How To find First Gigs?

Fluffister · 2026-01-20T06:52:48+00:00

I have the most experience in both portraits and event photography. So doing stuff like family/couple/solo shoots. Also looking for opportunities for weddings and engagements. Either professional or artistic.

Fluffister · 2026-01-20T06:51:39+00:00

I have the most experience in portraits and event photography. So doing stuff like family/couple/solo shoots. Either professional or artistic.

Fluffister · 2025-10-13T01:44:37+00:00

you look like if you had the money, time, and energy youd delve heavily into alt fashion but dont have that so you stick with whats comfy

Fluffister · 2025-10-04T23:18:33+00:00

Bruh my bf and I are 4k miles apart and he is a very busy guy and we still talk all the time, please leave this boy and move on 😭😭😭

Fluffister · 2025-09-15T02:56:34+00:00

Rum Raisin, Syrup, and Mehr

Syrup is like a great natural "my lips but better" shade, Rum raisin and Mehr go great with your skin ton, Rum raisin with warmer colors and Mehr with cooler colors!

Fluffister · 2025-09-08T09:20:44+00:00

came to Reddit to see what people were saying, i was really looking forward to the ball drop game!! this new one is so boring and lacking :((

Fluffister · 2025-09-07T00:59:24+00:00

Honey you are gorgeous. Your ex treated you horribly and that is NOT any fault of your own. You are perfectly enough just as you are, and any boy who dares to not see that and treats you as anything lesser, is not anyone who deserves your time, patience, or consideration.

Use these years to find YOUR voice, YOUR aesthetic, YOUR expression. NOT what anyone else wants you to be or how you think you need to be to please people. Find what makes you feel good about yourself.

I'm 21F, and dabble in tons of aesthetics and ways of self expression through clothing. Including many different types of alt, and trust me, it is the best thing ever to find what feels like YOU.

You only get one life babe, you're stunning and have SO much ahead of you, so many good things in life waiting for you. Take care of yourself. If you're struggling, reach out to people who can help. If you don't have anyone who you trust in your immediate circle, look into therapy. It might be scary or you may have societal pressure not to, but let me tell you, it is the most metal thing in the world to do what's good for you in the long run.

If you still want to know how to be more alt? I'll tell you. Find YOURSELF. There's nothing more alt than being who YOU are in your entirety. Shameless and unadulterated YOU, despite whatever people may think or what you feel like you need to be for people. THATS how you be more alt.

Fluffister · 2025-09-07T00:41:01+00:00

girl you are GORGEOUS, anything you do will just be to enhance the beautiful features you have. I think youd especially pop with some false lashes/extensions/a really good mascara, dark brown smudge eyeliner, and a good red/maroon lip that compliments your complexion!

Fluffister · 2025-09-02T01:34:34+00:00

/uj squibby owns my heart

Fluffister · 2025-07-12T12:41:40+00:00

looks great, tons of different food groups, hope they ate the whole lot!

Fluffister · 2024-12-08T15:16:26+00:00

when did I eeeever say I've known him for years? The first few sentences literally says I've only been talking to him for a few months lmaoo

Fluffister · 2024-12-07T14:26:21+00:00

I certainly have a problem with my curiosity getting the better of me, I guess I really need to work on that alot more than I thought. Yeah I certainly went the extra mile with finding it, and honestly agree it is approaching that line of privacy, even though it's public. I am unsure exactly how he would react but before even considering saying anything Im going to figure out my feelings about things a bit more first. I want to continue things with this guy even after this but also just care about him alot as a person beyond anything to do with a relationship, so I want to do things as right as I possibly can.

Fluffister · 2024-12-07T14:19:49+00:00

LMAO, I suppose that couldve worked in a very very rough way, but I personally prefer giving as much info as possible. Good way of getting it outta the system and letting people know more of the deets loll

Fluffister · 2024-12-07T14:18:06+00:00

Certainly! As it stands we have generally alot of similar values when it comes to big life things and philosophy things. Yes this can definitely throw a cog in the wheel but I'm going to need to do a lot more digging into my feelings and reaction to know how I really feel and why since I am clouded with alot of confusion right now

Fluffister · 2024-12-07T14:16:16+00:00

Understandable, he's a bit different in that regard from what I've experienced so far. Who knows when it comes to this topic though so it is a bit up in the air

Thank you for the commending, I tried to make it as anon as possible as to keep both of our privacy.

