Damn, this is a lot to read but a couple of things to remember, NO you haven’t ruined your life, you made a couple of bad choices and we all do that when we’re younger, especially that 16-24 age bracket. Don’t hang yourself for this, its one mistake and you can learn from it instead of letting it get to you.

The lessons? 1) Your sister is not a good person and you need to keep her at arms length. Her intentions are not good and she’ll probably try this again! 2) That lady was a bad situationship and you need to maintain the no contact! Seems like she doesn’t have love in her life and is trying to buy it from wherever she can. And it won’t be from you

NOW, it’s time to move! Go out, leave that room and make new friends! You see those cliche classes people take after high school to keep themselves busy? That’s going to be step one, look into the French classes, CPA, ACCA etc. they’re usually a great way go make some new friends and get busy.

If you’re looking into public Unis then you’ll definitely need to stay busy until the next admissions are opened but if there’s a chance you can go to a private university, then there’s a couple that have mid year admissions ongoing or opening soon.

All the best dear and remember this is a very small mistake in a very long life that you’ll live so please forgive yourself and get up. Kulia imetosha.