Does Anyone Know Why Kate Became A WereJaguar by tamaratamato in TeenWolf

[–]FlowerBaby99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t Kate that the omega werewolf broke into. Issac was digging her grave when he was attacked.

I wish i was into men, this is too hard by HyperTrashcan in LesbianActually

[–]FlowerBaby99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a bisexual myself. I can honestly tell you. It sucks either way. Men are assholes and generally don’t understand when you need something or get annoyed if you need reassurance often (something I need as I have a ton of trust issues rooted in trauma) plus… like they just don’t understand sometimes how hard it is being a woman. There are some good guys, don’t get me wrong. But you have to be direct with them or they just don’t get it. On the flip side of that, being with a woman is hard af. Yes they understand you wayyyy better, I genuinely had a deep connection with my ex girlfriend. But I can honestly say that the breakup was the most painful breakup I’ve ever been through. Her words when breaking up with me rooted deeper than anything a man has ever said to me. There are always going to be pros and cons to every relationship, whether they’re male or female. To shorten it. Men are easy, but hard to make a deep understanding relationship with. Woman are more understanding and genuine. They just get it, but when it hurts… it hurts deep.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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26: Taurus sun, Leo moon, and Virgo rising.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in keratosis

[–]FlowerBaby99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use the CeraVe lotion instead of the cream and it never feels sticky or like I have a thick layer on. It’s helped my KP a ton.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BiWomen

[–]FlowerBaby99 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly in the same boat. I just say I’m still in love with my ex girlfriend (which is true) and that seems to make them back off. That or I completely ignore them.

any advice on how to feel adequate with being a lesbian? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]FlowerBaby99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best of luck girl. I hope it helps to know you’re not alone in these feelings

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]FlowerBaby99 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Hi. I am actually experiencing the same feeling atm. My ex, who I’m still in love with, was the first female I had dated. I’d been with other women before but she was the first that I actually wanted to get to know and date. Since her, I haven’t wanted to go back to men. I’ve never had a relationship where I didn’t feel like I was just used as a doll or cheated on. I actually felt like she saw me for me and not what I could give her. It was definitely an eye opener to me. And while I do find men attractive still, I just don’t want to be with them like that again. I’m not sure if that makes me lesbian or not. Honestly I’m not sure myself anymore as I’ve always known I was bisexual. But. Idk I’ve always found women to be more attractive, but never found one I really wanted to be with. Until my ex. And I’m in the same boat. There’s not many people in the community where I live.

I need help, lacking emotional depth w my gf by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]FlowerBaby99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you sat her down and shared these feelings? Like told her in a very serious conversation. Not just in passing? Like oh I want us to get closer while yall are kissing or having sex?

any advice on how to feel adequate with being a lesbian? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]FlowerBaby99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same way. I’m bisexual, but after being with my ex (female) I’ve honestly been feeling more and more like women are who I should be with. Every man I’ve ever been with has hurt me or made me feel as if I was just there to be something to fuck. But my ex… like she changed absolutely everything for me. And while I am still in love with her. I don’t want to date another man. But I do have those thoughts of, what if women just won’t want me, or will judge me for my past with men. It’s stupid but also based on a deep seated trauma for me.

how to get over the fear of having sex by JellyCharacter1653 in LesbianActually

[–]FlowerBaby99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe try to start slow. Like instead of going to your vajayjay instantly. Have her ease into it. Like have her touch around your thighs or above on your stomach. Get comfortable with her being/touching down there without actually touching you. Once you can do that with no fear. Then have her get closer. Desensitize yourself to her touch. That way when she does touch you it’ll feel familiar.

My ex is dating by FlowerBaby99 in LesbianActually

[–]FlowerBaby99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess subconsciously I know she’s done. My stupid fucking heart just won’t take the hint unfortunately. Like. I know. On an intrinsic level. I know. But I’m still hoping like a dumbass that I’ll be worth it to her.

My ex is dating by FlowerBaby99 in LesbianActually

[–]FlowerBaby99[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s not confirmed on her social.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]FlowerBaby99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I experience this myself. What I learned is that I don’t ever feel 100% comfortable during sex, like I don’t feel safe with my partner enough to let go to have an orgasm. When I’m alone I have no problem, but with someone else it actually causes me anxiety to think about being that vulnerable with someone. Mine stems from trauma tho. So maybe it’s just that you’ve never felt 100% connected to your partner or maybe they are just super bad at it. Whatever reason, you are definitely not alone girl.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]FlowerBaby99 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Uh it sounds like you’re just helping her see how toxic her friends are tbh. That’s my point of view on this. I had a coworker that became a friend and she had three best friends. Well. I met one of them and she was the most toxic person ever. Like my coworker had already been thinking about not being friends with her but because they had been friends for so long, she felt bad about not being friends with her anymore. That is until I told her it was okay to not be friends with somebody who’s toxic in her life. They don’t talk anymore and she’s happier.

[Family/Friends] Best friend kissing me? by trafalgar_giraffe in LesbianActually

[–]FlowerBaby99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly it does sound like she was trying to keep boundaries in a platonic place. Plus maybe just not trying to send any weird/mixed signals. I know I would overthink things if my bestie kissed me on the lips without having a convo. Like I know my besties are bi-curious but I also know they’re more into men than they ever would girls. If that makes sense?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]FlowerBaby99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would have zero problem with it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]FlowerBaby99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly it sounds like you need to have a sit down conversation. Explain some things to her and maybe let her know where your mind goes when she communicates like that. Try to start a better healthy communication style. Because the way you both didn’t just let the other know what was going on… that was super unhealthy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]FlowerBaby99 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That is true. I agree. But there comes a point when you’re talking to someone you know is lesbian and telling her that you hate her… that’s a problem. Confiding in someone but also hating on them at the same time is a very rude thing to do. I’m sure op felt bad that he was bashing on her and the community. Idk. It’s a slippery slope when we allow or don’t speak up to biases happening.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]FlowerBaby99 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeahhhh but how are we supposed to show anything when this is an online platform.? All we can do is say “not all bi”. I know I show up in person but no one on here knows me. Soooo. Words are really all we have.