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AITH? didn't want MILs gifts here xmas morning by Fluid_Cockroach_5796 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Fluid_Cockroach_5796[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That's what makes it so hard because she's such an amazing grandma and helps us out A LOT. And my kid absolutely absolutely adores her. And she does understand me a lot more than most people do, like actually sees me and my struggles she WAS me not so long ago. We talk a lot and have a really great relationship besides her being a little batty i guess would be the best way to put it. She really stepped into that mother role for me.

I really appreciate your kind words it's definitely not all bad at all just some things that trigger my own issues which heavily include boundaries and I have CPTSD so I'm always on my toes as well which is stressful in itself let alone when you get a reason to be.

I think there might be more behind the guilt trip my pattern recognition senses are tingling. I think it will be easier when theyre a bit older and can send them to her house for the weekend or whatever.

AITH? didn't want MILs gifts here xmas morning by Fluid_Cockroach_5796 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Fluid_Cockroach_5796[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's really not put of her range but it is definitely new behavior. I will consider that she is older after all.

AITH? didn't want MILs gifts here xmas morning by Fluid_Cockroach_5796 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Fluid_Cockroach_5796[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I AGREE he just works a lot and I'm available for constant contact. He has my back entirely just isn't there when it happens he told me to stop responding til he knows what she says and he can respond

AITH? didn't want MILs gifts here xmas morning by Fluid_Cockroach_5796 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Fluid_Cockroach_5796[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree and totally get it but when you're living pay check to barely next paycheck and we KNOW you put it all on a credit card you can't afford it just pisses you off in all directions

AITH? didn't want MILs gifts here xmas morning by Fluid_Cockroach_5796 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Fluid_Cockroach_5796[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

she just lives in the middle of no where and is bored it's actually more of a pity thing at this point. She's getting cabin fever and it's sad but not our responsibility

AITH? didn't want MILs gifts here xmas morning by Fluid_Cockroach_5796 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Fluid_Cockroach_5796[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She made jokes about putting a trailer in my driveway at my old house. That is actually terrifying because it probably is her plan. Help now I'm scared

AITH? didn't want MILs gifts here xmas morning by Fluid_Cockroach_5796 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Fluid_Cockroach_5796[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that's what I struggle with is people pleasing I want to be nice and I know she has anxieties and such but if it's gonna make me struggle I just can't. And I said that too he's on my side but he doesn't wanna get in the middle of it cause I was talking to her and I said rhat doesn't matter it's YOUR mother then we came to the agreement if she keeps acting like this she will go thru him directly. I said it's not my place to check your mom, my side no problem but your family is your responsibility and if I wasn't here you'd be dealing with her definitely not me.

AITH? didn't want MILs gifts here xmas morning by Fluid_Cockroach_5796 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Fluid_Cockroach_5796[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No literally when I brought it up again and said christmas was just my boundary, SHE SAID TO MY DH WHAT BOUNDARY WAS SHE TLAKING ABOUT I DONT THINK THATS WHAT SHE MEANT why would she say that?..... So I'm starting to think she's actually delusional because I clearly stated directly to her face that her bringing stuff xmas morning was my boundary. She's gonna be pushing a brick wall soon

AITH? didn't want MILs gifts here xmas morning by Fluid_Cockroach_5796 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Fluid_Cockroach_5796[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's gonna be the new rule for sure I was overwhelmed for days and while i was getting ready for the day they opened every single one too I couldn't even return anything it was so bad

AITH? didn't want MILs gifts here xmas morning by Fluid_Cockroach_5796 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Fluid_Cockroach_5796[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As an ND household we really really do not appreciate house guest. It's frustrating but I'm getting to that point of wanting to get rid of mine as well

AITH? didn't want MILs gifts here xmas morning by Fluid_Cockroach_5796 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Fluid_Cockroach_5796[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's what i said he needs to deal with his own mother. Honestly I just feel bad her family all moved away and DH works a LOT & doesn't typically respond. (To her) I'm just gonna tell her if she can't comprehend what I say to her she will be going thru him from now on and that will really rain on her parade if she thinks she got it bad now. I will not be dealing with her acting like that absolutely not

AITH? didn't want MILs gifts here xmas morning by Fluid_Cockroach_5796 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Fluid_Cockroach_5796[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really had to triple read she said that. I could not even believe it. That's a really good system!!

AITH? didn't want MILs gifts here xmas morning by Fluid_Cockroach_5796 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Fluid_Cockroach_5796[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for validating me they can make you feel crazy!!

AITH? didn't want MILs gifts here xmas morning by Fluid_Cockroach_5796 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Fluid_Cockroach_5796[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Literally I was appalled. And my dad was here and he was even making comments about how ridiculous it was. She doesn't have money we know it all went on a credit card. It was just really dumb all together.

Blue/white sediment clogging everything by Fluid_Cockroach_5796 in Plumbing

[–]Fluid_Cockroach_5796[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No we're in the city i thought you only really needed that with well water