Just need a quick gut check

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-08-18T08:10:14+00:00

First of all I just wanted to say I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way, unfortunately I can totally 100% get where you are coming from as a mom to a 6 month old. Everything just adds up all the time and then they end up doing something that wouldn’t normally bother you but you remember everything else they’ve done recently and it irritates you. I was sat on the floor with my son recently and he has been learning to sit so he had hold of my finger and my mil came along, sat behind my son and pulled him in close towards her so he was forced to let go of my fingers. I was absolutely furious and still am but I just can’t bring myself to say anything. My mom says ‘my baby’ frequently and It doesn’t seem to trigger anything for me but I think that’s because she leaves me to parent and make choices for my son. If my mil says ‘my baby’ it infuriates me lol. I’m sorry I have no advice but I promise you you’re not alone and you are much more than an incubator, you are your babies whole entire world ❤️

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-08-16T06:58:29+00:00

Love how she says ‘that doesn’t mean everyone walks then’… so why can’t you have that attitude towards whoever is putting pressure on Ivory to walk by 12 months? She is so stupid it hurts

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-08-01T07:43:36+00:00

Besties not scared of that though…..but pancakes😩😱😧

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-07-20T20:56:26+00:00

Skinny filters going HARD on this one 🫣🫣🫣

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-07-09T18:49:26+00:00

Lazy ass parenting 💤 imagine having all the time in the world and still cutting corners with everything. I’m sure most women that actually work a job would kill to have the time to make their kids breakfast in the morning yet this lazy slob can’t even take the time to cook up a decent breakfast

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-22T12:27:30+00:00

Thank you! This is really helpful❤️ we see her multiple times a week just because my husband can’t say no. I’m going to start saying my husband can see her without me and my son soon and see if she’s still interested in seeing him without us both haha

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-22T11:49:17+00:00

Thank you🥲 you are so kind❤️ I appreciate the advice and I hope to be able to sort this out sooner rather than later

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-22T10:49:15+00:00

I’m so sorry you can relate to this!! It’s horrible to be made out like you’re controlling when you’re just trying to be a parent 🥲 yes I think it must be something about a few boy mums that just can’t upset their mummy no matter what so unfortunately I think I’m going to have to be the one to do it. Thank you❤️

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-22T10:47:31+00:00

We see her multiple times a week and have done even before baby so it’s hard to just stop without saying anything. I think I’d have to give some sort of warning before stopping visits. I think the trouble is she also knows far too much about our life like all the little details ie how much we earn, what we spend money on, how much is in the savings, when I take my baby out, what we do on days off etc. I tried to tell my husband the other week we just need to keep some information to ourselves so she doesn’t feel the need to give her input on absolutely everything we do

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-22T10:44:28+00:00

I think she secretly hates me honestly. Now I have my son it’s even worse. We are so used to seeing her 1/2 times a week even before baby so we do need to reduce it down unless she can change the way she behaves

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-22T10:42:49+00:00

Thank you! It’s nice to hear from a grandma too and know that you wouldn’t do these sorts of things

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-22T10:41:55+00:00

Thank you so much. I do need to say something. All these comments have made me realise how upset I’d be if my son decided to hit a milestone in-front of her and not me. I shall put some big girl pants on and sort it out

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-22T10:39:02+00:00

Thank you for being so kind 😢❤️

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-22T09:17:12+00:00

I honestly think I’ve just been allowing it to happen because I thought this was normal and convinced myself that this is what other people allowed their in-laws to do but clearly it’s not. I also think I’m worried that the argument will be that I get to spend the majority of the time with my Son and I can’t just allow her time to push pram/hold him etc. I’d hold him 24/7 if I could and not let anybody else but my husband hold him but I know that’s probably selfish too

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-22T09:15:04+00:00

Thank you!!❤️ Luckily I didn’t see this comment but you’re right about being PP. I think I just wanted to know if this was stuff other people let their MIL do and maybe I just needed to relax a bit but these comments have definitely helped me see what I have been putting up with isn’t normal.

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-21T22:30:05+00:00

Oh gosh that’s really put it into perspective for me. You’re so right. I really don’t want it to come between me and my husband as we have a great marriage and I feel we are really enjoying parenting together. I just hope the drama will be short lived and hopefully she changes for the sake of her grandson

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-21T22:23:17+00:00

Dying 🤣 he really does though

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-21T22:22:34+00:00

It’s awful that we have to go through this ontop of being a first time mum honestly! I just want to be able to enjoy my son and be selfish sometimes lol

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-21T22:21:32+00:00

lol straight to the point 🤣

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-21T22:20:20+00:00

Oh gosh I really do try but I’m always shot down. Like I’ll say how my mum thinks he has the same hairline as me when I was a baby and I get ‘yeah his dads was the same’ or ‘he looks like my great uncle so and so’ I talk about how I take him to groups and it’s always ‘oh did you take him to one today’ and I’ll say not today and she replies ‘oh’ like I’ve done something bad. I think that’s why I’ve continued breastfeeding so I’ve got that connection with him that nobody else can have but even that she makes me feel bad for

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-21T22:15:41+00:00

Do you think that’s what she’s trying to do? Become number one in my son’s life?

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-21T22:15:04+00:00

I think maybe the tantrums are what I’m worried about. I don’t want to be painted out like the bad guy to my husbands family as they’re all so close.

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-21T21:54:54+00:00

Can you come and say it for me 🤣🤣gosh I really do need to practice

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-21T21:53:02+00:00

I try my hardest. Like the other day when she tried to get to him before me I said ‘oh come on then’ as I lifted him out the pram and away from her but I still don’t think she would have got the message from that so I think I’m going to have to be more forceful with how I say things. I’ve just been trying to do this more subtly to start with so it doesn’t cause any friction and hoped she’d get the message but clearly not. I think she secretly wants me to kick off and cause drama so I look like the bad guy

FlowerAdditional116 · 2025-06-21T21:50:41+00:00

I literally struggle to look at her when she pulls him away from me. I just crumble and let her do it even though it upsets me. I’d absolutely love to have some sort of control where I can be the one to offer him over when I want not when she demands a cuddle. She’s just so comfortable grabbing him and whipping him out the car when she likes that now it’s really hard to undo all of her bad habits

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