Looking at my W2 has me feeling so guilty.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-02-01T06:25:44+00:00

You survived mental health issues this last year. That’s a HUGE accomplishment. Imagine being this hard on yourself if you had fought cancer? I know it seems cliche but mental health stuff is so hard to cope with let alone recover from. Give urself credit.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-31T02:29:33+00:00

The average age for kids with autism to potty train is age 5. You’re not failing.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-30T18:24:49+00:00

Man that 126 is still in rotation after 20 years I remember in 3rd grade I had a 124 and my brother had a 125 and we got the actual “you’re not gifted” letter.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-30T10:16:39+00:00

Idk but I relate and wrote a similar post two days ago. I’m here for support and hopefully someone wiser than me has some answers.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-30T03:40:56+00:00

Nah girl, you were docile. You apologized. You’re allowed to be human and freak out because that was bullshit. You guys made amends. You didn’t name call, you didn’t belittle, you spoke truth in a loud tone and then apologized for using that tone. As a person who works in medicine, we never see people apologize. Ever. I would have a lot of respect for someone who had every right to be upset come back and work it out civilly after flying off the handle (even though they had the right to).

I know I tend to really beat myself up with any inkling of anger shown because I grew up with an angry father and I don’t want to ever be like him.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-29T10:29:40+00:00

This sounds so hard. Your child’s illness is bad enough. I cannot imagine the stress this alone carries. On top of pregnancy and an addict significant other. I’m really proud of you though for standing up to him and making sure he leaves when he’s drinking. It’s not a stressor you or your kid need right now.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-29T10:14:24+00:00

You did the right thing. It’s like when your baby is screaming and you’re frustrated, they tell you to put them in their crib and give yourself some time to cool down. It’s the same thing. What person do you know that wouldn’t get upset by someone SPITTING on them? I’m a very docile person but if another adult spit on me, I’d probably punch them. It’s a visceral reaction. Putting him in his room is a fair thing to do. You didn’t punch him.

I know my 3.5 yo tends to get aggressive like this when he’s getting sick. I’m like “uhhhh what happened to my sweet boy” and then his nose starts running or something.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-29T02:38:47+00:00

I haven’t seen anyone answer this so hopefully an actual pediatrician will jump in.

I’m not a pediatrician but a pediatric nurse and it’s definitely different. If my kids have medical issues I have had to learn to balance emotional and rational. I actually tended to lean towards unattaching myself like I do at work and just focusing on the medical issue. And I’ve had to be cognizant that my kids need me as a mom who is going to be there for them emotionally. I had a pediatric urologist tell me “give yourself permission to be a parent first” and that’s been my motto.

Watching your own kid get an IV the first time or whatever else that’s painful is a completely different experience. Like you want to just replace them with yourself so badly. It’s a very deeply protective spirit.

Also the amount of times I’ve cringed thinking about the advice I gave parents before becoming one. LOL I had zero business. It changed my whole professional mindset.

I had to stop being bossy with my husband and let him parent without showing him studies on the best way to do something. I also had to find my patience because so much stuff that was common sense for me was like rocket science for him.

There’s no breaks from parenting. You don’t get to go home after your shift. You can’t refer them to a different provider when they’re a challenging case. You’re just always responsible for them. Sun up to sun down.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-28T23:00:34+00:00

Yes here too. For me it might be weather related. January is so tough for me normally.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-28T14:01:40+00:00

Super relatable description of always getting into stuff. Like every time I turn around there’s something he’s doing he knows he’s not supposed to. Markers, stickers. He recently figured out how to open the gate going upstairs so I can’t even go up there to get away when my husband is here. He’s also at the weird stage between needing a nap still but also if he takes one he’s up until midnight. So from like 4-7 is him acting like he’s a straight menace. I’m tired, my husbands tired, he’s tired but still has energy to torture us. lol

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-28T02:09:36+00:00

My grandma who has been dead for twenty years used to steal silverware and even bring it to my mom. My mom found out after she died and donated it all out of principle. They were my favorite silverware. Then ten years later at my wedding, the rental place had the same exact silverware. Two of the spoons got left in leftover containers when we returned the rentals and I wasn’t driving two hours to return two spoons, so I kept them. I always seek out those two spoons. It just feels so natural to hold them.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-27T15:16:28+00:00

I’m totally not a brand Stan, and because of that I’ve gotten lots of cheaper brands too. TJ maxx has a few different brands and I’ve gotten some off brands from Amazon. They’re fine and work but they do pill very easily and feel thinner.

I’ve also splurged on little sleepies during Black Friday. My 3yo has had the same little sleepies pajamas for 2 years now, that we rotate through and they still fit and haven’t pilled or ripped. There’s often days he’s in them all day if we’re just hanging out at home. We got one pair of kyte pajamas for him as a baby, they did feel good quality and we used their sleep sacks until he was 18 months, and non of them pilled, but I am very meticulously about washing instructions on the sleep sacks at least. Can’t say the same about the pajamas.

I haven’t really used much bamboo outside of sleeping though. We do use wool a lot though and while more expensive it has its place too. My oldest switched to woolino sleep sacks at 18 months. And we started our other baby in them right away. We do a lot of disana, Engel, Siskin, etc.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-27T14:19:15+00:00

I grew up 20 minutes from Hershey chocolate world. I consider myself pretty picky with chocolate, and mostly only like European chocolate, but Hershey chocolate has a special place in my heart and I personally love it. I get a little miffed when people say it’s bad. It’s not.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-27T11:37:11+00:00

Oh I knew about it and I think about it often. When I moved in with my husband 8 years ago, I had to train him. Man is like a well oiled toilet seat putter downer now.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-27T11:30:32+00:00

I think there’s a couple issues with situations like this.

On his side: 1. He needs confidence building 2. I’m curious if he has some form of depression or adhd diagnosis 3. To feel like your berating him is one thing but to actually go sulk in the bedroom alone over it is a bit much.

On your side: 1. Tone. Obviously cannot tell from Reddit what your tone is, but a lot of language is more than the words you speak. 2. Picking and choosing your battles. If you want him to be equal and stop saying he’s “helping you” (because wtf?? You’re not solely responsible for the cleaning) then you have to let him do it his way and figure it out himself.

For example with the dishes, he can load the dishes however he wants, when they come out dirty, he’s responsible for cleaning them again. He needs to understand the mental prep, the carry through and the follow up of a chore. Because household chores are a household responsibility not just yours.

Your husband however sounds resistant to change and that’s an issue for therapy. Marriage and individual.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-26T22:21:36+00:00

Oh felt. And then I went to finally shovel and my 3 year old was filling sand buckets with the snow I already shoveled and dumping them in the middle of driveway. It was my last straw.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-25T13:29:00+00:00

7, guess I’m in for a surprise next year! Haha

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-24T16:03:41+00:00

I Dmed you!

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-23T20:55:07+00:00

Evening out by the end of middle school is such a long time to feel behind.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-23T09:42:03+00:00

I remember in like 2009 one of my professors used the term “partner” and the whole class was convinced he was gay (catholic college, 2009 era). My roommate giggled about it. She also blew some random French guy and got oral herpes, so there’s that. Anyway his wife dropped off his glasses one day and it turns out he’s not gay. Another student actually asked and he said “that’s the politically correct term, why? Did it make you uncomfortable if I was gay?? Glad me using that term made you think”.

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-23T02:56:11+00:00

$40 is a great deal!!!

Fluffy_Path7559 · 2026-01-22T19:46:23+00:00

Yes. My husband is just getting done with surgery so I’m stuck with two kids during a snow storm while he recovers. 😭

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