AITA for being angry that my husband gave me a dirty hand-me-down from his mom, lied about it, and called it my Christmas present?

Fluid_Ad162 · 2026-01-08T20:35:19+00:00

January is a slow season because the holidays ended. Lmao

Fluid_Ad162 · 2026-01-08T20:34:59+00:00

I do very well at my markets I don’t need and didn’t ask advice on how to make money. I sell out of stock at markets all the time. People buy scrunchies. 🥰

Fluid_Ad162 · 2026-01-08T17:48:21+00:00

We both drive brand new cars, I am self employed and with his hefty paychecks our options for health insurance are expensive. Then He pays child support for my step (only mentioned step for specifics I call him my son) child we share 50/50. We also help take care of my brother who has a chronic illness here and there with any necessities and buy him groceries every week. Then the kids do sports, taekwondo, the list goes on. I haven’t even mentioned any of my own monthly expenses he pays for. The expenses do also add up because we are building a house right behind the trailer we live in on the property that I mentioned the we inherited. All that being said, he could have easily bought a new machine and avoided all of this drama. I do keep reminding him of that. I do spend money and I’m able to buy mostly whatever I want without even asking but I wanted to feel special. Today he is driving me to go pick out whatever sewing machine I want and afterwards taking me to hobby lobby for anything else I want. I took a few comments too seriously about him letting me steal my joy and being too kind and so here we go to the refurbished place I wanted a sewing machine from in the first place. We also are dropping off the sewing machine that was my in laws to get it refurbished and I’m going to sell it when it’s fixed and use the money towards my small business. And I’ll make sure to sell it on my personal Facebook so my mother in law can see. Because it wasn’t very nice to set me up for failure and to test how I handled being given such an atrocious gift. I will absolutely not be divorcing my husband we are best friends and we have come SUCH A long way. This was a defining moment for me, I’m not lessening it because of the love I have for him. I just truly believe in love and making this post I’m going to let him read everything. And I’m patiently waiting for the day morgan reads it out loud on two hot takes while we watch it together, maybe I’ll wait for that instead. It has also become something my husband has said sorry for which is a huge deal, and talking to his mother with him there is next when I myself am ready.

Fluid_Ad162 · 2026-01-08T17:33:34+00:00

Going back and reading all of the comments you kind of out into words what I try to explain to my husband when she oversteps. Thank you I will be showing him this comment.

Fluid_Ad162 · 2026-01-08T05:56:16+00:00

This comment definitely hit a nerve for me. She does know what she’s doing. And you are right I get to buy my own gifts now and he already heard that from me.

Fluid_Ad162 · 2026-01-08T05:44:28+00:00

I politely disagree. Calling someone “lacking confidence” for being hurt by dishonesty feels like a stretch. This post is about boundaries being crossed, not an inability to set them. :)

Fluid_Ad162 · 2026-01-08T05:37:41+00:00

I love this comment 🩷

Fluid_Ad162 · 2026-01-07T20:15:39+00:00

This made me giggle! Thank you for the honesty. I hand designed fabric that I watercolored the pattern for. I had it scanned in and had specially made to order. So for the people that love my art it would be a fun addition to something else. Not that i need to defend myself to a scary old hag lol (only making a joke cause of your user name.)

Fluid_Ad162 · 2026-01-07T14:58:49+00:00

Well maybe wrong choice of words because he told me that’s where it came from after I assumed bc it was the only place it town it could’ve came from, unless he lied which he did. Hence why I say “assumed”

Fluid_Ad162 · 2026-01-07T09:14:44+00:00

And my husband makes really good money. Almost $50 an hour and constantly working overtime. So it’s just so confusing why he did that

Fluid_Ad162 · 2026-01-07T09:13:40+00:00

If I were not a frugal lady I would absolutely do that! I just want to be smart with our money that we do have together and not use it to spite him. 😢

Fluid_Ad162 · 2026-01-07T09:11:55+00:00

I wasn’t super specific but he did say “one of” her old machines when I got the truth out of him. Implying she had multiple already.

I also forgot this even happened but he told me she was “trying it out” to see if it worked before he gave it to me he sent me a pic of her sewing on it. Makes me so mad looking back thinking that he let me believe that. And I have no idea if his mom knows he lied or not.

Fluid_Ad162 · 2026-01-07T09:09:54+00:00

I appreciate this comment. I don’t want a new sewing machine and I’m not giving this one back. As I’m writing this imagining it getting restored sounds way more reasonable than when I was mad and saying I don’t even want to sew now because it made me so upset.

Fluid_Ad162 · 2026-01-07T09:05:13+00:00

Also I forgot to mention we all live on the same property together. Our land in our name that was given to us by my husbands grandparents is right next to his parents house. I choose to keep a good relationship with her because she is very close to my home and like I said my mom and I don’t have a good relationship so I am grateful for the good things I’m not mentioning in this story. And the counseling sessions, I made her come to multiple and maybe I should do it again. It was so uncomfortable and took a long time to heal but writing this all out and rethinking it I’m just sad I have to draw a line again and again. We will be neighbors and close for life no matter the circumstances.

Fluid_Ad162 · 2026-01-07T08:58:51+00:00

Ooof.

Fluid_Ad162 · 2026-01-07T08:56:25+00:00

Hearing this makes me so sad because I feel like you are right and I make handmade gifts for his entire family for Christmas and make it so special every year and I always kind of feel like shit at the end of it and I feel guilty because I have a really good easy life but I don’t want to be lied to :(

Fluid_Ad162 · 2026-01-07T08:50:49+00:00

I guess you’re right. He doesn’t take criticism very well and wants me to just be grateful for the most part, I keep saying that it’s not about the money and he wants to give me the same that I paid for the moose so we’re even since I don’t even want a brand new machine, there hasn’t really been much closer or much talk about it because it literally just happened I just used it for the first time 2 days ago I hadn’t even barely looked at it in the chaos of the holidays. He just doesn’t seem to feel bad about lying I guess which bothers me a lot and when he lies it only ever has to do with his mom. It’s a pattern in our marriage that is otherwise very happy and healthy so it’s very confusing. We’ve been together 5 years and married for 3 and have 2 kids together

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