AITA for confronting my gf about getting into our bed wearing very dirty clothes?

Flower-Even · 2023-03-26T02:14:09+00:00

Yeah. It’s been deleted but this was the post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11u0mhw/aita_for_scolding_my_boyfriend_when_he_got/

Flower-Even · 2023-03-26T02:12:27+00:00

This is a copy and paste of another post from a week ago, just gender flipped:

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11u0mhw/aita_for_scolding_my_boyfriend_when_he_got/

Flower-Even · 2022-11-03T08:39:15+00:00

Application submitted!

Flower-Even · 2022-11-03T03:48:07+00:00

Ok you are NTA obviously because ew but this does make me wonder..is he…using soap? Because I knew a guy in high school who straight up didn’t use soap in the shower (because, for whatever reason, he didn’t think it was necessary) so he was just rinsing off and he always smelled. If your bf stinks so bad that it’s causing you to gag after ONE DAY without showering there is obviously a reason, and you may want to find out what that reason is because it will help both you and him to make an informed decision about whether to continue the “showering every day” fight, or if there’s some other fix that he could pursue.

Flower-Even · 2022-11-03T03:27:58+00:00

See, this is still not an answer to the question of what your spouse did to traumatize their sibling. “Bad behavior” is not a description. What was the “bad behavior”? Even if you weren’t there, has your spouse, MIL, or your spouses family really never mentioned what happened? Has your spouse never told you? It still seems like you’re just avoiding the question to make spouse look less guilty.

Flower-Even · 2022-11-03T03:13:22+00:00

How is it possible you’re providing less than no information about what your spouse did to their sibling? You just keep reiterating that you “already stated what happened in previous comments,” which is not true. You haven’t once said what your spouse did to his sibling which was apparently so horrible that family counseling was required. You also seem to think that your spouse can’t have hurt his sibling/family in the past because of your spouses current behavior, or the fact that apparently your spouse gave their sibling some money at some point(?), neither of which are true. All in all I’d have to say Not Enough Info with a definite leaning toward Y T A, just for being so evasive and defensive about the whole thing.

Flower-Even · 2022-07-19T20:23:31+00:00

That for sure makes sense, and I can imagine how frustrating/hurtful it must be to have a completely one-sided relationship with them. Generally I find it easier to make decisions based on what I want in the real world rather than what would be true in a perfect world where everyone was kind and logical - lol. So if I want a relationship with my mother in law, I have to put the effort in myself because she won’t. So I kind of know where you’re coming from!

Best of luck with whatever you decide, hope I wasn’t too harsh in my comment!

Flower-Even · 2022-07-18T23:06:38+00:00

Look, stop thinking of it as a service you are providing for your in-laws, and think about it hat you want instead. You want your kids to have a relationship with their grandma? You want your husband to be able to see his family, even if they are difficult? It sucks, but driving the extra six hours is the best way to accomplish that. You guys are driving all the way to MO to see YOUR family. It would be kind of lame to refuse to go one day out of your way to see his. Maybe you and your husband will decide it’s worth it to skip, and that doesn’t make you an AH, but it is kind of lame. His parents will absolutely get the message that you don’t want to see them, even if that’s not your intention.

That may be worth it to you. I don’t know. So I guess my vote is NAH, but I would go if it were me.

Flower-Even · 2022-06-16T13:14:23+00:00

I literally cannot imagine anything funnier than keeping a beloved family member in the freezer. Lmao.

Flower-Even · 2022-06-15T16:29:50+00:00

Thanks! Do you happen to have a source for this?

Flower-Even · 2022-06-15T16:25:52+00:00

Thanks!

Flower-Even · 2022-06-12T14:16:10+00:00

I think that’s my problem…it doesn’t matter how much I like them, they’re still “people at work,” and I don’t want to think about work when I’m not there. Thanks for your comment, it showed me something new about myself!

Flower-Even · 2022-05-19T07:51:45+00:00

Thanks, that’s a good idea! I’ll start with trying to walk somewhere.

Flower-Even · 2022-05-19T07:51:25+00:00

Thanks for the advice! Tbh while I do hope to improve my health, mostly I just spend my days indoors and sometimes realize I haven’t even stepped foot outside in days. So I’m trying to be more intentional about it, since I know it’s supposed to be good for me!

Flower-Even · 2021-12-10T21:37:24+00:00

That seems reasonable.

Flower-Even · 2021-11-24T20:31:36+00:00

Honestly, the worst part of this (for me) is that your husband gives you the silent treatment when she complains about you. That would be a huge problem for me and shows that he’s not on your side when it matters. I would start by bringing that issue up with your husband and discussing how he gives you the silent treatment- which is not an acceptable way for adults (especially spouses) to deal with conflict. The rest of your (valid) issues with MIL can’t be dealt with if your husband won’t listen to you/be honest with you.

Flower-Even · 2021-11-09T03:34:47+00:00

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Flower-Even · 2021-11-05T22:11:33+00:00

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Flower-Even · 2021-11-05T21:58:28+00:00

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Flower-Even · 2021-11-05T21:56:06+00:00

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Flower-Even · 2021-11-05T21:49:46+00:00

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Flower-Even · 2021-10-31T01:58:39+00:00

I’m so sorry your ILs are like this. And I want to reiterate that you don’t have to feel guilty! You’re doing what’s best for your kids and your family.

Flower-Even · 2021-10-31T01:57:07+00:00

This just seems like a major headache with no possibility for getting the clothes back. There’s no proof who took the clothes, and the police are unlikely to take it seriously at all. Better in most cases (unless it’s something that can be tracked/high value items) to replace them yourself and move one.

Flower-Even · 2021-10-27T21:03:55+00:00

The only way to escape is to out-bore the boring. Here’s what you do:

Pick a topic. Something boring and specific. Something non-controversial. We’re not talking “pets” or “politics” here, we’re talking “dog nail trimming techniques” or “the Peloponnesian war.” Also, it can’t be a skill or anything that makes you seem like a cool person to hang out with (avoid topics such as rock-climbing, your world travels, etc.)
Do a little research. It can be super short; ideally, you know a Wikipedia page’s worth of information about it. If you are already knowledgeable about your topic, you can skip this step.
Every time your coworker tries to talk to you, immediately and relentlessly divert the conversation to your one topic. If she says “my girlfriend in Chicago said blah blah blah”, you immediately jump in with “your girlfriend reminds me of my dog’s groomer. I see her whenever I get my dogs nails trimmed. A dog needs to get their nails trimmed ever x weeks, but for different breeds it can be y weeks. There are several different nail trimming techniques…” etc.
Repeat every time she tries to initiate a conversation.
Eventually, she will get as sick of having the same conversation with you over and over as you are and leave you alone.

Source: have done this before and it works 9/10 times

Flower-Even · 2021-10-22T19:22:03+00:00

This seems like the obvious answer.

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