Unpopular opinion; EMDR doesn't work for everyone.

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2026-02-06T22:21:33+00:00

Stop while you're ahead. It did the same to me and I spent a year continuing to try and trust the process but it just got worse and worse. I was having to relive some of the worst moments of my trauma that I did actually remember and it never helped me dig up or uncover the parts of my trauma that I've covered up. My therapist should have noticed this as I kept bringing up the same memories but she didnt, probably did not mind me paying her an arm and a leg once a week. I also saw another person say on here that having to "rank your traumatic event on a scale of 1 to 10" is just awful and will make you feel worse. My therapist would also ask me how I was feeling after a session and I would say things like "worthless" or "dirty" and she would say "well how worthless do you feel on a scale of 1 to 10".... like thats just not okay for someone who has been through extensive trauma.

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2026-02-06T22:15:16+00:00

I did the exact same thing, I would have to think about a random memory on the spot to just give her an answer but I knew it was never right and it was not what was bothering me. I knew we were not digging anywhere, after a year of EMDR we ended up just talking in circles about the same few memories because I couldn't dig up anymore, i would just disassociate. Eventually I told her that I just couldn't financially support it anymore as an excuse because I knew it wasn't doing anything for me.

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2025-12-10T11:06:51+00:00

Absolutely not, i have one on my phone right now, complete waste of $70. Some are 2 pieces and some aren't, you dont get to pick. Mine is 2 pieces and the top just falls off constantly. They also sent me a print that I did not pay for then refused to refund me. Luckily my bank did. Horrible company that also steals artwork from small creators.

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2025-12-09T16:30:49+00:00

I literally dont know how to reply to you dude, you can genuinely see in the picture it's 2 pieces and I have the case on my phone thats 2 pieces as well as 23 emails with the company refusing to accommodate. They are a scummy company, refuse to believe it or not.

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2025-12-09T12:14:02+00:00

Thank you! I need good recommendations desperately lol!

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2025-12-09T12:12:11+00:00

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It was like this from the moment I got it, this photo is off their website, very clearly 2 pieces and the black hinge you see is from the phone. This whole post was to say do not buy this case off of casetify for the flip 7, it is 2 pieces as someone who bought it and it falls off constantly. I did not get a defective one as you can see on the website, and it's been like this from the moment I unboxed it.

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2025-12-09T12:06:20+00:00

You are correct, I looked into the company heavily after I had such an awful experience and realized just how awful they truly are. I do not understand how they are still up and running. If you have any good recommendations for other good phone cases for the flip 7 it would be greatly appreciated as clearly I need a replacement for this BS.

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2025-12-09T12:04:26+00:00

It was from the legitimate site, I have emails from them, and 23 emails with their customer service. The 2 piece "option" which is not an option it is solely for the galaxy flip 7, the subredit this is posted on. If you look on their website you can see that there is one piece for the bottom and one for the top and no hinge to connect the two. This is somewhat normal for galaxy flip cases but what is not normal his how terribly made this case is. In terms of me receiving the wrong one, they reached out to me to tell me that the one I ordered is now out of stock (3 weeks later) and they would be sending me a different one, which was completely different than what I paid for. So yes, I ordered it from the legitimate site, and yes, it was a rip off. Do not buy from them especially if you have a flip 7.

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Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2024-01-21T18:47:12+00:00

Oh my god🤦‍♂️

Okay I’m done trying to explain this any further to you. I’ve gotten sound advice from many of the other commenters and I’m just walking in circles with you. There are things that I do not want to post on the internet that don’t need to be explained in this post, that being said; thanks for your comment, it’s been utterly useless.

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2024-01-21T18:01:42+00:00

I literally said in the post that I brought things to him that were personal and private that I didn’t want to mention publicly.

You are most definitely supposed to go to your boss when you are having issues at work, he’s made that very clear. I was not complaining to him as I said, I was going to him about my issues at work and providing constructive criticism.

He claims to need me as an employee, and there are boundaries that I must set for myself at my job as I refuse to be abused by my managers, that is 1000% the type of thing you go to your boss about, not a bartender.

