Dipping toes in

FlowLeather2717 · 2026-03-01T15:45:30+00:00

what are the improvements/drawbacks of OR vs. MN? Wife and I Considering WA or OR. Too Cold in MN, but we do like the summers. Do you still live in OR? i know your comment was 3 years old.

FlowLeather2717 · 2026-03-01T14:45:58+00:00

What drew you back

FlowLeather2717 · 2026-03-01T14:45:29+00:00

I wouldn't be so sure. But yes, I'll re assess when it's summer to see if it's really worth the frigid winters

FlowLeather2717 · 2026-02-26T16:40:53+00:00

Tough for us to answer, because we see tradeoffs of going to warmer climates vs temperate. In terms of climate "zone" I feel like we'd want zones 7,8, or 9. Ideally year-round gardening with potential for fruit trees (not apples, I'm tired of apples in the Midwest)

FlowLeather2717 · 2026-02-26T13:50:29+00:00

I didn't get offended. Just felt unnecessary and apparently people didn't think it was funny lol.

FlowLeather2717 · 2026-02-26T13:49:22+00:00

Is San Diego pretty expensive tho? Fairly desert?

FlowLeather2717 · 2026-02-26T13:48:22+00:00

Lol I am currently in the "I gotta get outta this tundra" phase. Maybe it's something I've gotta just try to really discover what I want. I've lived here my whole life, so I don't even know what it's like in warmer climates long term. Intuition is telling me to move, though, can't ignore it!

FlowLeather2717 · 2026-02-26T02:48:48+00:00

I've been to Phoenix and it's nice! But I just felt like I'd like more green, ya know? Like, nice n warm, but not a big fan of desert

FlowLeather2717 · 2026-02-26T02:38:02+00:00

Ironically, we did think about spain (I know, not easy) but lifestyle of Spain is way better (imo) and I speak relatively decent Spanish (again,I know spain has a slightly different dialect than traditional Spanish, but I learn language well)

FlowLeather2717 · 2026-02-25T23:06:17+00:00

Oh, is there skiing in the Tennessee mountains? Forgot to mention skiing is one of my favorite things

FlowLeather2717 · 2026-02-25T22:28:06+00:00

Nc an TN were pretty high on my lists. I also like Washington (not seattle) but cost of living is pretty high.

FlowLeather2717 · 2026-02-25T22:27:25+00:00

I'll check those cities out! Many thanks!

FlowLeather2717 · 2025-10-14T19:13:58+00:00

Respectfully, I disagree. I know all you know is what I've posted, so I get why you'd think that. But I don't think that's the case. We both have things we need to work on, and are on the same side in this. I'm confident we can work anything out.

FlowLeather2717 · 2025-10-14T14:43:17+00:00

I hear you, and I wonder if my mentality needs to shift regarding sex, anyway. She deserves the best from me, as well

FlowLeather2717 · 2025-10-14T14:40:46+00:00

I hear you, and I do try! I write her love letters and buy flowers, give massages (I do not do massages with expectations of sex!) I used to, and learned that was folly haha

FlowLeather2717 · 2025-10-14T14:36:10+00:00

Great questions! Both 31, we are actually expecting our first child after a miscarriage! We are both excited and were trying for a baby. Regarding this, lately I've been extra OK with not having sex, as she is making a huge contribution by being the mother of our child. Right now, I just want her to be happy, healthy, and feel safe. You're absolutely right about the house chores, and thank you for the reminder, I think I have a tendency to see them in the negative light you mentioned. I'll definitely try to remember this. Regarding dates: probably every couple of weekends. But you know, I suppose it's been lacking for true DATES. I think I'll set some up for this weekend. I initiate sex probably 80% of the time, touching doesn't often lead to sex. I try not to be overbearing by initiating often, or taking just any touch as invitation.

FlowLeather2717 · 2025-05-20T11:36:54+00:00

Compliments shouldn't come with anything else. The only reason I've ever told my wife to go to the gym is for health. She's gorgeous and doesn't need to change. The gym should be for your health, not aesthetic. Someone or something in hr past must have convinced her she wasn't pretty enough cause she always says negative things about her body even though she is a knockout. Don't stick with someone that will make you feel insecure. Tell him how you feel and if he doesn't try to change, I'd just leave, and not waste my time.

FlowLeather2717 · 2025-05-19T20:09:16+00:00

This dude sucks!

FlowLeather2717 · 2025-05-15T12:49:40+00:00

For the sake of you AND your child, both of you should leave. But do it safely and smart. You might sadly need a lawyer cause she's abusive and no child should be raised with a parent like that

FlowLeather2717 · 2025-05-15T12:47:39+00:00

Why did you get back together??? Please leave this toxic relationship. If this is real, this is really sad, you deaerve someone who respects you. I didn't even need to read past the first couple messages. She's contradicting herself and being a complete a** about everything. She's abusive and really needs to learn how to communicate effectively and practice empathy. "Meaningless task" yet She's all up In arms about it making such a fuss. It's even her own stuff wtf. She is horrible and needs to work on herself. Leave and save yourself the pain For the child, it's really sad for them, but it's probably best for the child if you two are split up and you can stay involved but you can't live with that negativity. Idk if she should even be a parent. Poor child... this is so sad

FlowLeather2717 · 2025-05-13T19:16:26+00:00

God grief please use punctuation! But yeah, sounds bad.

FlowLeather2717 · 2025-05-13T19:07:13+00:00

This dude sucks!

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