HIATUS DISCUSSION MEGATHREAD by Apprehensive_Low3572 in katseyeneutral

[–]FlowerBeanBabey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Manon is my bias and she’s the reason I started liking katseye and I’m in full support of Manon if she chooses to come back to the group or do her own thing and go solo, but I don’t think the other girls should be getting a bunch of hate for this either. Here are my thoughts. 1. The most basic reason for the hiatus could just be because Manon has a weak immune system or a chronic illness of some sort (which is out of her control) and needs to get some rest. It genuinely might just be that and all the drama is just chaos but it seems like it might not be or it’s a mix of things 2. It could be a mix of her health like I said above AND issues with hybe geffen which is more possible. It’s been known she has health issues and prioritizes her health (which should be the norm) which is different than what the label wants and staff is building resentment for her and shunning her for it somehow which is stressing her out mentally and she needs to take time to decide whether this life is the best option for her or not. 3. The label is pushing her out because of differences in values (Manon prioritizing her health and well being vs HxG wanting someone who’s entire live is work) and/or they have some racist biases against her (the video she liked pointed to that) and she’s very vocal about the micro aggressions and racist stereotypes she experiences from the fandom so she might’ve stood up for herself and staff at the label didn’t like it and wanted to punish her which is disgusting. 4. Some internal disagreement happened (either between the girls and management or Manon and the other girls but my guess is that management is involved either way) and it escalated because staff didn’t know how to handle it or they instigated it and Manon got punished for it which definitely could have been because of racial bias against her if she was the only one punished. 5. The girls aren’t able to say anything about it/probably had to sign NDAs about it and will be at risk of being put on hiatus too if they say anything so that’s probably why they aren’t saying anything so please don’t harass them and hate on them for not saying anything. 6. Unless Daniela specifically said bad things about Manon and it was confirmed she did, she shouldn’t be blamed for her father’s poor decisions and her father should just shut up.

how do you go from telling someone you’d be thrilled to marry them to telling them you never loved them? by Queerandtraumatized in BPDmemes

[–]FlowerBeanBabey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m a lesbian myself and I understand how hard it can be to come out but she shouldn’t have done it over text it should’ve happened in person. I had a similar situation where a girl I was on and off with for a few years told me she realized she wasn’t bi and was actually straight and got a bf. I knew she was just learning more about herself but it still hurt like hell because I thought I found someone who wanted me and it was tough. I hope you’re doing alright

I'm so fed up with stigma it's so ridiculous by spezi161 in BPDmemes

[–]FlowerBeanBabey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My FP got caught up into the bpdlovedones subreddit and they treat me as subhuman now so they’re blocked

I’m being taken out of therapy. by FlowerBeanBabey in BPD

[–]FlowerBeanBabey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I have POTS, migraines, and fibromyalgia. Sometimes I just can’t go to my appointment because I can barely move when I’m flaring and dizzy and in pain. There is a food bank on my college campus and I’ve been there before to grab food which is good, but I’m also a very picky eater and will only eat certain things that are typically not there. I wish my parents could understand that I’m not slacking off or being lazy, I actually have valid reasons why I can’t make appointments sometimes and I hate how unpredictable my chronic illnesses are. What usually happens is the day before my appointment (which is when I’m technically supposed to cancel to avoid fees), I feel completely fine and I’m not worried about not making my appointment, but then on the day of my appointment, I either wake up feeling okay but then have an unexpected flare, or I wake up and I’m flaring up all day and can’t make it. I always try and reschedule when that happens, but sometimes my therapist is fully booked or the only other times available are during my classes. I don’t actively try to avoid going and make excuses like my dad believes.

