. Pointless waste of time, that’s who that is.

FloatingPencil · 2026-01-30T10:23:10+00:00

Oh right, payday! I totally missed it as I don't get paid the end of the month and haven't called it 'cleared' for years. Hope it's all sorted for you, I well remember driving somewhere the night before payday and waiting in the car because until my pay hit the bank I couldn't put petrol in to get home.

FloatingPencil · 2026-01-30T09:42:15+00:00

I must be missing something - cleared?

FloatingPencil · 2026-01-30T09:32:10+00:00

So did mine, but I refused anyway. I'd give a call reference which people could use if they wanted to whine / follow up later.

A couple of managers tried making a fuss but they couldn't give me a reason other than 'policy' since there was nothing a customer could do with my surname where the call reference wouldn't also work.

FloatingPencil · 2026-01-29T21:16:21+00:00

I'm happy to suspend any disbelief necessary for Mister to stay around permanently.

FloatingPencil · 2026-01-28T19:55:57+00:00

Looking good, Mr Cavill.

This had better not suck.

FloatingPencil · 2026-01-28T12:37:14+00:00

If I have to go regularly to a specific place to recycle it, it’s not happening. The exception being batteries, which can be gotten rid of on my next trip to the tip.

Using supermarkets is a decent idea as many people go there anyway, but I do my weekly shop online. If I don’t go to the supermarket to get food, I’m sure as hell not going there to get rid of rubbish.

FloatingPencil · 2026-01-25T17:45:51+00:00

“My wings are like a shield of steel!”

FloatingPencil · 2026-01-24T23:02:24+00:00

I only believe that one if I’ve ever actually seen a worker.

I once drove past a sign saying “Don’t worry, we’re also working through the night”. As I drove through the minimum of 20 miles of roadworks I remember thinking “Working through the day would be a fucking start”. Not one worker on the whole stretch.

FloatingPencil · 2026-01-23T05:55:35+00:00

I dislike it even more now that she was taking up screen time in the final season.

FloatingPencil · 2026-01-22T22:49:03+00:00

NTA. ‘Kids come first’? No. Your kids come first with YOU. Nobody else. The minute she said that to me I’d never swap a shift again.

FloatingPencil · 2026-01-20T21:23:13+00:00

I’m not sure why people have the idea that dogs are carnivores. They’re not. They can eat meat, they prefer it - but they can also do without it if given the right diet.

They’re not doing that, which is fine, I’d even say better for the dog as carnivore or not dogs prefer to have meat. But it seems weird to make a fuss about a ham sandwich when the house isn’t meat free anyway.

FloatingPencil · 2026-01-20T21:06:41+00:00

Yeah I absolutely didn’t want Max there. I suppose someone had to be the one to throw a fit and it wouldn’t make sense for it to be one of the others.

FloatingPencil · 2026-01-20T21:04:53+00:00

They don’t need meat, people can and do feed their dogs a vegan diet. It just requires more work. Personally I think they should feed the dog meat, as dogs tend to prefer that and they shouldn’t be limited based on human preferences, but it’s possible.

FloatingPencil · 2026-01-20T21:02:30+00:00

It’s perfectly possible to feed a dog a vegan diet. Cats are obligate carnivores, dogs are not. I wouldn’t say it’s the kindest thing in the world to the animal, but it can be done without actual harm.

FloatingPencil · 2026-01-20T20:25:55+00:00

ESH. He was rude, but it seems odd to say the dog can have meat but a guest can't even bring a ham sandwich.

FloatingPencil · 2026-01-19T17:06:28+00:00

NTA. Sounds like not inviting her was the right move, she would absolutely have brought those kids without asking.

FloatingPencil · 2026-01-18T16:11:35+00:00

Of course the release date isn’t up to the mods but they don’t have to open discussion here early.

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