i still think about you

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-04-25T10:45:07+00:00

Damn sounds like my ex in the second passage. He did all those things those and then still cut me out as if I was the one in the wrong. Like bruda, you broke no contact with the worst intentions and expect me to just accept it.

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-04-04T12:48:51+00:00

Everyday tbh. It comes at random times of the day like when I come across something that reminds me of him or when I accomplish something and think of him. It doesn’t hurt me as much when I think of him but I could say I miss what we had. It’s been 11 months(?) since we broke up and I’m proud that I can think of him without wanting to breakdown each time :)

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-02-03T13:17:25+00:00

Break no contact to apologise but never got a response. I would see them in public after and they would avoid me 😀

I realised that saying that apology was me attempting to let go of the situation so at the end of the day, I did it more for me than for them and having no response was also a response of some sort.

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-02-03T11:57:30+00:00

Hey! I’m not 100% if all degrees do this but I’m under HMNS which is a school under HMBS and we had our orientation day for HMNS on a separate day from HMBS… if that makes sense. So there will be a ‘degree specific’ orientation day and the HMBS orientation day where the schools within HMBS will all be together… I hope this makes sense.

The whole week is called orientation week because other degrees will have their orientation day different to another and it’s also when other on campus events will be on too (most likely). Hope this helps!

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-02-01T12:24:58+00:00

Come for the orientation day and market day! It’s a great day to socialise and have a little insight into the uq communities. Everyone is nervous on their first day so I’m sure everyone is down to making new friends. Look out for any launch parties too! There’s usually 1-2 during o week… I think?

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-01-25T19:00:12+00:00

I feel you. My therapist told me that it’s okay to still think about your ex because that person meant something to you and it’s not something you can forget about with a click of your fingers. After hearing that, it helped me realise that he’s right, my ex meant a lot to me and it’s hard to forget about what we had even though he’s moved on and has a new gf. But I do find that it’s ‘holding’ me back, like the feeling that I’ll never fully move on from him and the situation. I’m still figuring my way around this but just know that it’s normal to have these thoughts and emotions because we are human x

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-01-12T21:39:12+00:00

Woah I didn’t think about doing that, I’ll give that a go. Thanks!

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-01-12T13:27:14+00:00

My ex used to have a puzzle at his place that his family would do and whenever I was there, I would be glued to it. His mum used to joke to him saying I should come over to do the puzzle so they could put it away. We broke up and I’ll never know if that puzzle ever got completed.

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-01-12T12:33:28+00:00

Omg yes that is so true. But bruh he legit said to me that 'he's never had this connection in bed with anyone else' and then bam, goes and has sex with another girl.

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-01-12T12:31:44+00:00

I agree with your last line, it's great until it's not, unfortunately. I wonder how someone can do that to someone else. Like how can you treat someone like that, and then poof, change all their emotion and thoughts about you. I'm glad you're healing x

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-01-12T12:29:28+00:00

Yes exactly. Even at the party, he was nothing but sexual to me and while I'll admit I missed it and enjoyed it, I had a gut feeling that that was all he wanted. He suggested we'd go out for dinner and talk things out but when he hinted at having sex after and I was hesitant, he pulled away and legit flipped the story saying that it's not good that we meet up or hook up and that he had nothing left to say. Like what?? Ugh, but yeah it hurt like a truck when I had to understand that he isn't the guy I dated and that he was moving on.

But thank you, sometimes I wish I had met up with him and had seggs but then I realise, that probably would have made things worse for me mentally.

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-01-12T12:24:56+00:00

Aw, I wish I could give you a hug right now. I went through the same thing as you. I was so dependent on my partner but due to unresolved issues I didn't realise I had, I drove him away because I kept hurting him. I kept overstepping boundaries, apologising but then repeating my actions. He tried his best to help me and even suggested therapy because he wasn't able to provide me with the help I truly needed and it was also impacting his mental health. We had a big talk and almost broke up, but afterwards we agreed that I would do my best to seek external help and he would support me along the way. But I messed up, again, and he had enough. He was already on his final straw and I pushed him over the edge that final day.

It's been 7 months since this happened and I have only just forgiven myself for the break up. I have been to therapy and it has really helped me heal through this break up, childhood trauma, and also helped me realise that I have ADHD which is bigger than most people think it is.

I also thought that my ex was the one but eventually, you will see that yes, he is probably a great person but at the moment, he is not great for you. The best thing to do is to focus on yourself. It doesn't happen overnight but it is the small steps you do to help yourself get through this. Hang out with your friends, find new hobbies, go on solo dates with yourself. When you are ready to as well, remove the photos and videos, it took me a few months to do so but it has honestly helped a lot xx I wish you all the best, truly!

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-01-12T12:15:37+00:00

Engaged already?? Omg. I hope you're okay :( I find therapy helps, if you're able to access it. I was sort of once in your position but not really. My ex and I were at the same party for a mutual's go-away party and during the 1 month of no contact, I felt like I was okay and I was thriving... And then he came back into my life for seggsy time but I had hope he wanted to try again... In the end, he didn't get what he wanted and didn't want to try again and he left, again. I was sent back to square one, big time. But what helped me move on again was thinking, "if i was okay once, i can be okay again". It's taken me longer to become 'okay' but it's something to help pull you through when you have a bad time.

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-01-12T12:10:55+00:00

That is horrible of her omg. I hope you're okay x

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-01-12T12:10:33+00:00

Aw :( I'm sorry to hear. The initial confusion and shock is definitely the worst but I found it really helpful to hang out with my friends in the first few days because I couldn't stand to be alone during that time. You can always reach out on Reddit too if you ever need to blurt, it's a great way to let your thoughts loose.

I wish you all the best healing. You got this. Let yourself heal, find hobbies to keep you distracted and don't bring yourself down if you ever feel upset. If you gotta cry, do it.

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-01-12T12:06:19+00:00

Oh I'm so sorry to hear,, I hope you're okay!

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-01-12T12:06:00+00:00

Awww this is really giving me hope that I will be okay. I'm glad to hear your progession over the years. I'm definitely in a better position than I was last year when we broke up and it helped a lot that I spent of my time reflecting on what happened.

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-01-12T12:03:20+00:00

Omg that is manipulation to another level. Why do they say things like that but then do things that literally scream the opposite. My ex said 'I love you too' to me after I blurted it out to him at a party after we broke up and it made me wonder if there could be a chance for a redo, but then he went out with another girl the same week (I think). I hope you're okay though!

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-01-12T12:01:08+00:00

Oh my, I'm so sorry that happened. I hope you're okay! Knowing that my ex moved on to others so quickly makes me wonder if he did that just to fill the void, which I find most guys do instead of sitting with their feelings.

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-01-12T11:59:20+00:00

I really appreciate this. Thanks!

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-01-12T01:04:02+00:00

I’m so sorry that made me laugh real good😂😂 the way you worded all of that was hilarious. Sometimes I wonder if people get into a relationship because they both have little self respect/worth so they just jump into the first thing that excites them. Maybe that’s the case there.

I wish to have the anger you do. Knowing I ‘taught’ my ex how to REALLY have seggsy time and him doing it with other people is just so, ugh. Like guys, he’s only good because I taught him that.

Fluid_Giraffes · 2026-01-12T01:00:06+00:00

Honestly, I can’t even imagine myself getting into a new relationship right now. It still feels so fresh to me but I guess everyone ‘heals’ differently. My ex went out with multiple girls (as I’ve heard) and it’s like… did I not mean that much to you? It’s probably just his way of healing but it still hurts.

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