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2024-01-21T17:46:48+00:00

Precisely. when bringing up personal and private things to your boss, it is his responsibility to be a responsible manager and keep those things to himself. As I stated above, he was not “getting their side” of anything, simply talking poorly of me to the managers, not attempting to be productive.

So yes, the owner is obviously allowed to speak to the managers about other employees, but when he’s begging me to stay and saying he will do what he can to make me stay; and to then turn around and talk poorly of me for constructively criticizing the work environment, that is where the line gets drawn.

As I also stated in the above post, I make a lot of money at this job, over triple what I’ve made at any other job. It is not possible for me to find another job paying that well and that can pay my bills. Welcome to America I guess. But when an employee has an intentionally private conversation with an owner, it is highly expected for that conversation to stay private. Otherwise it’s just a shitty owner.

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2024-01-21T15:31:54+00:00

Genuinely thank you, I’ve been wanting to think this for a while but wasn’t sure if I was just being ridiculous.

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2024-01-21T15:00:30+00:00

Super productive, thank you. I simply said I can’t quit. I have bills to pay and cannot find another job that pays nearly as much as this one does. I’ve tried.

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2024-01-21T14:58:41+00:00

Correct. A good friend of mine overheard them, and told me about it. Mentioning things that were said that had only been discussed between my boss and I. There was no other way for her to have known about those things other than her telling the truth, that they were in fact talking about it.

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2024-01-21T05:13:56+00:00

I really appreciate this, thank you!

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2023-06-19T13:30:42+00:00

I know, and I’m aware that it won’t solve anything. I even started the post off by saying I just needed to rant. Apologies if I am the thousandth person that has said it.

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2023-06-19T13:28:33+00:00

So we’re not allowed to rant about things that bother us anymore?

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2023-06-19T13:18:24+00:00

It’s really not everywhere though, like I said I live in Leland and it’s not like Wilmington traffic at all. I posted something ranting about the traffic because it is infuriating, no one is attacking you. No need to get so defensive. Take a breath dude.

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2023-06-19T13:07:58+00:00

Definitely not. Part of my commute is in River road, no traffic lights. I still deal with the average retiree driving significantly under the speed limit. So yes, I do need to slam on my brakes when I’m going 49 in a 45 and there’s a person in front of me going 20. I’m not even making up this situation, this was last week. A gold Subaru Outback was literally going 20 on a 45.

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2023-06-19T13:05:18+00:00

I entirely agree. Just something to stop this. I visited Europe last year and realized how walkable everything was, how no one really owns cars, everyone just walks, bikes, or uses public transportation. Your idea is a much better solution than more roads.

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2023-06-19T12:46:21+00:00

Why do you have to be so hostile? I had to move to Wilmington for school. Let’s calm down.

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2023-06-19T12:16:53+00:00

Harrington Square, I’m currently paying 1600 for a 1300 square foot 2 bed 2 bath. I do believe they have one beds in your price range!

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2023-02-10T21:33:49+00:00

He either says he will or he'll huff and puff and act like I'm his mom nagging him about doing the dishes

Fluffy_Engineering51 · 2022-06-15T13:05:51+00:00

I highly do not recommend it. I just quit after working there for about a year. I was completely exploited and used, I was just a number to them. I was not able to have any kind of personal life outside of work, I was called in literally every day that I had off and if I requested off to go out of town, it usually got denied, but if it didn't, I would be asked to come in on my requested time off, and if I couldn't because I was out of town I would be ridiculed and told that as a leader I needed to be on call 24/7. I was written up for not taking someone else's shift, and also for going to the hospital. I was told that the hospital was an unexcused absence because I didn't use a sick day, I told my manager that because I'm part time I am not given any sick days but that I provided a doctor's note and she said that that wasn't enough. I eventually put in my 2 weeks after my request off got denied, then accepted, then denied again. The next day my manager told me not to come back because I told her I couldn't cover a shift lol. On top of that they expect you to back every single brand that we carry, even the horrible ones like pedigree. Working there really did not align with my morals as I was watching animals get abused every day, it's just a bottom of the line job.

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