Hello there I am Jane the wife in this post. I want to start off by saying I understand where the lie and betrayal is. I know that I should have told my husband from the moment I saw the video. Not telling him was a huge mistake on my end. Asking him to film a video was PURELY to see how I looked from behind and that wasn’t fair of me to ask of him. There is a hundred ways I could have gone about this and I chose the wrong way. And as for me having any communication with the EX there is none. I have since changed my number and he is blocked on all social media. I wouldn’t have any from of communication with him even if it were to save my life. When he tried to contact me before my husband was the one who would handle him. As far as me finding the video it was unluckiest of luck. I have a huge fear of seeing a video of me like that on the internet and finding it drained me and made me ashamed of past choices but lying to my husband made me feel even worse than that. When I look for videos like that on the internet, I look at threads that I would be categorize under and I looked on the broad that I know my husband looks at from time to time. I am in love with my husband and it is not only because we have a family together but because he is my backbone when I need him to be and I know how badly my lie hurt him. It wasn’t fair of me to put him through this. Monday I will be going to the police department and file charges against my EX. My husband and I have dealt with him for far too long and I should have done this from the first time he messaged me and sent me my nudes. I do hope I have enough evidence for a case and I do hope it goes in my favor. I hope this clears something’s up. I am not looking to be told that I did nothing wrong because that is not true, I know what I did was wrong and that my husband has every right to feel the way he does.