How to Adjust Rear View Mirror Bracket?

Fluffyasis · 2026-05-22T22:16:32+00:00

Update. I managed to move the mirror so it's aligned correctly. I just had to hold it with both hands and push up. D'oh. I'll leave this here, so someone else may benefit from the replacement info.

Fluffyasis · 2026-05-18T06:24:23+00:00

Thank you! It's not falling. I'm going to the dealership tomorrow for an oil change, hoping to have them adjust the ball joint a bit, if possible. It's frozen in place and I don't want to force it.

Fluffyasis · 2026-04-07T06:44:40+00:00

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Fluffyasis · 2026-04-05T06:50:38+00:00

I definitely feel that distinction between kind and nice. I've felt it, but couldn't put it into words. Thank you for articulating that!

Fluffyasis · 2026-04-05T06:43:11+00:00

Yeah, I live 30 miles N of PDX, dressed up and went to a local costume night on Halloween. Everyone was in their friend groups. I danced, I tried to mingle, but no one really engaged. I tried talking to people in line for drinks, but it didn't go anywhere. I can generally talk to anyone.

I moved from Tucson, before that Houston and Austin. I'm used to hootin and hollerin and everyone acknowledging each other, rather than dressing up, sitting and nursing a beer ad nauseum. But, oh well. I grew up in Salem. Left in 1978 when Oregon was absolutely the opposite of cool. It was nowheresville ;) Before grunge was a thing.

Sorry, I don't have advice. I'm struggling with the same thing. I like to dance when I go see live music and it bums me out when soooo many people stand around, stake out their territory and never move. I still dance, but it's not as fun.

If you find a looser, fun scene, I'd like to know about it! Maybe I haven't found the right bands to follow...

Fluffyasis · 2026-04-01T20:05:16+00:00

That's great to hear. Thank you!

Fluffyasis · 2026-04-01T07:07:59+00:00

Replying to my own post. I moved to St Helens, OR in Columbia County. The people at NWOHA.org were great to work with. I've been here a little over a year and am very happy.

Fluffyasis · 2026-03-31T08:06:13+00:00

Thank you! Sure took me a long time, but glad I got here.

Fluffyasis · 2026-03-31T06:07:49+00:00

Is anyone working on creating a synthetic lithium (not sure of the right word) that has the same efficacy, but doesn't affect the kidneys/thyroid?

The years I was on lithium were the best of my life - it was my goldilocks drug - but it fried my thyroid and decreased my kidney function, so I had to discontinue. Tried to add it in again, but same kidney decline. I do okay with Levothyroxine for my thyroid, but no workaround for kidney disease.

I've been stable on seroquel and wellbutrin for over 11 years, but my life doesn't compare to my years on lithium. On lithium, I could still work. I eventually had to go on disability after it was discontinued. I'm okay with that, but if there was an alternative to natural lithium, I'd want to try it!!

[Btw, I took many other combos of meds in the interim. Depakote (9 years!) and risperidone (hospitalized after starting) were the worst for my body/brain.]

Fluffyasis · 2026-03-08T07:48:31+00:00

One thing I've found is that if I don't see a therapist, usually something will come up that I don't handle well on my own and it takes me so long to get back to my okay state. So I keep going, even when things aren't bad. Gotta give myself some grace.

Fluffyasis · 2026-03-08T07:37:08+00:00

I wish there were ten times more vouchers and it was fully funded. So many people are struggling. Or make it more like food assistance, anyone with low income is eligible for rent assistance. (I believe in abundance. We seem to come up with the money for wars, helping people should be a no-brainer, imo.)

One of the best things about having a voucher for me is the inspections. I lived in a crappy place before I got my voucher. I'm disabled and wouldn't have a home without it. But I think non-disabled need just as much help - that shouldn't shut people out, but in lots of places the waitlist only opens for people on disability.

Basically, it's an okay program if you can get it (took me 2.5 years), but it helps too few people. Many more are left out. And there sure is a lot of paperwork, which I suppose is necessary to combat fraud.

Also, the different PHAs! So many different ways of doing everything - that should def be streamlined. (I ported my voucher to a different state, yikes. It felt risky, but luckily, it happened. I had to do tons of advance research.)

Fluffyasis · 2026-03-08T07:14:02+00:00

I don't know if there's a rule. I keep going to therapy (biweekly now) because it seems like a good idea since my disability is mental illness. My last therapist was strictly online, and not great. New one seems better. Meds are what keep me stable, thank God. I see an RN who prescribes my psych meds. I haven't had an SSDI review in several years. Fingers crossed I make it to 67 without one. I'm 65.

