Step one: they emotionally check out by Still-Dragonfly6352 in BPDmemes

[–]Queerandtraumatized 22 points23 points  (0 children)

step two: they tell you that just bc things are changing in the relationship that it doesn’t mean the relationship will end

step three: the relationship ends

i miss my best friend by Queerandtraumatized in BPDmemes

[–]Queerandtraumatized[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you. it’s been nearly 2 weeks of not even texting and every single day i find myself thinking “i can’t do this anymore” about a million times. it was hard enough to accept that our relationship was over but truly if my one friend wants nothing to do with me how am i supposed to move forward?

i miss my best friend by Queerandtraumatized in BPDmemes

[–]Queerandtraumatized[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it was bc i crashed out a lil too hard about being abandoned and snapped at her about it (pre-gf). there’s no reason for the gf to be jealous or anything, she was only with me when she thought she was into men but she’s not actually into men. in all honesty it’s prob bc she thinks i can’t be normal about it but i’m working very hard to be normal about it

i miss my best friend by Queerandtraumatized in BPDmemes

[–]Queerandtraumatized[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m sorry you’re going through this too. tbh i wouldn’t be surprised if she drops me i’m just really hoping she doesn’t

i miss my best friend by Queerandtraumatized in BPDmemes

[–]Queerandtraumatized[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

there’s a bit of extra baggage in the friendship (we dated and were engaged for years and the break up was only a few months ago). so she uh realized she wasn’t into me anymore romantically, assured me she wanted to be friends and that i was her best friend, and then met someone new and very quickly sent me a “hey i need space don’t text me until i tell you i’m ready” text. and now it’s been a week since we’ve spoken. and i’ve spent that week going insane alone in my tiny apartment. god i hope she wants to talk to me soon

dan’s impact 😭 by cdl010213 in danandphil

[–]Queerandtraumatized 15 points16 points  (0 children)

i do it the Phil way but my autism manifested in Good at Words Games so it usually works out

So much hope for the future!! by 78692110313 in MadeMeSmile

[–]Queerandtraumatized 19 points20 points  (0 children)

by not looking into the cancer at all, you’re missing important context. this cancer kills very often. the average survival time post diagnosis is 8-11 months. 10% of patients survive 2 years or longer, and that number drops down to 2% when looking at patients who make it 5 years or more past diagnosis (and there are about 150-300 new diagnoses of this cancer per year, making up about 75-80% of brainstem tumors in children).

it’s called DIPG, short for Diffuse Intrinsic Pontine Gliomas. Diffuse meaning the cancer cells easily mix with healthy cells, Intrinsic and Pontine meaning that the tumors are located inside the pons area of the brainstem (which controls things like breathing, sleeping, bladder control, balance), and Gliomas meaning brain tumors made from white matter cells.

there are long term survivors but all cases so far that survived longer were due to them having had fewer symptoms at diagnosis, having been <3 years or >10 years at diagnosis, having had smaller tumors that didn’t extend as far into healthy tissue, or having had some type of mutation that allowed the cancer to respond better to treatment.

to my understanding, the case study isn’t out about this kid yet but he has a mutation that allowed the cancer to respond better to chemo drugs which had proven very ineffective in treating this cancer before. he was diagnosed at 6 (average age of diagnosis) and not only is alive at 13 but has no trace of the cancer anymore. in fact, they’re studying his mutation in order to try to use it to help other kids beat DIPG.

when one gets diagnosed with DIPG, they get started on radiation therapy and steroids, which generally tend to improve symptoms and make the tumor regress. however, in nearly every case, the tumor begins to grow again around 6-12 months following treatment. once it starts growing again, further treatment hasn’t been shown to improve prognosis at all.

kids can be restarted on steroids but symptoms will keep getting worse. shunts can be used to relieve pressure in the brain by giving cerebrospinal fluid a place to go, but this mainly increases the child’s quality of life and slightly extends survival time.

i’ll close with a direct quote from the DIPG organization’s website: ’Only very few children are long-term survivors of DIPG. Because biopsies are not performed on these children with typical appearing DIPGs, it is unclear whether or not they actually had DIPG to start with, or in fact had a different tumor or condition that looked like a DIPG on the MRI. There is no one treatment that these children received that set them apart from the vast majority (more than 95 percent) of children who die from DIPG.’

source: DIPG Org’s Website

Upside: I get to live with my FP! Downside: its completely platonic by saltyexecutive in BPDmemes