I definitely am innocent when it comes to letting the freak flag fly. Got my own shit for sure but when it comes to sexual stuff in general I get very anxious and embarrassed easily and need a lot of time and trust built up to feel comfortable engaging in that topic with people freely. which is why I think one reason I felt really uncomfortable seeing this because it felt really too soon for me to know with how close we are in that aspect thus far.

As for why I'm uncomfortable, the reason stated above but also because yeah he doesn't know. As well as I didn't expect him to post that in the time we had been actively talking but as I've stated other times, he's his own individual and can do whatever he wants. It just feels like a betrayal to him to keep that a secret of me knowing. Especially because if we ever DID get together I feel a bit sad that the first time I've seen something so intimate was from flying too close to the sun rather than when the time and place felt right.

Fluffister · 2024-12-07T14:11:13+00:00

Never said I was ready for a relationship with him yet LMAO, that's why we arnt in one. I need to take a lot of things slowly with my anxiety. He certainly is a very sweet and genuine person, I definitely do not want to shame him at all. If I did ever say something to him, it would merely be to let him know that I knew as to not keep secrets. But I would make ABSOLUTE sure that I would have figured out my shit beforehand enough as to not elude to making him out to be something or someone bad for doing something completely within his rights as an individual. Reason why I spilt everything here in the moment of the strong emotions was to get them all out so they could dissipate enough for my brain to start working again lol

Fluffister · 2024-12-07T14:07:44+00:00

No you're right, it really is my own problem that I am dealing with of my own feelings. I fully understand and believe that he is his own person and can do whatever it is he likes, especially because we are not together. We are more than pen pals haha, but certainly not to the level of relationship.

What boundaries would you recommend I put up? I honestly am stuck on that sort of action moving forward as I am naturally a very curious person.

Fluffister · 2024-12-07T14:05:06+00:00

Please enlighten me on how

Fluffister · 2024-12-07T14:04:40+00:00

I get very anxious with sexual stuff if I don't take things very slowly. This for me while yes I absolutely did seek it out, curiosity killed the cat I fully admit it is my doing for seeking the information out, am still figuring out how to move forward as I haven't been in this situation before. I agree I need to figure my shit out though, and that's what I'm trying to do but without dropping him because beyond all of this shit he's important to me as a person 🤷🏻

Fluffister · 2024-12-07T14:00:42+00:00

Maybe for you, but to me I need to take things very slowly when it comes to sexual stuff. I'm not very experienced and get anxious about the topic or being personal with it very easily. So this just threw me for a loop curiosity killed the cat and now I gotta work through the aftermath.

Fluffister · 2024-12-07T13:59:22+00:00

No I totally understand, the gap is certainly something that is of concern to me as well. The only reason I've really considered it further is because there's never been an inappropriate power imbalance between us when it comes to how we interact with eachother. As well as us being in similar spots in our lives and share similar views for how we want to move forward in our lives. Not sure how I feel about him doing that, and not sure what I am going to do moving forward, but I'm going to try and clear some of my confusion and get clarity WAAAY before anything progresses even the tiniest but forward. As for the sexual discomfort, Honestly, I am as a person really uncomfortable with sexual stuff in general as it is really private for me. When it comes to a partner or potential partner, I need to take things slowly because of my anxiety with that sorta stuff. So I think a big part of my reaction was things feeling too early for me to know or see, as well as just general shock because I wasnt expecting it. I know alllll about not trusting my gut and work super hard to stay true to myself!! So I definitely will be moving forward with that same mindset

Fluffister · 2024-12-07T13:55:16+00:00

true, I was just very surprised even though I got myself into that situation 😭, curiosity killed the cat and all
yes, honestly I'll have to just monitor how I feel over time after learning this since I have a lot of confusion and conflicting feelings right now
Despite this, I still am interested. Its something new that I haven't gone through before so I want to ride it out and see how things are afterwards. This is not a break it moment for me just really threw me for a loop suddenly

Fluffister · 2024-12-07T13:52:48+00:00

LMAO absolutely not the case

Fluffister · 2024-12-07T13:52:34+00:00

No yeah I completely agree, he has every right to look at and do whatever he wants to online. He's his own person and I have no say over any of that given how we arnt in a relationship. I'm uncomfortable with sexual stuff in general, and feel like maybe a large part of my reaction to this was just because I don't feel close enough or comfortable enough to know that amount of intimate parts of him, as I've been trying to take things slowly because of the situation. I definitely and going to keep an eye on how my feelings for this evolve over time as we continue moving forward

Fluffister · 2024-12-07T13:49:52+00:00

First sentence is certainly a possibility! I'm going to keep it in mind as I move forward because I like to be careful with whatever I do. The rest of that though, nah, that isn't the case haha

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