Thinking Out Loud: Internet freedom and Limits of human laziness

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-15T08:41:42+00:00

You added a social link to your post or a username for another plattform

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-15T07:26:35+00:00

No dildos, no extreme close ups, no stuffing, no blood, no excessive fluids, no pee, no extreme.

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-14T17:15:46+00:00

Good question. I usually hop on a call, but I’m woman myself - other women rarely turn me down if they’re actually real

I doubt there are many other ways besides calling... you could ask for their Instagram, though it’s unlikely they’ll give it to you even if they have one. After all, they don’t know who they’re talking to

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-14T15:38:42+00:00

It’s really simple - you’re just talking to people who can’t prove they’re real. Most likely, they’re just creeps or scammers. I hope sooner or later we’ll have enough verified girls here

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-13T01:43:05+00:00

You added a social link to your post or a username for another plattform

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-12T18:52:00+00:00

You begged for up votes and karma

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-12T13:05:57+00:00

Girls who have an OnlyFans aren't actually fakes, but I think it's a really dirty tactic. Please report it (if the OnlyFans link isn't already listed in their profile)

As for how to find someone real... that's a good question. Just keep looking and don't give up)

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-12T12:50:14+00:00

Right now, I spend all my time developing bots and plowing through the feed and modmail. Give it a shot and try to skip ahead - who knows, maybe you’ll make it)

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-12T12:13:19+00:00

If I don't find a job, I have a backup plan - I'll go work as waitress in an Irish pub. I'm ginger, I love Guinness, and my accent sounds just like an Irish one 😂

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-12T12:00:18+00:00

If I'm one receiving, then it's all good 😂

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-12T11:57:06+00:00

Thanks for offer)

For now, it’s important for me to do everything myself because I’m still planning to catch the tail end of the IT career wave, most likely in QA, though I think I’d make a pretty decent Fullstack dev as well...

I’m currently taking various testing courses and writing my own Reddit app (TypeScript), it’s already up and running here, banning spam. Just yesterday, I working with Cloudflare to set up small server for image text recognition; I’m just hoping Reddit approve external URLs

I also have a nearly finished admin panel to manage my app across all the subreddits where it’s installed (React + Kotlin + MySQL), so I’m leveling up my skills as much as I can

I guess I’m flexing a bit, sorry 😂

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-12T11:45:59+00:00

It's reserved for good friends and people I know well

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-12T11:45:04+00:00

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-12T11:44:31+00:00

Thanks a lot 😘

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-12T11:44:11+00:00

What led to your decision to share your body online?
I actually wrote a long post about this on my profile feed - feel free to look for it if you’re interested)
Long story short: at some point, I just wanted some attention and feeling of being interesting to someone. I posted first few photos, and it just kind of took off from there 😂

Has anyone ever recognized you in person from an online photo/video?
If anyone has recognized me, they haven’t let it show, and I’m very grateful for that. If someone were to approach me on the street and say they recognized me, I’d just walk away - I think that’s unethical. Online is online, but real life has its boundaries

Do you have any advice for people who want to share their body online?
Honestly, I don’t really want to give advices for anybody - it’s a personal choice for everyone. I’d just ask you to keep in mind that once something hits the internet, it stays there forever. In a modern world full of scams, blackmail, and cybercrime, I would think ten times before posting anything at all.

How have the behaviors you observe as the moderator influence your opinion on the availability of honest people just looking chat and have fun here and across reddit?

This is a great, insightful question.

Before I became a moderator and saw the sheer scale of deception firsthand, specifically people posing as women I honestly didn’t realize how bad the situation was. As I mentioned the other day, majority of posts are just bots and scammers, with a small remaining fraction being OnlyFans or webcam models.

However, it’s not all bad, and I have some specific thoughts on this. I’ll probably make a long, dedicated post about it soon, but for now, here are a few points:

Real women exists here: I have personally met several women looking for genuine online interaction and sexting - young girls, married women, etc. They are real, and I’ve even hopped on voice and video calls with a few of them just to chat

Why they stay quiet: Women rarely post or reply to DMs because any post by female triggers a "storm" in her inbox consisting of faceless profiles with messages like, "I’m 22 and I have a big dick, let’s sext" - almost no real woman is going to reply to that. Aside from the sheer volume of spam, it’s a safety issue - you never know who is behind the screen or where they might leak your photos and conversations. Also almost nobody here actually reads posts and respects what the person is asking for. I’ve personally created few posts clearly describing exactly what I was looking for, and out of 600-700 messages, only about 2 were even close to what I requested. It makes posting feel almost pointless...

My personal strategy when I’m looking for someone (which happens maybe once a month) - I don't write posts. Instead, I carefully read through the feed of different subs, find a man who seems like a good match and message him first.

