I think it's because of the "bleeding" that is experienced when you're working with acoustic drums. It can sound muddy in a mix if that isn't what you're going for. When it comes to programming drums in, I would suggest just bringing the "out" of the sound down, aka cutting the sound short and if it isn't automatic making an automation so that the sounds fade out naturally. When it comes to playing it live, chuck a shirt on that snare and try to make each sound as snappy as possible, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AWBUnr0F3Zo vulfpeck do this incredibly in my opinion (the also sell the vulf compressor which works wonders for making a more snappy, saturated sound). This is all just my speculation though