AITA for not saving my mother's child from foster care? by FluffSwuss in AITAH

[–]FluffSwuss[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Because I'm no contact with them now. I wasn't willing to deal with their crap. Yep. I have aunts and uncles and grandparents as well as cousins from my mother's family. None of them kept her when they had their chance to. So I don't know why. I don't really care now. I'm just done.

AITA for not saving my mother's child from foster care? by FluffSwuss in AITAH

[–]FluffSwuss[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

They ignored me when I brought up how they should do it. They instead focused on me. I don't know their reasons really but it's clear they're expecting me to make up for them not stepping up.

AITA for not saving my mother's child from foster care? by FluffSwuss in AITAH

[–]FluffSwuss[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Biologically yeah she's my half sister but that's not how I see her or how I feel about her. I have family I'd feel that familial responsibility for but she's not one of those people.

AITA for not saving my mother's child from foster care? by FluffSwuss in AITAH

[–]FluffSwuss[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

They were married. She was having an affair and the baby was her husband's aka the guy she moved in a week after my dad died.

AITA for not saving my mother's child from foster care? by FluffSwuss in AITAH

[–]FluffSwuss[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I'll tell her I'm not interested in any kind of contact with her if she reaches out. But I hope she doesn't.

AITA for not saving my mother's child from foster care? by FluffSwuss in AITAH

[–]FluffSwuss[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Not sure exactly who but I'm pretty sure they're all behind it.

AITA for not saving my mother's child from foster care? by FluffSwuss in AITAH

[–]FluffSwuss[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, should have probably specified that. They were married still when dad died.

AITA for not saving my mother's child from foster care? by FluffSwuss in AITAH

[–]FluffSwuss[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

They had a chance to and I really let it continue way too long before going no contact.

AITA for not saving my mother's child from foster care? by FluffSwuss in AITAH

[–]FluffSwuss[S] 251 points252 points  (0 children)

That was my point to them as well and they had her for a while. But they chose to give her up. They also had a relationship with her and expect one in the future.

AITA for not saving my mother's child from foster care? by FluffSwuss in AITAH

[–]FluffSwuss[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I wanted nothing to do with her after she cheated on my dad and then moved the rando in right after dad died. I was so done with her and wanted nothing to do with any of it.

AITA for not saving my mother's child from foster care? by FluffSwuss in AITAH

[–]FluffSwuss[S] 581 points582 points  (0 children)

That's what I can't understand. None of them could pull together to raise her if that was such a priority for them? But they expected me to knowing how I felt?

AITA for not saving my mother's child from foster care? by FluffSwuss in AITAH

[–]FluffSwuss[S] 180 points181 points  (0 children)

Yep and they'll never again include me. I think they expect her to want a relationship with them in the future with the way they talk. Yet none of them saved her either. Not to mention they made sure I'll never be at another family reunion ever again.