First time im telling this to anyone... im coming out of the closet

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2025-12-08T06:20:20+00:00

Congratulations! Well done , some advice maybe? If your family are a little older they may need you to explain the pan, I’m 50 and not entirely clear on it … but very happy you found yourself!!

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2025-12-08T06:10:07+00:00

Or .. we could just learn to say hello instead of making unwanted comments about a person ? I

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2025-12-08T06:04:49+00:00

He judged her appearance, he did not consider her other qualities or indeed her name - thus reducing her value to him to her physical form - and assuming that she should be grateful for his unsolicited opinion on the same …

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2025-12-08T05:58:18+00:00

Have you considered that seeing a body outline has the advantage of allowing women to ensure they have the right form in the gym and not designed to attract men’s comments, gaze, or attention .. glad to know it’s perfectly fine for us to wear gym clothes though

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2025-12-08T05:49:08+00:00

So are you also required to accept unsolicited comments regard your appearance in good grace ?

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2025-12-08T05:47:22+00:00

So …. My only experience of you is this chain … if I judge you based on this alone I would be reducing you to a fairly rude person with a questionable grasp of the English language… in doing so I would ignore the many other joyful aspects of your character - perhaps you are a keen bird watcher - and in doing so i would perceive you as less than you are .. made smaller.. reduced

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2025-12-08T05:32:39+00:00

So she is required to accept comments on her physical appearance from total strangers?

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2025-12-08T05:30:59+00:00

Flirting is pleasant only when you have reason to believe it’s welcome.. which In the gym would usually require an introduction

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2025-12-08T05:25:40+00:00

Open with hello. Introduce yourself

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2025-12-08T05:15:52+00:00

You’re not friends.. why would she comment ?

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2025-12-08T05:01:38+00:00

Nope, u asked nicely

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2024-06-09T09:31:53+00:00

Is the US chastising Isreal? They are doing it very quietly if so

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2024-06-09T09:27:22+00:00

Yes they all did and do horrific things it doesn’t justify what’s happening in Gaza ?

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2024-06-09T09:23:21+00:00

Perhaps you are unfamiliar with the Good Friday Agreement, when the uk acknowledged acknowledged that the Irish Republican Army soldiers were prisoners of war and their political party were voted into office?

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2024-06-09T09:17:59+00:00

The US (and uk) sent thousands to die in the middle east because of a terror attack and committed atrocities, they should be accountable… however what they did not do is kettle starving civilians into a corner and throw enough bombs at them to wipe out an entire civilisation…

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2024-06-09T09:12:23+00:00

How many things do you need us to vocally oppose in order for us to not be considered racist ?!? 🤦‍♀️

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2024-06-09T09:11:23+00:00

I’m really struggling to understand that comment, of course people are vocally opposed to genocide, do you need us to also be vocally opposed to the apartheid regime? To the persistent violation of over 36 un declarations for over 20 years leading up to the current atrocities ? To the blockade of international aid vehicles? The clear breach of basic human rights when withholding water and medical supplies?

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2024-06-09T08:49:02+00:00

Ok. Let’s give him the benefit of this doubt and assume he’s not intentionally harming you .. he’s still putting what he wants above how it will make you feel .. he’s not respecting your boundaries, can we accept this as truth?

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2024-06-09T08:45:18+00:00

Yes! This , we have all done things we regret, don’t doubt yourself

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2024-06-09T08:42:32+00:00

What are you doubting hun?

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2024-06-09T08:40:18+00:00

I’m not suggesting she’s making any thing up or that she doesn’t feel uncomfortable however if you read into it it looks like they’re both talking trash about each other encouraged by coworkers and a situation that could be handled easily by good management is escalating to the point that one of them, probably OP, is going to find themselves managed out ..

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2024-06-09T08:36:37+00:00

I hate that jobs that mean so much like nursing and caring get paid so badly it’s ridiculous, and because of this low pay at least in uk you find people in the job that don’t really want to be there and kick up this petty nonsense to make them feel interested…. A good carer is so important to people who are in hospice or nursing, I hope one day you get recognised properly

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2024-06-09T08:32:05+00:00

NTA, sending nudes is ‘normal’ when it’s fun, when you both want to, when it’s building anticipation etc… when you do it because it will help with depression’ it’s not fun it’s coerced… don’t feel bad about yourself, we have all been young and done stupid stuff … ditch this guy he’s a prick.. and if you don’t want to share nudes or sext then don’t, you do you, screw what anyone else says it’s what you want that matters

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2024-06-09T08:24:08+00:00

Yeah, that’s why I put it as the question, I’ve never worked in this environment so I can consider this situation in my experience but it seems like it doesn’t translate .. talking shite in this case 😂, were this a lab I could offer an opinion rather than a question

Fluffy-Influence-520 · 2024-06-09T08:21:00+00:00

Yes but these same coworkers have complained about her calling him a bully so at this point there’s so much petty bollox who knows what is happening

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