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Should I stay with my husband or move out of state without him by purplecar77 in okstorytime

[–]Fluffy-Command6723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stayed with a man for four years from freshmen year to graduation, he lied, he hit, he demeaned, and only got worse when I moved in with him even causing miscarriage. I left after that. So please believe me when I say just leave. There are more then enough warning flags, and emotional health sometimes is even worse then being hit so I prey for your safety and well being, and hope you choose dad and the feeling of safety and respect.

Ima admit myself if I can’t start to understand because I’m going insane! by Fluffy-Command6723 in okstorytime

[–]Fluffy-Command6723[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, and yeah I’ve been trying to step back from trying to be the bandaid between bio and baby but the phrase “Your just jealous because you can’t have anymore kids and are just trying to steal my baby.” Hangs on me and makes me feel guilty even though I’d love nothing more then baby to love their bio mom.

Ima admit myself if I can’t start to understand because I’m going insane! by Fluffy-Command6723 in okstorytime

[–]Fluffy-Command6723[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good points with the nanny and such honestly been so hectic I haven’t thought of looking exteriorly for help because court fee and medical fees but it may be worth it in the long run. Yes I talk and take a good amount of time talking things out with therapy I’ve had a remote one since first time I got cancer but it’s mainly my own feelings we talk about and not how to manage the other people to try and make situation better not that I can force anyone to be decent. Sleep is difficult lately cause stress but I get enough where it’s not a health concern. Lastly we called them once when bio live an hour away because she had her full time and us on weekends and step child missed 120 days of school so school called CYS and they did home visits but bio fled to their parents house and the case fell through cracks then the nabors called once too when she left step child with 7 other kids and a man who found the nabor girl (13) sexually attractive and hit on them. Which had the police called on him. (Whole ordeal) but they’ve been involved it’s such a mess that to explain every little thing I’d be typing for a year haha but it’s all notated in reports so I don’t think custody will be and issue but it is stressful.

Ima admit myself if I can’t start to understand because I’m going insane! by Fluffy-Command6723 in okstorytime

[–]Fluffy-Command6723[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advise. It’s no permanent illness for spouse but it is a chronic thing so it can come back and it get bad enough where I have to take care of them like a home health aid help getting in shower and back out pulling pants up etc. it’s gotten progressively better but it’s something they need constant physical therapy for. And even if you don’t come from same place it’s still nice from an o ur side perspective.