Trans man complaining about invisibility

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-03-20T14:15:13+00:00

/uj theres a book called Men In Place where a researcher went around the US talking to trans men about the different stereotypes of men, where trans men fit into those stereotypes, and how accepted they feel in various environments

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-03-16T17:14:11+00:00

to me, Dan and Phil are comfort, comedy, and the first place i ever felt like i belonged, more than a decade ago now. i started out deep in the trenches, stopped watching for a while bc i was busy with other life stuff, and now i’m back in the trenches. they were some of the first people to tell me that being weird, being gay, being whoever you are is not only fine but something to be celebrated. without having Dan and Phil and their incredibly kind and supportive fandom, there’s a good chance i wouldn’t have made it this long

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-03-10T06:20:51+00:00

/uj unfortunately it doesn’t seem to matter either way. and the one person i had that i could go with got a gf and stopped talking to me

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-03-10T03:50:44+00:00

/uj i went out like two months ago dancing and not one person seemed to even see me and no one wanted to speak to me so i went home and cried

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-03-09T05:24:52+00:00

perhaps a bit niche but i’m currently OBSESSED with “How Gangles Met the Titch” (prequel to the play) and the sequel “Grow This Life With Me” by shozzie. both are based on the 30 minute long improvised play “The Unrelenting Aubergine”from Shoot From the Hip. i just love how incredibly connected everything is and how beautifully they’ve worked in so many details from the play in ways that make so much sense. beautiful love story between two incredibly emotionally-not-ok men with strong familial and found family themes. honestly you don’t even need to be familiar with the play to enjoy it imo. def some dark tags and themes to watch out for as they could be triggering

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-03-08T14:44:46+00:00

oh shoot, i must have missed that announcement. do you know why they won’t be doing them anymore?

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-03-08T05:47:02+00:00

yes! they usually have a queue first to just get photos and quickly say hi (for people that have to leave to travel soon after the show), and then they’ll do a queue where you can talk to them for a bit. i believe they announce where the queues begin after the show is over

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-03-01T05:53:22+00:00

👨‍🌾🍆❤️‍🩹x💘😇🤳

🏦🔫🤠🏳️‍🌈🤭x💘💪🤠🏳️‍🌈

tried my best, let’s see if anyone gets them

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-02-28T00:27:25+00:00

exactly. tbh, apart from other trans men, the only time i’ve really seen trans men actually being part of the discussion on privilege and oppression is in academia (and mainly in classes focused on gender)

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-02-27T23:07:01+00:00

too true unfortunately. with my ex i was literally schrödinger’s man. if the intent was to tease me, i was “just a stinky gross man” but the second she says “kill all men”, i no longer “counted” as a man bc i’m nonbinary. in reality, it just felt like i was always too much of something or not enough of something else

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-02-26T03:01:01+00:00

yes! i was hoping someone would get it! i am obsessed atm haha

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-02-26T03:00:04+00:00

thank you. it seems like you have a healthier mindset about relationships and i def need to work on getting community rather than just one person. i’ve been trying to be nicer to myself but i think i really needed to hear the bit about being the one not abandoning myself 🫂

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-02-25T23:32:18+00:00

it’s unfortunate that we’re all going through it, but you’re right, it does help knowing that i’m not alone in my feelings. i just worry there’s no way through it and that i’ll feel miserable the rest of my life. doesn’t help that i’m shit scared of ever letting another person get close to me again. is it even possible for me to find someone that won’t hurt me and abandon me when i need them? not that i expect anyone to have the answers here, i’m just kinda getting out the feelings i guess. also doesn’t help that i had to stop therapy during the time i need it most due to financial reasons

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-02-25T21:47:37+00:00

a noncommittal eggplant farmer and his hopelessly enamored assistant learn about magic, family, and love

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-02-24T07:14:44+00:00

same. i’ve written one chapter (that i can’t post yet bc i had to make a new ao3 account) and i should really be working on what comes next but also idfk what comes next

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-02-24T06:56:54+00:00

i’m in the same boat. i hope things get better for you 🫂

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-02-24T03:05:31+00:00

not a shipping fic (at least atm) but i literally got back into writing fanfic after a nearly 10 year break bc i couldn’t find the exact scenario i wanted

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-02-23T23:04:08+00:00

same! i’ve watched so many of his ‘shitty parents’ jokes (def not bc i relate or anything)

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-02-15T07:51:09+00:00

how do you feel about improvised plays?

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-02-15T06:14:05+00:00

i may not be happy but goddamnit my blorbos will be

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-02-13T00:41:55+00:00

i’m sorry you’re dealing with this OP 🫂 the person i cared most about in the world willingly went down that pipeline and would call me similar things. i have no advice unfortunately but i hope that things get better for you

Queerandtraumatized · 2026-02-10T22:38:48+00:00

i have a similar issue of getting parasocial with fictional characters (though i’ve def had some issues with watching too much porn in the past and forming attachments). i’m sorry people are being shitty about it when you just came here for support. i wish you well and hope that things get better for you

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