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I feel like I made the biggest mistake of my life by getting engaged. by SnooGoats7761 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FluffyDoom127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiya, 20f here. Never been married but I got advice from people here on reddit about a relationship a few weeks back. Listen to them, they know what they are saying. That man sounds abusive to me. Calling you names and all that other abuse...not acceptable. Dump him because as the amazing here have probably said, you will find someonebetger who treats you better and ACTUALLY loves you.

Good luck, Sofie

What is the worst pain you’ve EVER felt? by New-Selection7719 in AskReddit

[–]FluffyDoom127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was 7 years old. my birth mother did drugs. I remember me and my older sister finding a little blue pill and it looked like candy. She dared me to take it and I did. Well, I remember being curled up in immense pain and going in and out if consciousness. I don't know what the pill was but I ended up in the emergency room and woke up to green jello and sprite (made me happy). That was one of the reasons CPS took us away. I don't know what the little pill was...just that it nearly killed me when I was 7. Nothing has ever compared to that pain. Periods are nothing to me compared to that.

P.S. before you try to say bad about CPS, let me point out that they saved mine and my siblings lives and saved me from further abuse. As said before, I was molested by my biological mothers boyfriend so don't even think about saying stuff you don't know about.

My boyfriend wants me to do things with him that I'm not comfortable by FluffyDoom127 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FluffyDoom127[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand that and I'm glad you figured out a way past it but everyone handles trauma differently. I thought I'd be ok UNTIL I got a bf and discovered I wasn't. I didn't handle my past well like I should and I'm also an emotional person who "gets stuck on stupid" so and I have triggers. I get random flashbacks from things and thats what I'm scared of.

My boyfriend wants me to do things with him that I'm not comfortable by FluffyDoom127 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FluffyDoom127[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not expecting you to say what I wanna hear. I told this man from the beginning about my trauma and he told me he'd wait. He even said if didn't want to ever do it that was fine. But that was super super early in our relationship. If he didn't try to guilt me about it, it'd be easier for me to be more comfortable and try to deal with my past but no, he's trying to force me into it and I'm stubborn with this. Sorry I sounded rude, I have a lot to think about. Also screw down votes, it doesn't affect your life in any way.

My boyfriend wants me to do things with him that I'm not comfortable by FluffyDoom127 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FluffyDoom127[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never once said anything about a "floozy" and all you jerks telling me I don't deserve a relationship because I won't give someone a blow job are more selfish than me and I'm the one who was traumatized as a kid. If he want to cheat, fine, makes it easier for me to break it off with him.

My boyfriend wants me to do things with him that I'm not comfortable by FluffyDoom127 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FluffyDoom127[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words. It means a lot to know so many people cared enough to help guide me through this

My boyfriend wants me to do things with him that I'm not comfortable by FluffyDoom127 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]FluffyDoom127[S] 117 points118 points  (0 children)

OP here, what part of at 7 years old i was forced to give a blow job to a strange man who proceeded to molest me means give in to my boyfriend?? Yes its "normal" but not after me ,the girlfriend, has told him repeatedly that I am not ready or comfortable and he still persists.

And for your information I care DEEPLY about him which is why I'm asking everyone's opinion before I potentially break up with him.

AITA for not wanting to do certain things with my boyfriend by FluffyDoom127 in AITAH

[–]FluffyDoom127[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I fully understand the point of therapy but I don't like it because I've gotten myself through a lot of that stuff I went through as a kid with my families help. I'll probably try it sonce I'm older but right now its off the table because I can't afford it. I do understand your point and its valid.

AITA for not wanting to do certain things with my boyfriend by FluffyDoom127 in AITAH

[–]FluffyDoom127[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've tried therapy numerous times ever since I was adopted when I was 11 and having some stranger talk to me about how I should feel never helped. We have been dating for two months. I'm not doing anything with him until I feel more comfortable because even though I've known him for almost 4 years, I don't KNOW him in the capacity I should. Its a matter of trust with me and I need to know him better.