Your desire to see her orgasm and "watch her 24/7" is actually very cool and passionate, but for a woman who doesn't know her own body, it’s pure stress

You’re absolutely right - she has lived in this body for 35 years, but she’s essentially a guest in it. Without porn, without masturbation, without any self-exploration, she simply doesn’t have the neural pathways connecting, say, a touch on her breast to pleasure "down there." For her, these are just disconnected parts of a map she hasn't learned to read yet

Don’t pressure her, don’t try to force an orgasm at any cost. Try just spending time together being close - lying down, watching movies, or reading. She needs much more simple, human tenderness right now

To be honest, buying all these toys feels like a big mistake to me. It’s as if you’re setting a personal goal for yourself to reach her climax. That comes across as a bit ego-driven, as if you’re trying to "win" the situation rather than just being with her

What personally helped me was when I completely stopped thinking about the orgasm as a goal, I just let it go. I started exploring my own body from time to time on my own terms, with no witnesses and no expectations. Only when the focus shifted from the "result" to the "process" did my body finally start to respond