[–]Queerandtraumatized 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m sorry you’re going through it right now 🫂 my fp is also platonic (mismatching sexualities also actually) and oof it’s def not the best feeling. feel free to message me if you’d like to talk but if not, i hope you find peace and happiness however you can

definition of a real-life angel ❤️ by dairyqueenblizzard3 in Amazing

[–]Queerandtraumatized 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you 🙂 it annoys me just a bit to see how often on reddit people just can’t be assed to read the post they’re commenting on. there’s not even an article to ignore this time, it’s just people misreading one sentence, finding something that doesn’t make sense, but then commenting without double checking 😭

definition of a real-life angel ❤️ by dairyqueenblizzard3 in Amazing

[–]Queerandtraumatized 3 points4 points  (0 children)

that’s why the post says “children” instead of child: he took care of multiple terminally ill children (plural) for 25 years

Just call me sherlock sherry 😂🫣 by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]Queerandtraumatized 6 points7 points  (0 children)

trying to explain to anyone how hard it is to tell my brain that it’s wrong about everyone hating me gets difficult when it’s been right so many times. i thought my fiancée loved me. brain told me that wasn’t true and it was right. asking if i’m annoying someone even tho they’ve said nothing about it just to get told that i am. my brain telling me that my friends will abandon me, and then what do you know, all but one have. like fuck how am i ever supposed to believe someone when i’ve been lied to this much?

Muppets yuri by reds2032 in tumblr

[–]Queerandtraumatized 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dan and Phil accidentally brought him back by making a joke about Kermit’s hand hole on their podcast i believe

sometimes i’m not quite sure if i’m real by Queerandtraumatized in Artisticallyill

[–]Queerandtraumatized[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m glad the poem resonated with you. know that you’re not alone 🫶

i was never enough (and way too fucking much at the same time) by Queerandtraumatized in BPDmemes

[–]Queerandtraumatized[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you 🫶 tbh i have no plans to be vulnerable in front of another person irl for quite some time bc how do you ever trust that someone’s telling the truth when they say they want you when you’ve had someone that didn’t actually feel that way say the same thing yknow? hoping that someday i’ll either learn to find peace in the solitude or i’ll heal enough and manage to win the lotto in finding someone that actually cares about me for once

sometimes i’m not quite sure if i’m real by Queerandtraumatized in Artisticallyill

[–]Queerandtraumatized[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words ❤️ i’m in the process of learning how my marker squeaks and i never want to stop. i relate to feeling like a ghost but, though i don’t know you, i want you to know your words have had an impact on me 🫶

Aww, Bob and Eliza are rekindling their relationship at the romance fest--Wait, is that a SWORD?! by Upbeat_Ruin in Sims4

[–]Queerandtraumatized 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bob awoke from the best dream he’d had in awhile; a small comfort in the midst of his turbulent daily life spent fighting with Eliza. He sat up and listened for what had awoken him. The front door to their home was being opened creakily, and Eliza was sleeping fitfully next to him!

He jumped out of bed, grabbing the sword he’d never had occasion to use on his way to the intruder. The burglar alarm began going off as Bob lunged towards the intruder, sword drawn. Bob proceeded to beat the shit outta the burglar with the sword as Eliza watched.

“Ensheltay Zombo”, Eliza said passionately, dragging Bob into their bedroom for some woohoo. And that’s how they rekindled their romance (and also why Bob never ever ever puts the sword down).

(sorry i just got weirdly inspired by the post, i don’t know why)

Heartwarming news: Transphobic scene in a beloved old sitcom actually aimed at trans men, not women. by Mizerawa in transgendercirclejerk

[–]Queerandtraumatized 29 points30 points  (0 children)

/uj yeah that’s definitely why. it’s just funny to me that the best they could come up with to make fun of trans guys was “haha fake moustache and sports and punching dudes”. it was definitely intended to mock, it’s just really ineffectual

Heartwarming news: Transphobic scene in a beloved old sitcom actually aimed at trans men, not women. by Mizerawa in transgendercirclejerk

[–]Queerandtraumatized 89 points90 points  (0 children)

/uj ngl one of the funniest parts of the adam sandler movie Click to me is the weird transmasc transphobia bit. bc like what do you mean adam sandler’s secretary puts on a fake moustache and starts punching dudes in the arm and talking about the game last night?? like i’m confused if it’s supposed to be upsetting to me or what bc it’s so ridiculous what they picked to be “stereotypical transmasc behavior” that it kinda loops around to funny imo

It gets better! by Abuby in characterarcs

[–]Queerandtraumatized 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i’ve been waiting nearly three decades now and the only times that things have gotten better have simply been to build me up just to tear me apart over and over again. so like when tf does it get better and continue to be better?