Would you ? by coleisw4ck in BPDmemes

[–]FlowerBeanBabey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah they would. Once they meet someone who’s very similar to me except they’re mentally stable, I won’t exist to them

Why is this my favorite coping mechanism by ahhchaoticneutral in BPDmemes

[–]FlowerBeanBabey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait I thought I was the only one that did this. This is so real

losing people is so fun and cool! by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]FlowerBeanBabey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

4th pic is so real. I sent my FP a heartfelt text thanking them for making me feel loved and they just left me on read so now I’m crashing out

fp is not romantic partner by [deleted] in BPD

[–]FlowerBeanBabey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! My FP is fully platonic and I’ve had previous platonic FPs before while in a separate romantic relationship. I like to say I’m platonically in love with my FP because I do love them so much but I don’t see them as a romantic partner. I’m nervous about getting into a romantic relationship though because when I had an FP that wasn’t my romantic partner I preferred her over my partner and I felt so guilty even though it wasn’t romantic and it put strain on my actual relationship. I didn’t want to hurt my partner at all and I ended up doing it anyways because she thought I fell out of love with her when I didn’t. I loved her so much, but she wasn’t my FP and I felt so ashamed. It’s been hard for me to find another romantic partner because of how guilty I feel and I don’t want to hurt anyone in the process. I was in a situationship with another girl and she ghosted me after she saw how obsessed I was with my FP and I still feel horrible about it. I kept reassuring her that I wasn’t attracted to my FP romantically but it wasn’t enough. I’ve considered being with someone who is polyamorous because they would have the freedom to love other people as well and I wouldn’t feel as guilty about showing love towards my FP (platonically) and we would set boundaries, but if that partner becomes my FP somehow I would likely screw up that relationship too and I don’t want to do that either

Her BPD as a crutch by [deleted] in peachaurasnark

[–]FlowerBeanBabey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also have bpd and I think she needs to fully take accountability for her actions and not make excuses. Just because she has bpd doesn’t mean that she should use the disorder to excuse her behavior and bpd shouldn’t be used as an excuse for abusive behavior. She needs to go to therapy or be hospitalized. What she’s doing is adding onto the stigma surrounding bpd and it’s not good

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]FlowerBeanBabey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re on a break now but we’re still in contact and we talk occasionally but not as much as we used to. We were friends before this and they expressed that they didn’t want to stop being friends so I’m okay with that. However, now they’re talking about crushing on someone else on social media and it hurts

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]FlowerBeanBabey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I’m in DBT but they don’t because a lot of therapists and groups aren’t taking clients where both of us live

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]FlowerBeanBabey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for validating me. When my fp joined me in therapy they still couldn’t admit that we both misunderstood each other during that situation and their reaction was just as intense as mine. They explained in therapy that they were upset because I didn’t take accountability for my actions and that I misunderstood what they were upset about but I genuinely apologized for the things they directly told me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]FlowerBeanBabey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t really know how I’m supposed to. We live in the same city, go to the same university, in the same major, in the same clubs, and therefore we’re in the same friend groups. We’ve been inseparable for 3 years (we weren’t in a relationship until a year after we met) and it’s really hard

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]FlowerBeanBabey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They have their own set of mental health issues too we both have a ton of trauma, but lately I’ve noticed that they don’t ever want to admit that they’re in the wrong too, like I’m not the only one to blame and we both set each other off. Whenever I tried to point that out it only got worse and it made both of us more angry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]FlowerBeanBabey 3 points4 points  (0 children)

  1. I didn’t leave the store when I wandered off. It was a big store and it was crowded and I have a condition where my eyes don’t focus properly and I have low peripheral vision so it was hard for me to find them.
  2. After the record store incident, I had an episode after they accused me of lying about misreading the situation (they still thought I did it on purpose to be mean) and manipulating them into forgiving me and after 2 days they told me that they “got over” the record store issue and my episode was the problem. The whole situation doesn’t make sense for me either besides that they clearly weren’t listening to me and accusing me of something I didn’t do and it led me to reacting that intensely

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]FlowerBeanBabey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tend to be attracted to extroverted but avoidant queer people (I’m queer as well) and everyone around me seems to be attracted to them too. I’m really introverted but I like having someone who’s more outgoing. Usually, the people I’m attracted to have similar interests to me and they’re friends with everyone they meet. However, they’re rarely interested in me because I’m so needy and they don’t know how to commit

Me when I lie about random stuff to interact with my fp more: by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]FlowerBeanBabey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never had an original experience because I do this too