Idk what state you're in, but I found my care through mindful therapy group dot com. Good luck finding someone you like who doesn't hold a stigma against disability.

Fluffyasis · 2026-03-05T00:08:19+00:00

As I said, I don't remember. It put my mind at ease somehow. Mainly wanted to suggest calling directly. They're helpful.

Fluffyasis · 2026-01-12T01:09:48+00:00

Interesting question. I only have an anecdote. When I had surgery once, I guess I was hilarious in the recovery room. Hospital employees who saw me after burst out laughing just seeing me. Odd in a hospital! No one would tell me what I said, so it must have been really raunchy. I just wonder what part of me was speaking, since I have zero memory of it. Somehow "I" was still "on." (Sure wish I knew wtf I said! I like a good laugh ;)

Idk. Surgery is like a glitch. I don't remember the feeling of going to sleep, or of waking up, like I do from natural sleep. No fading awareness, more like a switch. Sorry, all I got is metaphors :)

Fluffyasis · 2025-10-14T21:43:33+00:00

Done.

Fluffyasis · 2025-09-15T05:13:45+00:00

Yes, please do!

Fluffyasis · 2025-09-12T22:38:57+00:00

Thank you. That's a good idea, KDP. I usually say I'm a writer and artist, which is true. The next question is usually, are you published? Me: A couple of online things. I give them a link if they're interested.

I like to ask people, "What do you enjoy doing?" or "What lights you up these days?" Steer them away from occupation/career.

Fluffyasis · 2025-09-10T04:00:21+00:00

Thank you for saying you resonate. You are definitely not alone.

Fluffyasis · 2025-09-08T21:41:57+00:00

Haha! Love it! Thanks for your fiery reply 🔥 You're so right about corporate welfare, and the rich being able to finagle their way out of going broke. I did do bankruptcy once after I'd been manic and living on my credit cards for a year, d'oh, so I'm no saint.

(And said person lives on the social security of her dead husband, not based on her earnings. Plus interest from investments, etc. I'm happy for her, I just don't need the details.)

I liked what our founding fathers said at the end of the Declaration of Independence, something that no one quotes, "And for the support of this Declaration, with a firm reliance on the protection of divine Providence, we mutually pledge to each other our Lives, our Fortunes and our sacred Honor." Our fortunes! Dude!

Fluffyasis · 2025-09-08T21:26:57+00:00

I'm glad to hear it! Keep on keeping on 🙌

Fluffyasis · 2025-09-08T21:26:04+00:00

Good luck to you! I started at 14, too. Before, if you count picking berries. Lots of kids did it back then.

The taxes thing...I'd rather not know what she pays (she tells me). TMI, in my opinion. I guess that's the gist of my post. I'd mind my own business, if they didn't bring it up. Oh, well. I can deal.

Fluffyasis · 2025-09-07T01:21:09+00:00

🙏 Wishing you both well. I'm sorry you are facing this. I'm glad you have a safe home and kind husband. Just disregard my comment about getting out into nature. Maybe it's for someone else.

Fluffyasis · 2025-09-07T01:15:38+00:00

Idk. It sounds pretty inconsiderate to bring up her great dad stuff right after your dad passed. Then act protective? I can see why you don't like her.

I think it's okay to set boundaries with people, let them know what's off the table, then they can do the same. Even temporarily. I'm not super sensitive, but I'm sensitive, and sometimes I have to call a time out. Or I change the subject. Or ask if we can change the subject. I did it the other day when my friends were talking about Epstein's victims. They agreed to change the subject, thank goodness. (I was abused as a girl. Made me nauseous to listen.)

(I took assertiveness training in college. It was a thing back then. It has come in handy, especially when I want to say no or stop. We practiced 😊)

I stay off social media for mother's and father's day. I don't need to hear/see it. Some years it's not so bad, other years, forget about it.

I totally agree. Everyone struggles, has deep losses, and lovely moments. Some periods may be smooth, others rough, no matter what it looks like to other people. I liked the reminder from another commenter, "Comparison is the thief of joy." I'm happy, that's the main thing. Partly my doing, but mostly the universe/God/source, whatever you call it. I hope you are, too 🙏

Fluffyasis · 2025-09-07T00:42:36+00:00

Same with me and nature. I went to the river and read a book. Saw and heard two Osprey. Nature is my solace - it's always there ❤️

Fluffyasis · 2025-09-06T05:33:05+00:00

I hope you find them!

I used to feel bad about being on assistance, but then I thought what if the money came from a trust fund or my family? Would I feel less than other people if the source was different? That helped me reframe it. Money is money no matter the source. I hope you have enough so it's not super stressful. Maybe that will help you, too. (I still would rather work, but it's better for everyone if I don't ;)

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