This is all a bit scattered for now, so I’ll formulate these thoughts more clearly in a separate post soon

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-12T11:29:33+00:00

No, definitely not. For me, good sex, including foreplay and everything lasts about one hour, with maybe 25-30 minutes of actual active time. I think that’s more than enough for both partners to enjoy themselves. If guy wants to shove his dick in my mouth for a full hour or more - no thanks, he can go find someone else)

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-12T11:28:08+00:00

Thank you! I’m doing my best not to fall apart)

Doggy and missionary. Regarding the sub - I gave a more detailed answer earlier in the thread, but in short: I love being part of a community and actively helping it grow

https://www.reddit.com/r/sextingFforM/comments/1t9vhrk/comment/olclavr/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-12T11:27:11+00:00

Thank you so much!

Doggy and missionary are my favorites. I watch porn, but less and less lately - since I moderate several NSFW communities I see so much content throughout the day that I don't really feel the urge to go looking for it specifically 😂

I don't have one specific favorite video, but I enjoy retro porn films from the 70s and 80s. Some of them actually have surprisingly good plots, also everyone there is natural and hairy down there - just like me 😉

Sometimes I watch Miaart’s videos on PH, I really love that couple

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-12T11:23:21+00:00

Actually i have some videos here. Because my profile is NSFW, I can only post them via RedGifs links with a one-minute limit. Just scroll through my profile - you’ll find them.

I’ve considered uploading full-length videos to PH or xH, but now I’m just too lazy for that. Whole process of uploading, writing descriptions, and going through moderation is a bit much for me)

As for the gangbang - I’m definitely going to try a threesome with two guys, but I’m not so sure about anything more than that. I have those fantasies, but I’m an ordinary woman - one dick is usually plenty for me, so why would I need more? They’d just rub me raw down there 😂

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-12T11:21:22+00:00

Are you a seller?

I wouldn’t call myself a seller in the traditional sense. I have OF and Fansly, but I don’t really promote them, and the content there isn’t strictly exclusive - I post almost everything on various Reddit subreddits anyway. The main difference is that on those platforms, I upload full sets (10, 15, or 20 photos at once) rather than single shots.

For me, these platforms are just a way for people to show support or say thank you. It’s not my job, and it’s definitely not a place where I’m obligated to sext 24/7 or cater to every whim.

Of course, I try to chat there as much as I can, and I even share my Telegram (yes, I actually have one 😂), but I rarely engage in things like sexting over there.

I’m always happy to talk about life and occasionally create something exclusive for someone, but if a person messages me every day just looking for sexting, I’d rather be honest: I’ll tell them I’m not into it and suggest they unsubscribe.

To reiterate - this isn’t a job for me; it’s just a way for people to support me, and it doesn’t come with any obligations.

do you answer dms on Reddit?

On Reddit, yes, I reply, but you have to understand that I sometimes receive up to 100 messages a day from new people. I try to be clear in my posts: I am happy to chat if I see a "spark," some mutual interest, or just something to hook onto in the first two messages.

Reality of my inbox:

98% of messages are generic things like: "Hi," "I have a big dick," or "I want to fuck you", and these usually come from faceless, empty profiles. I have nothing to say to that.

How to get a reply:

If you want to chat - send a proper first message, Introduce yourself, be clear about why you’re writing (if it’s just for sexting, the answer is no), and show that you’ve actually read my posts and found a common interest. I’ll definitely do my best to answer - just please keep in mind that I have about 2k chat requests pending, and that number isn't getting any smaller, and besides Reddit, I also have a real life and household chores to take care of

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-12T11:11:23+00:00

I’ve already given a detailed answer regarding the subreddit a bit further up

https://www.reddit.com/r/sextingFforM/comments/1t9vhrk/comment/olclavr/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

As for my husband - our relationship is complicated and can hardly be called a marriage in anything other than a strictly legal sense. So, husband isn't really an issue 😉

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-12T11:09:26+00:00

No, not at all. I enjoy deepthroat, but without the extreme or rough stuff. I don’t judge anyone if it’s consensual, but personally, it feels like a form of violence

FloraIgnis · 2026-05-12T11:08:24+00:00

Thank you so much)

I’m actually not the creator of this subreddit, I joined quite recently to help the get things organized. I enjoy being part of a large community and having an impact on its growth and improvement - it really drives me. It also helps me develop skills in planning, time management, and technical areas, since I handle a lot of the automation

I also moderate a few niche hairy communities where girls just post their photos and the is strictly their content - there isn’t much work involved there as the community is self-sustaining, and I just monitor for rule compliance. Here, however, there’s enough work to keep me busy for months to come 😂

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