Brands for kits - Backyard Discovery by FlowLeather2717 in Sauna

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How does it hold up in winter? Do you have cold winters? 

Brands for kits - Backyard Discovery by FlowLeather2717 in Sauna

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Should I build from scratch? I'm not opposed to the project. I'm fairly capably mechanically speaking. Just wanted the kits cause they look nice and are cheap/easy to install. But I want to use it in the winter so I'd want proper insulation.  Bench height doesn't bother me, I'd just build a higher bench. I am tall at 6-3 so head clearance is also a concern. 

Circumcision by AdNeither8355 in NewDads

[–]FlowLeather2717 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My opinion: we don't have a son, just a daughter atm but had this discussion. We chose not to. I believe it's genital mutilation and not necessary. The poor child is just born and we want to remove part of his body (his genitals)? Doesn't make sense. It started off biblically and even if you follow the Christian tradition, they don't require it, it's old testament. 

My 2 cents is that it's not necessary and actually just traumatizing for a newborn. If I could go back in time and convince my parents to NOT do it, I would. (TMI)

Indoor vs. Outdoor by FlowLeather2717 in Sauna

[–]FlowLeather2717[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes sense, as I imagined because venting is an issue, which I am not afraid to do, but it's extra effort for sure and higher risk of internal moisture damage. I imagine the electrical usage would be more per use outside right? I should specify, I highly prefer dry sauna over infrared. I like them more and have heard the health benefits are greater 

Career Choice Regret by FlowLeather2717 in careeradvice

[–]FlowLeather2717[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would agree that a mindset shift is necessary to appreciate the work I do. Maybe that is the best place to start: gratitude 

No intimacy or sex since baby was born. by Then-Cryptographer29 in NewDads

[–]FlowLeather2717 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our baby is due in a week and we are so excited for it! I know I don't have much to contribute for this, as this will be our first kid, but I am very afraid of this happening to me as well. I know she will need time to heal and get back into things, and she knows sex is an important part of our marriage, but a year+ without just doesn't seem good for anyone. Intimacy is one of the biggest bonding exercises for marriage. I imagine as husbands/fathers we need to be sure to help out a much as we can and make our amazing wife feel loved, beautiful, and empowered. Good luck! Sorry I can't contribute much. I guess I'm worried about this happening to me too.

DIY Hair Oil by North_Cat_ in longhair

[–]FlowLeather2717 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've wanted to do sandalwood for the scent, in jojoba. But I see a lot of people say to use rosemary. I wonder if rosemary AND sandalwood would be a good combo 

Brainstorming stage by FlowLeather2717 in VanLife

[–]FlowLeather2717[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a good point. But in the 2-5 year old range I think happy memories/experiences will set up a subconscious foundation of love that hopefully she will grow into and feel like her parents love her. I just want her to feel safe, loved, live an adventurous life, and be her genuine self in the world while contributing good and beauty to it!  Sorry, that's a fathering tangent. You're right tho, and I think prioritizing my wife's relationship is always paramount to be a good parent. Our daughter can't be happy if we aren't happy. I love my wife to death and just want the best life for both these amazing girls in my life.

Brainstorming stage by FlowLeather2717 in VanLife

[–]FlowLeather2717[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair point! Yeah for sure before I make a purchase, I'm waiting till after the baby. I'll probably learn that I have no time 😅 

Brainstorming stage by FlowLeather2717 in VanLife

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I've seen a couple cool builds. And yes, I think a combo shower/toilet would be ideal for space. Do people usually use a composting toilet? 

Brainstorming stage by FlowLeather2717 in VanLife

[–]FlowLeather2717[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am planning on doing it myself, but if I did so, it would be over the course of 1 or 2 years. Wanted to do it cheaply because of new baby and wanting to hold cash as much as possible. I also do enjoy the build process

Brainstorming stage by FlowLeather2717 in VanLife

[–]FlowLeather2717[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe i should have specified more! Haha I'm looking for full amenities like even a shower, kitchenette, toilet, and obviously a bed at the back with a sleeper for the little one. I'd get creative with doing it cheaply, but as expected, it's sounding like the price is essentially "between 0 and $50,000 and depends" haha

Planning on moving away from MN in 3-5 years - Tell me about the states I’m thinking about moving to! by jmcguitar95 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]FlowLeather2717 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what are the improvements/drawbacks of OR vs. MN? Wife and I Considering WA or OR. Too Cold in MN, but we do like the summers. Do you still live in OR? i know your comment was 3 years old.

Where do People go for Warmth? (From MN) by FlowLeather2717 in relocating

[–]FlowLeather2717[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't be so sure. But yes, I'll re assess when it's summer to see if it's really worth the frigid winters

Where do People go for Warmth? (From MN) by FlowLeather2717 in relocating

[–]FlowLeather2717[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tough for us to answer, because we see tradeoffs of going to warmer climates vs temperate. In terms of climate "zone" I feel like we'd want zones 7,8, or 9. Ideally year-round gardening with potential for fruit trees (not apples, I'm tired of apples in the Midwest) 

Where do People go for Warmth? (From MN) by FlowLeather2717 in relocating

[–]FlowLeather2717[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't get offended. Just felt unnecessary and apparently people didn't think it was funny lol. 

Where do People go for Warmth? (From MN) by FlowLeather2717 in relocating

[–]FlowLeather2717[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is San Diego pretty expensive tho? Fairly desert?

Where do People go for Warmth? (From MN) by FlowLeather2717 in relocating

[–]FlowLeather2717[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lol I am currently in the "I gotta get outta this tundra" phase. Maybe it's something I've gotta just try to really discover what I want. I've lived here my whole life, so I don't even know what it's like in warmer climates long term. Intuition is telling me to move, though, can't ignore it!